One Step at a Time - November 2015

[abcowboy]

Nora, Wayne Gretzky day!! Congratulations!! :hug:

[fennel]

Welcome back, Liz! I'm glad you had a great time, although the delay must have been a pain.

Pauly, I'm all screwed up with daylight savings stuff, too. I wish we'd just leave the time alone.

Rusty, I love the twin cities...plus other parts of MN.

Nora, I hope you had a good time last night!

I had nightmares all night about today's meeting with the attorneys. I dreamed that J started smoking cigs, so I took it up, too...for one day! In my dream, J was acting distant and I asked her if she hated me. She replied that she didn't hate me, but by the time the divorce is done, we'd both hate each other. You know how dreams are- the emotions are so much more intense and I was crying and feeling the depths of sadness in the dream. It was just more of the same all night long. : (

[fennel]

Nora, Wayne Gretzky day!! Congratulations!! :hug:

Geez, there's a day for everybody and everything, it seems!

[mama bear]

Het peeps....sorry I was for the weekend....just not much to say right now....But I am ok and it's a new week.....I was up at 7 applying for unemployment - I needed a new PIN number and took a week of being on hold for hours at a time to get a human to answer and help me.
Hugs to all.....glad you are home lizz...off to read back for a bit

[mama bear]

Ya'll cracked me up with the Unemployed costume....and that's pretty much how I look,,,,
Fenny - that would suck if you were allergic to cats as much as you love them

[NoraC]

Fen- I hate those dreams. They are so draining and you just wake up exhausted and sad. :hug:

Mama - been thinking about you so much but wanted to give you space. :hug;

Liz - so glad to see you and can't wait to hear about the trip.

Pauly I have mondayitis too. YUCK!

Cowboy- Does Wayne Gretzy have a 99 or something? Sorry - don't get the connection. :glee:

[abcowboy]

Okay ladies, we Canadians take our hockey and curling serious, just like baseball and football south of 49! Wayne Gretzky (Edmonton Oilers) and Gordey Howe (Detroit Red Wings) were and are undoubtedly the greatest hockey players that ever skated, so far anyway! Even my Calgarian friend Narily would agree with me on that one lol.

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Wayne Gretzky was referred to as The Great One, so up in my parts where people live and breathe hockey in the winter, whenever we are having a great day, we refer to it as a Gretzky Day! And I can't think there's a better Gretzky day as you celebrating your 99th day of sobriety! Well, maybe tomorrow might top it by a bit haha. Enjoy your day my friend!

Fen, hope all goes well with the lawyer. Been there, done that, and there's nothing pretty about it. But one day you will look back and realize it was almost the best thing that happened to you :hug:

Have a Gretzky day Steppers!

[NoraC]

Thanks cowboy!

[NoraC]

Fen - what time is your appointment??? Please let us know. Sending you lots of positive thoughts. :hug: :hug:

[mama bear]

yes Fenny - please check in
I have been a slug all day....depressed I guess. I have been watching mindless tv and Netflix all day....
I am soooooooo bored.
Go to know about Wayne Gretzky
Thanks for the love Nora....this too shall pass

[NoraC]

Mama - of course you are depressed. :hug:

[mama bear]

Yes, Nora and shell shocked. I still cannot believe this has happened. I have six weeks pay coming to me and that's it. I have filed for unemployment, too. Sweet Nana is there for us, so that's a comfort. She is a last resort.
I have played the conversation over and over and in my head and Bret and I have analyzed it to death. I am waiting for a phone call today and I have a coffee meeting Friday.
I may have to rent a car for a few days b/c when the tire blew out it ripped the goose neck thingy that you put the gas pump nozzle in when you dispense gas . So I have 1/8th of a tank of gas. The tire is fixed but I cannot drive until Bret finds the goose neck thingy (which is no longer made as the car is so old).
Fen - please check in.....I don't want this to be all about me these days. Dottie- you are off playing checkers for days......I want details!
Hi AB - you feel like family now!
Nora - is your Mom with you yet?

[fennel]

Thanks for expanding on "Wayne Gretzky" day, Cowboy...I was going to point out your mistake, as yesterday was aviation day. One of our radio stations played only songs with the words fly or flight in them. Amazing how many there are!

[abcowboy]

Aw shucks mama, thank you! And thanks to all of you for putting up with my ramblings :hug:

[fennel]

Yesterday went better than I'd imagined it would.

Mrs. Fen texted me yesterday and I told her about my nightmares. She didn't understand why I'd be having dreams like that, lol. She's the one who left, so she doesn't quite carry the emotional baggage that I do. Anyway, by the time I got to my attorney's office, J was there, but in the restroom. J's attorney wasn't there yet, so my attorney's assistant asked if I'd be okay in the same room alone with J. I was surprised and said "of course". Assistant looked shocked and said a lot of people had issues with it. I felt badly and thanked her for asking me. She'd put me on one side of the table and when she brought J in, she set her on the opposite side. We hugged and J suggested I sit next to her. I told her we'd been "placed" on opposite sides. She said "They're trying to divide and conquer", lol. I went and sat next to her and it was sort of fun to see the shocked look on our attorney's faces as they came into the room and saw what we'd done. They sat next to each other opposite us.

J's attorney was a bit of a jerk to me, but I expected that from our last meeting. He's fairly new to "collaborative" divorce and tends to get positional, but my gal promptly reined him back in. He said that I'm the main barrier to the progression of things because I don't have a job. Thanks, dick wad. I'm not even completely cleared to be back in the work force, although I'm only a couple of weeks away. I told them that I'm working on a resume with J's H.R. person and working with both MATC and Dane Cty. Jobs with counselors. I told them I'd applied at FedEx, but as soon as the interviewers laid eyes on me, it was probably abundantly clear that I couldn't live 75 lbs.

All in all, it was very civilized. I actually felt better after, rather than worse.