One Step at a Time - November 2015

[Rusty]

Hi Everybody,

Awww....Fenny...the 7 deadly sins, really? Huh? What is the point? I am with you! OMG don't take away lust! I love lust! Hahaha

Pauly-yup, I remember the movie, "Seven" with Brad Pitt. The obese guy was murdered because gluttony is one of the 7 deadly sins, along with Sloth, Lust, Greed....Hahahahah. Sorry Kell won't listen. Hope you have a good day.

Mama-sweet pea. Do you like working from home? I know I do.

Liz-Ouch! I broke my pinky in a fall about a year and a half ago and it STILL hurts every now and then. Sorry to hear about the no-go to the football game for Erin. That really sucks.

Nora-I hope your mom is settling in. You have been in my thoughts. HUGS!

I have a friend I see about once a year. She has been sober for about 12 years and she is high maintenance, so I spend very little time with her. She had several addictions going at once...AL, weed....anorexia. I am feeling conflicted about her because her active alcoholic sister (in denial..loves drinking...won't quit) and she and their other sister, sober for 13 years...went on vacation together. Her sober sister chose to drink after being sober for 13 years and my friend said, "I knew she would drink," and I was really disappointed in my friend. I think she should have encouraged her sister to maintain her quit, and she didn't! I have distanced myself from this friend and have considered cutting her off altogether for quite some time. Just because someone is sober, it doesn't mean that I want to spend much time with them.
Just venting...oops...getting ready to land. I'll be back later. Ugh...it's supposed to be bumpy. I should have peed a little while ago. Hahaha. Back later, friends. Kisses and hugs to all of you!

[fennel]

Liz, please check in...I am worried about you. :hug:

Pauly, I hear you. And yeah, I over eating is one of the sins...heck, everybody does that once in a while, especially on Thanksgiving. I know it's about trying to make ourselves into better people, but we're people...not perfect.

Rusty, I'm with you where lust is concerned, LOL! We have to get it while we can. Sorry about your friend. I think I would distance myself a bit, too.

[Lizann]

Thanks fen, but I'm ok. Still in a bit of a funk, though. I managed to keep busy today. Took Lucy out for a walk as it was so beautiful. Hubby should be home soon. He texted, they caught no fish. I bought myself a sweater today, it looks I almost identical to one I wore when I was pregnant with Erin. Lol, I should've kept it.
Fen, I would just skip this book if you don't like it. You should be enjoying this, me thinks.
Rusty, I would distance myself from her too. Hope the landing was ok. Enjoy your time away.
CJ just came up to watch jeopardy with me, so I'll check in later.

[fennel]

Glad you're hanging in there, Liz. Good that it was so nice where you are! Grey and gloomy and chilly here. Supposed to snow next weekend.

[paulywogg]

I hate watching jeopardy Liz,I do good then end up feeling dumb haha

[NoraC]

Hello everyone - had a good first day. Mom seems to feel at home. Seems happy and that is all that I wanted. I'm so sorry that I haven't been around for everyone. I will be back regularly as soon as possible.
Tomorrow is court day. So, I'm anxious tonight but I am doing well.

Liz - is your finger broken?

Fen - book club sounds fun but not that book.

:hug: I don't know how to tell you all what all your support has meant to me. You have helped me get thru this alcohol free. I was thinking today how grateful I am that I am not drinking.

[fennel]

Wish me luck this morning...I have a job interview in a few.

[paulywogg]

Morning peeps good luck Fen! Nora,glad moms adjusting good,have a great day everyone

[mama bear]

God Luck Fenny!!
Rusty, do what you feel is best. You will do the right thing.
Nora, sorry if I am being intrusive, but I saw that post on FB from someone about your Mom coming to stay with you and it made me livid.
I am in a lot of pain. I may have cracked rib, so I just dosing up with ibuprofen.
OUCH!

[fennel]

What did the post say, Mama? Nora, is someone messing with you?

I'm so sorry about your potential rib fracture.

Nora, I think your mom will thrive with you...there's always somebody around who can keep her company and keep her mind working. It's really good for older folks to work on word search games and what have you...can she still do things like that?

Pauly, I hope you had a good day. :hug:

Well, my day was quite annoying. I got to my interview ten minutes early, and someone at the front desk sat me down with tons of paperwork and skill tests to perform. Much of the paperwork was redundant (info I'd submitted to them online) which immediately ticked me off. The skills test included a math test...well, let's just say I suck at math. I know I got some stuff correct. A filing test, etc. By the time I was finished, it was past 9:30, which was my interview time. When I got back to my interviewer, I told her I'd arrived ten minutes early, but hadn't been informed that I would be taking a skills test, etc. It was her job, but I left that out of my statement, lol.

