One Step at a Time - January 2016

[Lizann]

Hey guys. Freezing here today! Hubs is in the garage getting the snowblower ready. .
So apparently 6 or 7 local high schools were evacuated or locked down because of a bomb or shooting scare. Our town was one of them! Scary stuff but nothing was found. The high school my daughter teaches in was not among the effected schools.
Fen, I'm glad your mom will be in the same town. How is the job going? Is that a place your mom could live? Is it even assisted living where you work?
Pauly, thanks for checking in. I never even knew that thread existed, so I went on over to check it out. I did read back some and I do recognize some of the names. I m just so not good with this computer stuff. If I may ask, how old is Michele? Did you wait up for her. I hate those late nights!
Nora are you all better?
Mark started his last semester of college today! Hard to believe. Seems like he just started nursery school. It's just me and Lucy here tonight snuggling. Well off to find some chocolate.

[fennel]

Glad you're fine, Pauly. :hug:

Thanks, mama. I know I'm not a failure...I sure feel for my mom, though. Big changes are coming, if she doesn't stall further.

Liz, the place I work at is for rich people- my mom could never afford to stay there. My MIL can, however, and might do so.
Is Mark your baby? Time really flies, doesn't it? Seems like yesterday Mrs. Fen's and my little nephew was a tot, now he's a senior in high school!

The job is going well and I'm fitting in.

[fennel]

Skwerly Butt- you are NOT a failure....NOT AT ALL......do you hear me????
Is El Diablo the boss with flip flops?
I am pulling a Nora......so I have to run

I was talking about that diablo character K9 ran into in jail who stole K9's shoes.

[Lizann]

I'm so glad the job is going well, fen! Yes Mark is my baby.

[NoraC]

Hello all.....

Did I tell you that I tried to search the threads to find diablo but I couldn't find anything?

Fen - glad that the job is going well. Can't believe your nephew is a senior!

Liz - enjoy your Lucy time.

Well - one of my very best friends who is also a co-worker gave her notice today. Work has just been so awful. She told me that she had put in an application at a place. When she had the interview, she asked me what she should do. I told her that I couldn't tell her what to do but that she should go in with an open mind. She would know if it was right. So, she thought about it and decided to take the new job. I think she made the right decision. She is only in her mid 40's. She has a long time ahead of her to work. I'm sad for me though.
Then I talked to my brother who is heading back home to Oregon tomorrow. He's depressed. Said he can see that Mom is worse. Then I was thinking about my friend leaving and realized that I wouldn't tell Mom because she wouldn't understand. That made me so sad. It used to be that she & Dad would have been the first people I would have called and told.

[mama bear]

Nora - your post made me sad too. Are you still sending out resumes? Can you go where your friend went?
Skwerly - now I remember El Diablo!!
I had an alcohol epiphany yesterday. Hubs said he might go up to the pub to meet friend that had finally found a job and wanted to celebrate. I was fine with that. But then he said something that made me angry, and I instantly thought....well F you.....I am going to get some beer too. But I walked away and calmed down and did not buy beer
Skwerly - I am glad you are fitting in at work. The drama at my job is a little quieter, thank heavens.
It's gonna be 29 degrees here today. But at least I don't need a snow blower!

[paulywogg]

Hey all,Fen,glad you enjoy the job and the nice paycheck Nora,lovely pic of you on Facebook, is that future DIL? I hardly check FB so I think it was from a few days ago,Mama,good job on the no beer I was talking to hubs about being sober and healing, I said it takes awhile to go through the changes he said after a month I shoulda been fine,pissed me off and I told him I was drunk for 10 years, its gonna take a little bit more than a month,then I told him to quit for a month solid and see how it feels,huh he shut up,he doesn't drink all crazy but I know he likes to relax with a few, plus he likes to socialize with the neighbors, luckily I'm antisocial haha,I've had anxiety for 3 days in a row,why? Its that pit in your gut kind,grrr,Liz,you sound great and positive, ourlittle ray of sunshine hi Rusty,working hard as always? Off to get ready,I hope we all have a nice Wednesday

[NoraC]

Pauly - I hate that anxiety. I'm sorry. I hope that it's much better today. Oh - that was my niece on facebook. She was here visiting from Texas. I haven't seen her in about 6 years!
Sorry about hubs comments!! He just doesn't get it.

