One Step at a Time - January 2016

[fennel]

Mama, I can instruct you on constructive arguing, LOL.

Just be honest. My 21 year old trainer has been very sullen with me all week, I think because I have been receiving compliments from staff. Today, she ditched me while we were delivering newspapers. I was really angry, and I knew I couldn't spend the entire weekend this way, so when I found her, I said "Nicki, are you annoyed with me for some reason?" OMG. She immediately changed her tune (rather than be honest with me) and was nice to me for the rest of the day.

You know, at this age, I've been there, done that. I am not interested in passive/aggressive crap any longer and just want to get to the core of the misunderstanding.

[Lizann]

Hey Ne thanks for popping in. It really is a very nice thread we have going here. Stop in any time. We are drama free.
Fen, sorry your day wasn't great. Glad you confronted your coworker and nipped that in the bud. I agree, dim too old for that nonsense too. Address the issue and move on. Life is too short to spend it being mad,
Yes mama, I think we can all use some advice when it comes to arguments. I've actually heard this stuff before and it really makes sense. Sometimes you just have to agree to disagree. The most important thing is not to demean the other person.
Anyway we finished Moms biography today. It was much easier than I thought, dads on the other hand, not so much. My older sister is working on it, of course I will help. Twin sissy, I'm not so sure will help. Whatever. Mark and I will copy some photos and attach it to what we have written. A book with photos, sort of. Did some baking today, which I rarely do. Just felt like being a hausfrau for a change. I even made a pot roast. Gotta do these things when I'm in the mood, which is rare.

[NoraC]

Hello everyone

Ne - great to see you. Please come on by anytime or all the time.

Liz - I do try to agree to disagree. But, that is so important - do not demean the other person. I try....I truly do. But, sometimes I am not successful. I think it is wonderful about the biographies. They are just so important and some meaningful.

Mama - hope you had a great date night.

Fen - I agree - glad you confronted her. Been there done that and I don't play those games anymore.

Rusty, Pauly and everyone - hope you all had a wonderful Saturday.

[Rusty]

Good Morning, Everyone!

Nora-I think a camera is a great idea for helping to monitor your mom. I wish we could get one for mine...but I know she wouldn't agree to it. Any luck finding a dress for the wedding?

Ne!:hug: It's great to see you! I have been sober almost 4 years with the help of Baclofen. I am at maintenance dose of 20 mgs. per day. It's absolutely a necessity for me to keep my lifelong battle with anxiety under control. I used to love to lurk and participate on the Meds Threads when Redhead, RedThread and LoOp (RIP, friend, I miss you) used to post, besides you, of course. I am soooo glad to see you here. Regarding the arguing...oh yes, drinking makes it SO much worse because of the depressive nature of AL. When my drinking was at its worse, I used to get my feelings hurt ALL the time, and dredge up hurtful experiences I had 30 years before...I drove my sister absolutely nuts because I would call her, bawling over some old wounds. So glad that's over. Yeah, too much drama on the Meds Thread and I don't have time for that BS, for sure! I don't post on the Meds Threads because I don't want to get dragged into the drama. On this thread, nasty people get booted off ASAP. Usually by yours truly. Hahahahahah!!! We love visitors on our thread, and we occasionally are visited by some great guys, too, like the lovable Guitarista (aka Mr. G), Techie, and Samstone. I have a huge crush on Mr. G, I really do. ;-) Stick around, NE....we're a tight group here. I owe you a PM....maybe later today.

Liz-what did you end up baking? So glad the marriage counseling is going well! :-)

Fenny-I think your trainer feels threatened by you and you handled it superbly. GREAT JOB!

Mama-how was date night? Did you get to play checkers?

NE...just an FYI, "Checkers" is our word for sex. LOL

Pauly-I just saw where you have 100 Days AF!!! Congratulations!

Well, I am off to work out, grocery shop, do paperwork and maybe take a walk. Have a great Sunday, everyone!

[paulywogg]

Hey all,Rusty thanks,it only took 4 years haha,Idid all my groceries yesterday thank goodness but I do need some odds and ends I forgot Advil,almond milk,tamps and tp, supposed to rain here,we shall see,was feeling better but took a walk yesterday and even though it wasn't that cold my nose started running again and I was coughing, yuck,so today I'm kicken back with Lou and doing whatever he wants to do,hopefully just play games on his tablet Fen,for some reason our PM's aren't working?weird,hi NE I follow your thread in the meds section just cuz I like your writing, used to keep up with Stuck too for the same reason,now its all so full of drama with the person who always wants to be the center of attention, I don't venture there cuz it upsets me,I'm also doubting the new thread in general a bit wondering if its legit or just another way to get attention but if it really did happen I feel bad for my doubt's,anyways hope everyone has a wonderful Sunday

[Rusty]

Oh, so sorry, NE!!!! I just cleaned out my Inbox!!! I love lengthy PMs, and l love how you write because your words are so full of passion, and your gigantic, enormous heart comes pounding through your words. Off to the gym now and then grocery shopping (Bore, bore, bore) and then I'll be back. :-)

[mama bear]

Hello my loves.
Date nigh was fun. After dinner, we went by The Moose club where hubs hangs out, and I danced my rear off with some older fellow. Hubs didn't mind and I had a blast. This guy was really good, and flung me all over the place. And he was respectful coz he knows hubs.
Today we binged on Netflix and started watching "The X Files".
Ne- you are welcome anytime.
Fenny - I shared a post on FB that made me think of you. It was a picture of a skwerl wearing a red scarf and carrying a red purse. The caption said (think Madonna)..."We are living in a material world and I am a material squirrel." I laughed and laughed!!!

