Army Boot Camp 23/11/15

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do you think the wake of your friend has discombobulated you? as in your last social meeting was not exactly a good social meeting. angst is not good. good is that you are doing what you feel is right for you.

[NoSugar]

To me that's one of the gifts of getting older, Molly - less feeling the need to do certain things because I'm supposed to or "have" to. It turns out there is very little we absolutely HAVE to do. I probably should have said NO more often all along (before it became my default answer to everything).
It's our day of thanks in the US - thanks to all of you for being here! I like to wake up and read about good people going about your AF lives and be reminded that our problem does not define us. We're not bad or stupid or weak - and we can get better! :hug: NS

[NoSugar]

4th Thursday of November so it jumps about. Retailers don't like late ones b/c there are fewer shopping days til Xmas...

Our conversation has convinced me to decline an invitation for next week that is sitting in my inbox. I've been reluctant to say yes b/c I have a flight early the next a.m. and the getting ready was already feeling like too much, anyway. So... I'll be sending my regrets :smile:.

[IamMary]

morning all --- did the airport run earlier so went back to sleep
just cancelled a night out next week cos it was causing me such angst at the thought of it -- dunno if I should be fighting that or just doing what I'm comfortable with --- feel very stretched by 'social' things lately....

As Rox said, the wake probably didnt help. I dont know if fighting it is a good plan, might stress you out more. Could you orchestrate s smaller event, something that still puts you outside you comfort zone, but not enough to stress you too much. Meet one person in the pub for a chat.. or a few for coffee.. work up to the bigger event, that quite frankly, most people dont get too excited about anyway!!

I have one this weekend, but its in a remote pub, so I have to drive - not dreading that.
Following weekend is a once-a-year gang of eleven women that will have a hotel room booked to prolong the party - dreading that! (didnt go last year, but will drive and tell them on the night -- will be grand).

[satz123]

I think you may be right to a certain extent -- it definitely made me feel more vulnerable -- I was very conscious that the only reason I was able to navigate that evening at all was because Joe was glued to my side -- on orders!!! but yeah -- like NS says in the next post -- I am going to learn to just say no -- problem is -- I KNOW giving myself that permission means that I will probably just say no all the time --- and that can't be good..... need to think it through --- tho I know I am suffering a bit of anxiety the last wee while -- could be just the culmination of lots of things --- morning Roxy btw xx

well HAPPY THANKSGIVING DAY to you and yours Sugababe!! never can work out what DAY it happens on --- is it a particular day as in a Thurs or is it always on 26/11? and yes -- like I replied to Rox --- I do need to - instead of flippantly accepting all sorts just cos they are off in the distance -- I need to think more carefully both about my 'yes's' AND my 'no's' -- tricky sometimes this -- without a DOUBT I must have experienced periods of anxiety similar to this in the past -- but definitely by administering a few scoops -- I considered myself grand.... oh latherin HEART!!! barking I am!! now must go to work --- have a great day all our American cousins xx

You are NOT barking any more than the rest of us Molls.
This enforced jollity at Christmas & New year is a pain in the arse - and it's my natural tendency / default to say no to 'organised fun'
Meet up next year when it feels more natural in a smaller group ?

Like NS I am learning to say no - my age allows me now to be eccentric in work too :haha: and say no.
Our department party is actually a lunch in Dublin restaurant - and then a session of drinks & 'fun' in the pub.
I will condescend to go to the meal and then excuse myself and go shopping - ALONE. :yay:

Don't give a monkey's - see them all year anyway :haha:
How's that for antisocial ?

[IamMary]

my age allows me now to be eccentric in work too :haha:

yup
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[Choices]

Hello everyone and Happy Thanksgiving to everyone, we celebrated yesterday because now it's Friday here.. So I was busy, busy... Gave a talk about the holiday at my daughters school about it and then cooked and cleaned up the whole thing. It's always strange to celebrate it in hot weather. I brought out this sparkling grape juice that I had in the garage.. Not sure for how long and we had that... Wow, it must have been in the garage way too long or is filled with so much sugar.. I've been avoiding that too...so it was pretty gross.. I just had to laugh.. I didn't miss wine with the meal and I am loving being sober this morning. I'm off to a mums retreat for the weekend so won't be on the Internet for a few days. I hope everyone has a lovely holiday or weekend wherever you are. x

[JackieClaire]

Evening lovelies,
Molls you're doing what is right by you, and you Sugarbabe. How many times have we said yes to things and been out of our skin uncomfortable.

[satz123]

Evening lovelies,
Molls you're doing what is right by you, and you Sugarbabe. How many times have we said yes to things and been out of our skin uncomfortable.

Yup Jacks - we are grown-ups now and can think for ourselves. And if they don't like it they can LUMP it.
Have a good weekend Choicy you are doing great :thumbsup:

[satz123]

OK ................. no-one around ............... orf to zzzzzzzzzzzzzz
*click*

[IamMary]

Good night Army,
I suspect there are a few buttons popping around about now over in Planet America! enjoy the rest of the night X

[starty]

Morning lovelies.
Good discussion on socialising. I am not at the stage where I can say fuck it yet. Stupidly enough I am still praying I get the flu before next friday so I have a proper excuse.....

[starty]

You are NOT barking any more than the rest of us Molls.
This enforced jollity at Christmas & New year is a pain in the arse - and it's my natural tendency / default to say no to 'organised fun'
Meet up next year when it feels more natural in a smaller group ?

Like NS I am learning to say no - my age allows me now to be eccentric in work too :haha: and say no.
Our department party is actually a lunch in Dublin restaurant - and then a session of drinks & 'fun' in the pub.
I will condescend to go to the meal and then excuse myself and go shopping - ALONE. :yay:

Don't give a monkey's - see them all year anyway :haha:
How's that for antisocial ?

I agree Satz. I cannot see the point of all the enforced party hoo ha. I was never a party person even when I was drinking. So it is doubly abhorrent now!!

I am not an antisocial cow either, I do like seeing some people in some situations.....but probably just not the ones most others seem to like

[JackieClaire]

Morning Starty,
The offer's still on the table,love, I'll do the party ........you do the smear. Its at 8:30am.

[starty]

Morning Starty,
The offer's still on the table,love, I'll do the party ........you do the smear. Its at 8:30am.

I'll be there JC. Hitching me skirt up as we speak