One Step at a Time - December 2015

[NoraC]

It was great to see everyone's posts today. Fen???? Where are you?

[fennel]

Ugh, sorry about the rash, Nora. I was talking to J's attorney's assistant last night- she got pneumonia last summer and had an anaphylactic reaction to a couple of the antibiotics they tried on her in the hospital. Talk about scary stuff! She said that light complected females apparently have a tendency to develop allergies when they hit middle age.

Barb took mom to her cousin's visitation last night...I knew it would be weeks before we could reschedule the attorney's meeting. Today will be a long day at the funeral.

[abcowboy]

Fen, sending some inner-strength your way, and a big :hug: Just remember, tomorrow will come, today will be just a memory, try to make it the best memory you can...

[Lizann]

Hugs fen:hug: and hugs to you to Nora!

[NoraC]

Fen - big, big hugs :hug: Please let us know how it went when you have a chance.

Liz - was this the day you worked by yourself and were so busy?

Dinner's ready - I'll try to be back...................

[fennel]

Prelapse is a true condition. In fact, I firmly believe that every slip is planned. It's good to stay connected somewhere, Nora.

Long day yesterday. Baby sister made it to the funeral at the last minute to help with mom, as I was pallbearer and couldn't be right on her 24/7.

It literally takes eight hours to do a funeral there. Two hours coming and going, the hour visitation, the hour service, the cemetery service and subsequent luncheon. In a monkey suit.

I got home and immediately jumped into my work out togs and ran to the gym.

[fennel]

Thanks, Liz and Cowboy.

Nora, I have never been thrilled about the holidaze, and this year is no exception. I really can't buy a lot of gifts for anybody due to the divorce. I will get mom a gift card for somewhere, but not near the amount I normally would. In the old days, I'd have to do all the shopping for J's and my family...take mom to her family's christmas (same family an hour away ) AND try to get my immediate family together for our christmas. This year, I told baby sister that I am taking mom to her family for their Christmas, but after that, I'm done. I don't have it in me. Baby sister is the worst offender in getting us together, as she can never commit to a time or date until literally the night before.

[paulywogg]

Hey all,Fen,that's a long funeral!as for the holidaze,just do what you can, it actually is the thought that counts getting hubs' cold here so not too chipper this morning, ah well beats a hangover anyways, prerelapse is real,had it happened in all of mine,start thinkin,start drinkin! Its all bullshit mind chatter,hope everyone has a peaceful Wednesday

[NoraC]

Hi all - boy, it is slow around here lately. Must be the time of year.

Fen - that is a long day. Glad you survived. When do you do the drug test for the post office? What is the latest on the divorce?

Pauly - you are right. It is the thought that counts. We are having a small Christmas but we will be together. Son leaves the week after Christmas for his jail sentence.

Hope that everyone is doing ok and just busy with the holidays.

That prelapse was really interesting because that is absolutely what I have done. I can feel my brain trying to turn that way so I'm sticking close. Still feeling pretty strong but trying to be proactive.

Thanks everyone for being here. I wish I had the words to tell you how much it means to come here and keep in touch with you all. :hug:

[mama bear]

Hey guys..I am just in from auditing files and I am brain dead. If I was this owner, I would fire me. What a mess!!
I like the prelapse thought Nora......I am going to Google it.
Fenny - I have been wondering how the funeral went. Glad your baby sister finally showed up.
I am here, just slammed and a little out of my league at work, but my boss is awesome. I got a malware virus somehow ( don't even know what that is...so today my computer was not cooperative at all!)
Goona eat and zone out for a bit
I love you all

[Nursie]

Hi Guys! I've missed you all. Been a rough few months.
I need to be accountable and healthy again.
I'm here!
Xoxo

[abcowboy]

Great to see you back Nursie, welcome home! :hug:

[fennel]

Nursie, I wish you'd stick around.

I had an early morning meeting with my attorney. She wanted to ferret out what I thought about the settlement agreement that J offered the other night. I told her truthfully that I felt I had no safety net. I don't have a job yet, and even if the USPS hires me next week, what if I can't master all the tasks required of me? They don't have to keep me on at all. I have been out of the workforce for many years, and since I don't want to go back to patient care, I may have to receive vocational training.

My attorney sent out a tactful email to all with her concerns and her recommendation that J and I visit the neutral divorce financial expert in Milwaukee. Not a peep out of J since, so I think she is girding her loins for battle.

After the attorney meeting, I submitted my "sample" to the drug testing place. Unless the test is so sensitive that it picks up on my housemate's weed use (and I always sequester myself in the basement while they do that) I should be just fine.

[fennel]

Mama, you are more valuable than you know...I think your new bosses were smart to hire you.

Pauly, I'm sorry you're getting a cold. I agree about the holidaze...I think it's just fun to hang out and eat, lol.

Nora, the good thing about being in this time period is that you can shop from your computer...maybe you can find a few gifts that way?

[fennel]

I forgot to ask Nora...how's your mom? :hug:

Sorry about son having to go in right after Christmas...but perhaps they'll let him out early? I will keep my fingers crossed.