Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

[boycie]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

tawny hahaha love it mate, it sure is my daughter looks like that often

[I Like Brandy]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

boycie, imatree, tawnyfrog, CG, Flip, Luvual, Bak310, Padme Nancy, Iced and MDbiker:

Thanks for the support, I just know that the drinking for me has to stopped. I've done abs before, and now here I go again.

One thing that bothers me is abs for how long? Moderation has become only a way to slow down the pace.

:h Brandy

[MDBiker]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

For me it is abs for a long time. A long time or I will be drunk again I am sure

[diamond]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

I tried moderation - but that pink champagne just made me want more and more.

I too cannot stop at 1, 2, 3 or 4 or 44.

I am now on abstainance for the forseeable future, we are in this together, is anyone starting a July abs thread ?? Please.

[southernbelle47]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?


Hi Brandy......So sorry about that!
I can be very blunt even without something to drink!

:welcome: back..

:l Nancy Southern"belle"...

[cassy]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

My attempt at mods is going ok but early days...no weekday drinking is still working including friday nights...i actually dont think mods is possible for problem drinkers BUT i am not ready yet on my journey to do NO BOOZE....look at people on here doing mods and read ..it seems its one long series of slips and worries.

Mods is better than daily booxzing i was doing so for now thats as much as i can do..

sorry about the embarrasment ..maybe remebering it will help with not drinking too?

Cassy

[Mags]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

Brandy
I can be either an ab or a drunk - nothing in between. Some of us are just like that. I know it is much easier for me to have 0 drinks than it is for me to have 1 or 2. That's just the way I am. I cannot moderate. It is easier for me to abstain - so I can and will - for how long? Forever, I hope. I can live better without it than I can with it (alcohol, that is), so I prefer to live without it. Sounds so easy, doesn't it??? Yea, right. It's so hard every day. But learn to accept reality - you can't do it - just like a friend of mine who can't eat peanuts or some other foods or he goes to the emergency room in anaphalactic shock. There are just some things some of us can't do. It's really not that bad. (just Hell at times :upset: - but only sometimes ).
Take good care of yourself.
:h

[DiverRob]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

Hey Brandy, I think it's the same for me. I'm learning that mods is okay for a couple days, but it just seems that every time I drink it wittles down the self control I've built up through abs, and within a couple days I'm back to where I started - incredible cravings and uncontrollable drinking.

Hang in there, you're not alone!

[Flip]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

If you want an indication of how long you should be Abs, ask yourself one thing.....

"How long is a piece of string?"

You will know it when you get there. For me, at this stage, it's probably never. I'm not willing to be a drunk again just for the sake of a couple of drinks.

[Flip]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

A great post has just gone up on the General Discussion and LTA called 14 months AF.... have a read.....

[beatle]

Moderation No longer works for me, how about you?

i'm in with the abs not mod group.

i have gone AF for a few weeks at a time and then tried to ease into moderation -- at least 10 times. it just doesn't work (for me). i know it is genetic and there is nothing i can do about it. and, really, it easier to just not drink than to drink a little and try to control it. however, some problem drinkers that don't have the genetic problem (that makes it impossible to stop drinking) have just learned bad habits or gotten into bad patterns that they can change with therapy and/or spiritual work. (They are actually alcohol abusers, not alcoholics.)