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[Rava]

Good morning Cafe. Sounds like everyone is doing well. Cowboy I am working at a thrift store which benefits hospice. Speaking of hospice I tried recommending it to my father and stepmother and they became so mad at me that they had another family member call me and ream me out. I am at a loss over this. I realize that not everyone is hospice ready but to watch someone struggle thru repeated hospital trips and trying to rehab strength on someone that is elderly and so feeble makes me crazy. It’s all about the money for the medical team. I have decided to take a step back from my father’s situation. His wife is blocking me from talking to him anymore. Such a sad thing. It’s heartbreaking actually. Hope everyone has a good day.

[abcowboy]

5:21am in Alberta, 24 more please, and thanks...

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Today is going to be a darn good day not to drink!

[abcowboy]

Your sister might not make the full 6 weeks Ginger, but I'm betting she's going to try.

That sounds like a tough situation Rava, at least you got to see and talk with your dad the last time you were up north. Your stepmom will probably back off in a while and let you talk with your dad again.

[Ginger999]

Rava that is so incredibly sad. So sorry. Im glad you were able to see him and say goodbye.

Hi all! Mornings are busy around here so I'll just take another day of freedom!

[Jude58]

Rava, family dynamics can be tough to deal with sometimes. I think that in your Dad's situation hospice would be the best thing but apparently they don't see it that way. I'm glad that you got to see and talk to your Dad recently, and I hope that he comes to realize that hospice would make his life easier.

24 more please...

[Rava]

Good morning Cafe. Thanks for the words of support. I realize that I can not do anything to help or give my advice. They don’t want it. The thing that hurts me so much is that my father is such a weak man. He cannot even speak for himself anymore. Instead of telling he is not interested in hospice services he agrees with what I say and then cries to his wife that I say he is dying. Then I get in trouble. Family dynamics suck. I should be happy I am in Florida and away from this. I plan on calling him next week if I haven’t heard from him and just talk about the weather. No more talk about his health. This is all provided that his wife even lets me talk to him. Jesus. Not a good way to spend the last days with a parent. Enough of this. I have been losing sleep over this and need to divert this energy to something positive. This will not break me or cause me to drink. I am hurt and angry but not going down a rabbit hole just to hurt myself more. 24 more please and thank you.

[abcowboy]

5:18am in Alberta, another 24 for me please, and thanks...

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[abcowboy]

I think you've got the right attitude Rava, do what you can and try not to let the rest bother you.

Not much new here, we had quite the wind yesterday but not much snow with it so I'm going to head out and check things at the farm. Make sure no trees blew over and check the heat in the buildings as we're going into a deep freeze for a few days starting tonight.

[dill]

Rava, I'm so sorry you are going through so much turmoil. I agree with Cowboy that you have the right attitude, and you must distance yourself from the parts of this situation that are not in your control as best you can. I will say a prayer for you and your dad.

Cowboy, you asked me the other day how Lily looks post-surgery. I honestly haven't seen her teeth yet. She has kept her mouth closed since the surgery except for when she is eating and then her face is in her dish so I really haven't gotten a good look. I'm sure that when the warmer weather returns and she has her tongue out, panting, that's when I'll see it. I does make me a bit sad that she will have a funny smile from now on, but it was necessary for her health and comfort. The broken tooth had jagged edges that her tongue would get caught on and cut when she was running and panting full bore. The bleeding tongue was what drew our attention and the reason we found the badly broken tooth.

Ginger, I'm glad your sister is settling in. Perhaps she make it to 6 weeks. Either way, carp diem!

24 more for all of us here, please and thank you.

[Ginger999]

Rava, you have the right attitude. My thoughts are with you.

Waves to all. I'll take another day of freedom!

[Jude58]

Rava, whenever I am troubled about certain situations I always say the serenity prayer so here it is.

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things that I cannot change,
the courage to change the things that I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.

Looking forward to another day of peace...

[Rava]

Good morning Cafe and thanks for your encouragement. The serenity prayer is exactly what I needed to hear. I am still not sleeping well and trying to turn off my thoughts. Mr. R has been a good resource for listening to me. Today I have made plans to go to a craft festival with several girlfriends and then to lunch. That should help the day pass by quickly and keep me occupied. We are supposed to get some cold weather headed here next week. Our days will be in the high 50’s which is down right freezing for Florida. I have most of my winter clothes up north. May have to make a trip to walmart for some warmer stuff. Ginger, I hope your sister is feeling less homesick and settling into your warmer weather. Dill, it sounds like Lily is making out well since having that jagged tooth removed. Her tongue will definitely be happier. Cowboy, hope you don’t find any weather related issues or problems at the farm. Jude, thanks for the prayer. Hope everyone has a wonderful and sober day. 24 more please and thank you.

[abcowboy]

5:32am in Alberta, I'll have 24 more please, and thanks...

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Today is going to be a darn good day not to drink!

[abcowboy]

Lily might end up with a crooked smile dill lol, but she might cover up the missing tooth with her tongue and look normal.

The Serenity Prayer is my go-to as well Jude if something seems to be getting out of control for me. We have a couple of them hanging on the wall, one in our bedroom, it's the complete prayer that our youngest embroided for me the first year of my quit, and another one in our front entry.

Have fun today with your friends at the craft sale and luncheon Rava, I'm sure it will give you some time away from your thoughts. Things were good at the farm, not too much snow drifting even with the high winds and heat was on in the shop and pumphouse so everything should be fine through the next few days of extremely cold weather.

[Ginger999]

The serenity prayer is a great reminder that I can't control the universe! Thanks, Jude.

Not sure what we are doing today but whatever it is, it wont include AL for me! I'll take another day of freedom