I was halfway through the interview when she told me she needed to see two forms of identification. My driver's license wasn't enough. Well, I don't carry my SS card on me and in fact, it is back at my old house. Somewhere. We had to stop the interview and reschedule the second half for this afternoon. I scurried to J's place and tore through a ton of her files...nada. Tore apart all my drawers in the bedroom...nada. Went back and found an obscure file in her desk (along with an empty wine bottle?) that contained my birth certificate and my SS card. I was sweating bullets, I tell ya.

I just had enough time to go home, shower and get to a meeting. After the meeting, I went back and changed and headed out for part deux, or "duh", as I prefer to say about this whole clusterf*xated situation. The second half went well. Of course, I agreed to random drug/alcohol tests for the position (a tiny bit worried, as both my friends smoke weed, but I stay down in the basement when they do). I was annoyed to discover the position was part time...the one I submitted my app for was from 6:30 a:m to 2:00 p:m. That position must have been filled. J's H.R. person told me to apply for part time work anyway, as they might fall in love with me and promote me to full time, and I might be able to pick up other employee's hours. So I went ahead and did that.

The interviewer was about twelve years old, but very nice.

I am finally feeling that things are beginning to come together for me a bit.

Thanks for listening, my peeps.

[NoraC]

Mama - your are not being intrusive at all. I was so pissed off about the Facebook thing. My one niece started the thing which I wasn't happy with (I think she has changed some of her wording around now so it doesn't sound so bad) but at least my nephew wrote & clarified what his sister meant. But then my brother's ex-wife had to poke her nose into things and made those unnecessary comments about Alzheimer's patients and moving them and being violent. it's NONE of her business! They have been divorced for 30+ years.
She blocked me a couple years ago on facebook because I deleted a stupid comment she made on a post I had made. But, my other niece that lives nearby told me what her mom had written.

[NoraC]

Fen - Oh my gosh! Seriously, they didn't tell you to bring 2 ID's? Stupid. Plus, all those tests and stuff. I suck at math too. I'll keep positive thoughts.

This is what was put on Facebook. My niece wrote this but it has been changed a little from the original post I read. She originally was going on about how it isn't fair and she shouldn't move, etc. But, she went in and changed it to this:

Today is the day my grandma travels back to California. As much as I understand why this needs to happen, my heart hurts. She should be able to stay in her home and shouldn't be going through the loss of her memories. I hate that life has turned out this way for her. My grandma is the most amazing woman I have ever known. I pray this will be an easy transition not only for her, but the rest of my family.t

Then her Mother (brother's ex-wife) wrote this:

I hope all goes well for Grandma, I have seen the opposite happen while working with seniors with early stages of dementia and alzheimers taking the sweetest of people from their familiar surroundings only makes them hard to handle, some even got physical. I pray that all goes well for your grandma and dad.

Then my cousin wrote this:

My dad just moved back down here. Some thought it was the wrong move. He is doing so great! And I think my Auntie Jen will too! My cousin Dave has done amazing with his mom and my dad. I owe him so much! Time for him!!! Nothing but positive thoughts here. Visit your family as much and as soon as you can. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. We all know this too well. Love y'all my family!

It just pissed me off that bitch had to get involved. None of her effin business.

[NoraC]

The quote from me ex SIL might not seem so bad. But, if you knew her, you would know this was a definite jab.

[fennel]

I think that both the posts from niece and ex were pretty lame, and I saw niece's revised version.

Truth is, this was too much for your bro to handle. You are not a bad person and I think your mom will do swimmingly with you. If niece and ex are so concerned, they can come down and visit your mom frequently...just as an FYI, how often was ex visiting grandma? Niece? Also, this is why I am not on Facebook. How about if you block ex?

I'm really sorry...I know how family can be. :hug:

[NoraC]

Hey Fen - ex is blocked and I never would have known except for the comments that my other niece and my cousin made. The thing is that I don't really do much on Facebook but I like to have it because of seeing pics of my nieces & nephews. Anyway, I'm just letting it go. I do not like the woman at all. But, I am civil when I see her. She is a very 'not nice' person and she is not going to change. My other niece rarely even talks to her and I can understand why. Oh well.....