One Step at a Time - January 2016

[NoraC]

Interesting thought.....
If you have to sneak to do it....
.....Oh yes - sneaking that extra drink and then just sneaking in whole bottles
If you have to lie......
.....Oh yes - I'm going to get a pedicure (as I buy a bottle). Of course, I haven't been drinking (when I've been sneaking it all night)
If you have to delete it.....
.....Oh yes - how many bottles did I smuggle out of this house to throw away? Wow - that is a very scary thought.

[paulywogg]

Too true Nora,except sometimes I rent chick flicks from Redbox on the down low on my days off and rush them back before hubs gets home to avoid the teasing haha

[Lizann]

Wow Nora! Cause you don't have enough going on, that the boss had a talk with you? Unbelievable! Like he's never had a rough patch in his life? Hang in there. I am so proud of you. You are being incredibly strong. This is just proof positive you don't need al in your life! Keep us posted on your son? Take a nap, take a bath, read your book, do whatever to get through. Keep those positive thoughts in your head! We are here for you! This will all work out.
Mama, hope you feel better. Nice you got to cuddle with hubs. I just read somewhere last week that cuddling has the same relaxing effect as a glass of wine.
Fen, dying to know how you're day went?
Pauly, rusty, glassie, good to see you all.

[NoraC]

Hey all - I just texted Fen to check on her. She wrote back that she will post tonight. So, she must have been busy but glad to know that we'll hear from her soon.

[Lizann]

Cross post guys! How true that is Nora! I've seen that before and made the correlation to my drinking. I've also heard "what you do in private defines you." That right there scared the crap out of me! Aww, maybe I just need to stop thinking about everything so much.
Nora, hope you can settle down.
Love you guys.

[NoraC]

I just remembered that TV show WKRP in Cincinnati. :harhar: I used to watch that all the time. Rusty, I thought of that show because I was thinking of you. See how this brain of mine works. Scary, isn't it? :rotlf: How is your trip going?

[NoraC]

I just remembered that TV show WKRP in Cincinnati. :harhar: I used to watch that all the time. Rusty, I thought of that show because I was thinking of you. See how this brain of mine works. Scary, isn't it? :rotlf: How is your trip going?

Ok - I was just going to delete the above post but I am laughing so hard I had to share. Rusty, I know that you are not in Cincinnati. After I wrote the above post, my brain restarted and I know that you are in Connecticut. Seriously, I hope that I get some sleep tonight. LOL

[paulywogg]

I never cared for that show,I was more of a 'Threes company' girl Nora,get some sleep

[NoraC]

Good idea, Pauly. I think I'll hit the sack early. I don't know what's up with my brain but it's jumping all over the place and has been since yesterday. It's a scary place in there. :rotlf:

[fennel]

I'm sorry I didn't post last night.

Nora, I have to say that while I think Son will be let off early, February is a tad optimistic. This was his second offense, and things could have gone really badly for the affected family. Does he accept that he's an alcoholic? To me, it seems like he is, but I'm not with him every day. I'm an alcoholic, but I would never get behind the wheel while drinking, so there are no tried and true rules. I just remember how he would go out with his friends and lose his phone over and over, or his car. That seems like a problem to me. I just hope he finds a solution before things get really bad.

My first real day on the job was yesterday. I was trained by a twenty-one year old woman who really seems to have no grasp of infection control. How depressing! I can't rock the boat this early, so my plan is to get through my probationary period and revert to proven hospital protocol. It doesn't bode well that this is the number one retirement/nursing home situation in Madison, yet I am being trained by a youngster who has only been on board for one year.

I hope that I will stick it out and bring their standards up once I have developed a relationship with the personnel.

J and I were supposed to have a meeting with the financial advisor today, but she'd gone ahead and tried to control/dictate what would be discussed and the advisor became uncomfortable, so we cancelled. Consequently, the meeting with our attorneys on Friday has been cancelled, as we don't have a financial agreement yet.

I wish this were all over, but I need to be assured that I will be okay financially. I touched base with my attorney, who has been out of the office for two weeks...and she will send out a group email tomorrow detailing my concerns.

Wish me luck on the job tomorrow.

I love you all.

[JeffRob887]

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!

2015 brought so many changes in my life and in the lives of so many of my friends here. Some good changes, some bad changes, happiness and sadness, health and illness. But, that is what life is all about. And, I am grateful that I have lived the past 5 months without alcohol.
I welcome everyone to join here. But, if you're struggling and think that you just can't do it.........please drop in and join us. Just take that One Step at a Time.

Happy New Year too! Yes, recovery is a lifetime process, slowly but surely. One step at a time is all we need. This should be set on our minds.

[fennel]

Nora, I'm sorry your boss had a meeting with you. I do think his daughter is the problem. It's good that he doesn't want you to leave.

[NoraC]

Fen - so sorry that you are dealing with all of this. That is pretty scary that this is the number one home. Can you just imagine what is going on in other places? It is good that you are sticking to your guns regarding J. She is a successful businesswoman who is used to being in control. She is trying to control this situation. You do need to make sure that you are ok financially.

Regarding son......yes, you are right. I do not believe that he has admitted that he is an alcoholic. As we all know, I can talk until I'm blue in the face but it has to come from him. I have talked to him about it though. I have also let him know that I haven't had a drink in over 5 months. I just hope that with everything he is going thru - jail time, alcohol course, MADD, morgue, penalties, etc that it will open his eyes to the reality. I think he gets it and then sometimes I'm just not sure.

I hope that you have a better day tomorrow. :hug:

[fennel]

Nora, I can't imagine how difficult this all is concerning your son. I hope that he comes to the conclusion that he has an issue. But you're right...nobody can convince him that he has an issue besides him.

Yes, this nursing home is the cream of the crop! I had to prove I'm not on drugs to get a job there, which sadly, is not the ordinary situation. I am really appalled at the trainer I have been assigned to. I know that I can upgrade the protocol there, but not when I am so new. So, I will do my best in the meantime.

[Lizann]

Morning all. Off to take Lucy to her semi annual vet visit. Wish me luck. Lucy is such a sweetie, but this sucks the life outta me!
Fen, I think you are wise to hold back until you've been there awhile. I think they are lucky to have you. I think you'll be a tremendous asset. At the hospital where I work, we see a lot of patients from nursing homes with c diff. I guessing a lot of those could be prevented.

Nora I didn't realize that this was your sons second offense. Yes, as we all know, he has to admit he has a problem. Do you think your boss realizes his daughter is a problem? Maybe he went back a spoke to her and things will all work out?
Gotta run, I'll be back later.