I take nonsense at work, but arguing with hubs is different. He can be a bit of a bully, and I just ignore him.
Most of the time....................
Off to Nana's
Pauly CONGRATS on 100 days .......Nora should be right behind you..
hugs and kisses to all

[paulywogg]

Mama,glad you enjoyed date night Nora is waaay ahead of me,she's kicken ass and taking names

[fennel]

Welcome, NE! So nice to have you here.

I do think this is a lovely thread...we are supportive and kind to each other.

Wow, I hope you get your desired position in the E.R. Talk about an exciting place to be...as you know, you'll see all sorts of things there! It's so nice to find a place where you "fit", isn't it? I am keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you as well. Have you gone through your "boards" yet?

[fennel]

Hello my loves.
Date nigh was fun. After dinner, we went by The Moose club where hubs hangs out, and I danced my rear off with some older fellow. Hubs didn't mind and I had a blast. This guy was really good, and flung me all over the place. And he was respectful coz he knows hubs.
Today we binged on Netflix and started watching "The X Files".
Ne- you are welcome anytime.
Fenny - I shared a post on FB that made me think of you. It was a picture of a skwerl wearing a red scarf and carrying a red purse. The caption said (think Madonna)..."We are living in a material world and I am a material squirrel." I laughed and laughed!!!

I take nonsense at work, but arguing with hubs is different. He can be a bit of a bully, and I just ignore him.
Most of the time....................
Off to Nana's
Pauly CONGRATS on 100 days .......Nora should be right behind you..
hugs and kisses to all

Mama, I'm glad you had a fun date night.

Are you talking about the new X Files?

Oh, I would love to see that pic of the material skwerl, LOL.

[fennel]

I woke up at 4:00 a:m and I didn't have to be up until 4:45...dang it! I couldn't fall back asleep. I go to bed early these days.

Fortunately, my surly trainer had me do all the work today, but there was still plenty of "down" time...not when I'm on my own, there won't be. Honestly, I don't know how on earth she's their main trainer.

I did blow some sunshine up her shorts today to keep her happy. I told her she was very organized and I wished my mind worked the way hers did...it pained me, but I don't need her being surly and passive/aggressive and figured that compliments would grease the skids a bit. It worked.

As the day went on, my cold became worse and worse. I can't believe how crappy a cold can make a person feel! I felt like I was bobbing up and down on a boat all day, my throat and ears hurt, and I'm blowing pretty much straight blood out of my nose. I have washed my hands about five billion times today, because I don't want to pass any of my pathogens on to a fragile senior or a co-worker.

Anyway, I skipped mom's house tonight...I just couldn't do it. I am hitting bed early tonight and thankfully, I have tomorrow off. I think it's a lot of stress that I went from no work hours per week (outside of working with mom and here) to 40 hours...with the long commute. No wonder I got sick.

[paulywogg]

Feel better Fen,sounds like exactly what I had,no bueno! My theory is that is ate something bad Friday that messed my guts up Saturday and that lowered my immunity to what Brady and Lou had cuz I was cruising along just fine before that,get some rest

[techie]

Hello all. Heading back home on Wednesday. I am expecting to move mom sometime between mid March to mid April. I hope you feel better Fen. Have a great week all!

[Lizann]

Hey guys. I read back and sounds like everyone's doing ok, relatively.
Mama, the dancing sounds like fun, I love to dance. I did see you post on Facebook it was hysterical!
Rusty, good to see you. Are those Christmas decorations down? I worked out hard this weekend! I am a bit sore. Started running again. Apparently spring is right around the corner. We are planning a trip to Puerto Rico during marks spring break.
Fen, how long is your commute? I'm glad you have off tomorrow to recuperate. You did good complimenting your coworker. There was this thing on FB today that showed how peoples expressions became happy after someone told them they were beautiful. A compliment goes a long way, oh wise one!
Pauly, 100 days:welldone: your are neck in neck with Nora. I saw your fb post with Louie, he is soo cute!
Techie, I'm sure your glad to be going home. Is mom ok with moving?
Hubs and I are not seeing a marriage counselor/therapist. We are attending a series of marriage seminars (three) at our church. I did not want to go, but am now enjoying them. Today was potluck at church and I ate quite a bit. That's what my pot roast and chocolate chip cookies were for.
Watched America funniest home videos tonight with hubs and honestly can't remember the last time we laughed that hard! It felt good.

[techie]

Hey guys. I read back and sounds like everyone's doing ok, relatively.
Mama, the dancing sounds like fun, I love to dance. I did see you post on Facebook it was hysterical!
Rusty, good to see you. Are those Christmas decorations down? I worked out hard this weekend! I am a bit sore. Started running again. Apparently spring is right around the corner. We are planning a trip to Puerto Rico during marks spring break.
Fen, how long is your commute? I'm glad you have off tomorrow to recuperate. You did good complimenting your coworker. There was this thing on FB today that showed how peoples expressions became happy after someone told them they were beautiful. A compliment goes a long way, oh wise one!
Pauly, 100 days:welldone: your are neck in neck with Nora. I saw your fb post with Louie, he is soo cute!
Techie, I'm sure your glad to be going home. Is mom ok with moving?
Hubs and I are not seeing a marriage counselor/therapist. We are attending a series of marriage seminars (three) at our church. I did not want to go, but am now enjoying them. Today was potluck at church and I ate quite a bit. That's what my pot roast and chocolate chip cookies were for.
Watched America funniest home videos tonight with hubs and honestly can't remember the last time we laughed that hard! It felt good.

Yes Liz laughter is a great healer. It also raises our vibration...pot roast? YUM! My mom is coming around to acceptance. This makes it so much easier. Thank you for asking. Oneof the reasons I like this thread is that you all are warm, caring, and loving folks!