One Step at a Time - November 2015

[fennel]

Hey all,thanks Rusty RR is a great way to sorta reprogram your thinking process,I think everyone that abuses al/drugs should read the book,although its very anti AA in my opinion but I couldn't ever get into AA anyways,nothing against it of course,just not for me,ok where the hell is everybody?!? No Fen or Nora yesterday, I hope everything is ok with you guys,gonna get through today,stay in jammies tomorrow (make up and hair on of course),cook,watch the parade,eat,eat,eat,sounds like heaven hope we all have a great Wednesday

I read that book and there were some really good points. The thing that bugged me was that over 50% of the book was spent griping about twelve step programs...it would have been a lot shorter if he'd left that part out.

I do like imagining the "beast" in our brains, however.

[fennel]

Howdy, Cowboy! Poor Nora...:hug:

I was so depressed yesterday. My latest courier job I applied for starts at 2:am...I just can't handle those hours. I'm thinking of getting into amateur porn...you'd be amazed at how much you can make doing that! Alice forbade me to do it here, though...she said she doesn't want to recognize the family room on the interwebz.

I wonder how much peeps would pay for skwerl porn..."Hot tree-top action!" "Skwerls gone wild!" I'll have to use a porn name so no one will know it's me.

[Lizann]

Oh no, Nora feel better!
Rusty, as always full of helpful kind advice! Thanks for being here, you are just so sweet!
Pauly, I'm a little sketchy counting days too. Maybe someday I'll count. For me now it's enough that Mark said to me, it's been awhile right? Although he caught me snacking last in the kitchen last night and I said something that made no sense. I could tell by the look on his face he is still suspicious of me. Maybe some day that will go away too.
Got home late from work yesterday, you know just for a change, and the tree was up! Decorations are on the dining room table, so guess what I'm doing today? I will be baking for tomorrow and I'm making one side dish. I'm also bringing diet soda! We went to our last hula class last night and I did miserably. My fingers are still so sore but better everyday. Watched DWTS last night. I voted for Alek, the guy that thwarted the train attack in France this past summer. Talk about instant stardom. What a great story!

[Lizann]

Good morning Fen! I couldn't handle those hours either. Could you just take the job, see how you actually do until something better comes along? You had me laughing with the skwerl porn.

[paulywogg]

I agree Fen with you on the drawn out yada,yada on 12 step programs,it's kinda distracting but I still like the overall approach,iI dunno about your porn career haha,Nora,feel better,Liz,have fun decorating, I'm doing mine Friday,hi Cowboy, thanks for letting us know what was up with Nora

[mama bear]

Morning loves. I am going to my mother's tomorrow and taking cauliflower mac and cheese. My parents have about 25 people over every year and there is so much good food.
Skwerl porn......hmmmmmm.....
Please don't be depressed....I know that's easier said than done. Do you not have any other job options?
I hope Nora et al start feeling better.
No Christmas decorations for me till about the 2nd week of December.......I am not bah humbug,.....I just cannot get anyone to help me until then!
Pauly - I agree about counting......
I think it was sweet that Bindi won DWTS....I saw that on the news....I didn't watch it.
Off for a conference call....

[NoraC]

Hello everyone -

Cowboy - thanks for checking on me and letting my peeps know.

Hope that everyone has a great day. I'll be back later.

Pauly - I totally get you on the counting days. I like to log into the Roll Call everyday because it keeps me accountable. But, I don't really count the days.....I normally have to go back to the day before to figure out what day to post.

[mama bear]

Pualy - I want to let the house go if we are not made a reasonable offer by the bank. But - I want time to downsize and pack a find a place to rent.
Hope you are feeling better, Nora!

[fennel]

Pauly, I say whatever works is fantastic for us...there's more than one way to sobriety. :hug:

I have to say, I'm a bit shocked that there wasn't more enthusiasm generated towards my amateur porn idea! I'm a skwerl in my prime, full of vim and vigor!