Mama - glad the drama is better. I know what you mean about getting mad and wanting to drink. Good for you for recognizing it.

Hope that everyone has a fantastic day today.

[mama bear]

Nope, hubs don't always get it.

[fennel]

Woohoo! We're over the hump, my peeps!

I had a rollicking day wrangling oldies and cleaning up. Part of what we do is gather all the newspapers in the morning and deliver them to the resident rooms and households. This place contains all levels of the aged, from the condos that surround the main building, to the apartments on first, second and third stories and extending to the Health Center, which is essentially a skilled nursing facility. For some folks, it's their last stop on the continuum, for some, it's just a place to recover from surgeries, strokes, etc.

I feel pretty protective of the seniors and I try to engage with them...even the extremely antisocial ones. As most homes seem to have these days, there is a lively aviary filled with a variety of finches and one lone canary. They are so beautiful and entertaining...and the bright yellow canary winds himself up several times a day to serenade everybody with an amazing variety of trills and whistles. He looks so proud when he's doing so, with his little chest all puffed out. Somebody put a couple of orange halves in the aviary today, so they were having a feast.

Mama, kudos to you for recognizing the trigger and resisting it! Sorry hubs was being a jerk, though.

Same with you, Pauly. Our spouses mostly will not "get" it. I certainly had my moments with J. I'm sorry about the anxiety, it can be crippling. Is it related to your pms, or is it just a random thing?

Nora, I am with mama...maybe you should apply at the place where your ex co-worker got a job. Maybe it's not worth it to be this miserable, even though you've been there so long. I am thinking of you.

[paulywogg]

I dunno what this is Fen,just all of a sudden,maybe I'm getting sick cuz I have a bad headache and so do all the sick girls at work, plus Brady's sick,bleh,don't feel like being sick boo-hoo

[ItsJustMe]

Hey Dudes -

Just bouncing in on day 38AF. Doing terrific. The cravings are all but gone. I have gone days without thoughts of al. I think I know what is up. When I started this journey, I started getting up at 5AM and going to the gym every single morning. I then go to work. At lunch I take a long walk. By the time i get home I pretty much crash - eat dinner, check a few web sites and then I'm out for the night. Next day, rinse, lather, repeat. Saturday afternoon I actually bought my lovely bride a bottle of Captain. It phased me not at all.

So, hopefully, this keeps up. Hope everyone is doing great. I am going to have to go back about a week and read forward on this thread.

Take care everyone!
IJM

[fennel]

I dunno what this is Fen,just all of a sudden,maybe I'm getting sick cuz I have a bad headache and so do all the sick girls at work, plus Brady's sick,bleh,don't feel like being sick boo-hoo

I'm sorry, Pauly...tis the season! Did you get a flu vaccination?

[Lizann]

Geez, I'm a little late one night and I miss all this!
Nora, I'm sorry about your coworker. I agree with the others, could you apply there too? I get what you mean talking to your mom about this. It's so sad really. I used to talk to my mom everyday about just about anything, she has sort of pulled back the last few years. I feel as though she just doesn't want to know things anymore, so I don't tell her everything anymore. Really kind of sad what age does.
Mama, I'm sorry hubs said something unkind, but good for you for passing on the beer, that's a big trigger for me too! They can be so insensitive sometimes! Glad the drama has subsided some at work.
Pauly, I get that aniexty in the pit of my stomach too. Maybe it is just that you're getting sick. I hope that's not the case though. It's hard for me to get outta bed when I feel like that.
Fen, you are sounding great! I'm sure the seniors enjoy you too. We used to have birds here too. I think the most we had at one time was 4. My sister gave us hers and we found one on our front bannister and had two of our own. The one we found was a beautiful yellow one. We managed to lure it into the house and then into the cage with the others.
IJM good job on 38 days! I find keeping busy is important too. I just need a push to start.
I went to a yoga class tonight! My first time and I didn't hate it! Hubs is part of a running club and this is part of it. Erin came along too. I'm nice and relaxed now!

[NoraC]

Hi IJM- great job on 38 days. Sounds like you have a good routine going.