Mama, I have other options...I really felt like the courier gig was preferable, as I could get that perfect mix of alone time and human interaction- and I'd be responsible for my own work, not anybody else's. Now I'm venturing into laboratory tech work. I just don't want to go back to patient care- I'm burned out on that.

I hope you get a decent offer from the bank.
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[fennel]

Mama, can you post the recipe for cauliflower mac and cheese when you get the chance? It sounds fabulous!

I went to mom's today to assist with her famous fruit cocktail, pineapple, marshmallow and whipped cream fruit salad. I whipped the cream because she always overdoes it and turns it into butter, lol.

[techie]

Wishing you all a VERY Happy Thanksgiving!!!

[abcowboy]

Fen, I just got over one addiction, don't need to jump into another one lol

[NoraC]

Happy Thanksgiving, Techie!!!!

Squirrel porn sounds interesting.

I hope that all my USA friends have a wonderful Thanksgiving tomorrow. And, that my other friends have a Happy Thursday.

I think it was Rusty that asked me about Mom being home when I'm at work. Hubby is home and takes care of her. She sleeps in her chair a lot so he just fixes her lunch and talks to her. Hubby is disabled from lasting effects of a brain hemorrhage so he doesn't work. Things are going to work out fine. Mom is just very confused today. Doesn't remember how she got here or how long or where she was before. So, it's hard. Breaks my heart. I just used Fen's idea and wrote down where she lived and that she & my brother lived there...then he went on vacation and now she is in California at my house. I think things will get better in a few weeks.

I'm still fighting a cold and now son's GF got it too. Hope that we're feeling better to cook tomorrow.

I'm supposed to go with son this weekend to pick out an engagement ring. He is going to officially ask her in a couple of weeks.

Well - I need to go read back and see what everyone is up to. :checkin:

[paulywogg]

Was reading last years Nov thread just for kicks,I miss K9 and Sun,Kradle thanks Techie,good to see you

[Rusty]

Fenny...you crack me up. I hope you are feeling more hopeful about the job market today. How sweet of you to make your mom's salad for her.

Nora, I had no idea that your husband was permanently disabled due to a brain hemmorhage:hug::sad: No wonder you work so hard and get stressed about your job, and now your mother. I have the utmost admiration and respect for you that you are managing this crisis with your mother AF!!!:welldone:

Mama, I hope you have fun at your mother's house today. I know you've said that your mom is really critical of you so I hope she is extra nice to you today. I love ya, honey...you, too, are managing this crisis with the foreclosure on your house extremely well...AF...while still reaching out to encourage others.

Pauly-Thank you for reviving the Rational Recovery Thread. I used to have that book years ago when I decided I finally had to address my drinking. It was excellent and I like their approach. I do have to agree with Fen, though, the book does spend a lot of time bashing AA. I know AA works for some but it is not my cup of tea. Thanks for sharing. Good luck with the turkey today. :-) I miss K9, Sunny and Kradle, too. Hope they are all doing well.

Liz-are you cooking or are you bringing a dish to pass today? As far as Mark acting suspicious of you when you go in the kitchen...just keep up your good AF work, sweetie, and he will begin to trust you again. The more he sees you in places where you would normally sneak a drink in the past, and sees you now going to those places and NOT sneaking a drink, he'll learn that you are sincere about maintaining your quit. Even though I never had the urge to sneak drinks, after my family confronted me and held their intervention, I was SO paranoid. I thought I would always have to worry that they were wondering if I would show up to a family event sober, or if I would stop somewhere on the way home and drink. Just the thinking about what I THOUGHT they were thinking, only multiplied my drinking. Odd, huh?

Happy Thanksgiving to all other lurkers, guests and friends...busy day for me. I am almost finished with the living room tree...and I want to tackle my entryway and set my dining room table (even though I am not entertaining for over two weeks). Then, I go to my mom's for a visit with her before we go off to my sister's.

I hope everyone has a really happy and relaxing day!!!