One Step at a Time - January 2016

[mama bear]

Rusty - I meant you comment on you a radio personality......doesn;t surprise me in the least and it's way cool!!
I did that in college, but alas, could never get a job.
I've been fired from share of jobs too......usually for having too big of a personality!!
Skwerly - whip that place into shape!! BTW, I saw some weave hanging on a staircase the other day and thought of you!

[fennel]

Rusty - I meant you comment on you a radio personality......doesn;t surprise me in the least and it's way cool!!
I did that in college, but alas, could never get a job.
I've been fired from share of jobs too......usually for having too big of a personality!!
Skwerly - whip that place into shape!! BTW, I saw some weave hanging on a staircase the other day and thought of you!

You still owe me for that tail weave that was stuck in the pool drain at your old apartment complex, Mama! :welldone:

[fennel]

Nora, I am so remiss in commenting on your six months...CONGRATULATIONS!!!

That's an awesome achievement and I am so proud of you. :hug:

[fennel]

Rusty, bummer that you don't do meet ups. I have met up with Nora, Sunshinedaisies, Coco-nut, Rubywillow from this site...and I know I will meet up with mama one day. If you ever change your mind, let me know. It cracked me up the way you said that- I'm a major introvert, but I'm all over the place, lol.

I just fired off an email to an organization I found through Catholic Social Services. Mom is devolving quickly, and I hope that somebody can come out to the house and take her mall walking twice a week like I used to do. I will ask the social worker at work tomorrow about any options that might be out there, too.

J sent me a copy of a letter explaining why she arrived at the settlement numbers that she did, and told me she wanted to send it to our attorneys and the financial advisor we will be seeing on Wednesday. It's clear that she is feeling on the spot about the fact that it's so skewed in her favor and needed to explain how great she was to me all the years we were together and how my lack of education had me in a piss poor spot, yada, yada...and she "lifted" me up to a better level. She mentioned a lot of other crap that was so demeaning. I stewed over it all night long and called her this morning. I told her if she sent it out, it would make her look like an ass and that she'd probably drive my attorney away (this is supposed to be a collaborative divorce, but J is running the show and treating it like litigation) and that she'd probably frighten away the only financial advisor we could find in Madison that she would tolerate. She's in a hurry to get this divorce complete and the spectre of me having to find another attorney and bring him/her up to speed and having to find another advisor convinced her to keep her lame excuses to herself.

I finally got into a decent mood and went to my mom's house to give her cat his meds. I showed her how to do it, but she says it's too hard, so I still have that duty on me most days. Unfortunately, her elderly cat had stepped in his own feces and tracked it around the house. Mom got most of it cleaned off his foot, but guess who had to put him in the tub and wash off the rest? He hollered the whole time like I was cutting his foot off and it was so disgusting. I cleaned up what I could find around the house and scooped the litter box. This is part of the problem. Mom has gotten so bad oxygen wise, she really can't take the stairs to the basement any longer, plus she barely remembers to scoop on the best of days. Maybe I should bring his box upstairs. With that said, I'd just scooped yesterday. He's just a senior, with senior issues like anybody else.

On the positive side, Alice and I heard the great horned owls mating again last night in the back yard, so we're looking forward to owlets! I will keep you all posted.

Pauly, I hope you feel better soon...

Mama, is it warming up there at all?

Howdy, Liz!

Nora, what were the dresses like that DIL wanted you to try?

[fennel]

I am here.....frantically trying to get shopping and cleaning done....I leave at the butt crack of dawn tomorrow for a Lyceum class...it's kind of a big deal and very respected in the National Apartment Association (not sure why they chose me ;-0 ) and then Wednesday I meet with my state representatives to dis bills pending in my industry...like...please do not vote yes to make it a felony if I don't fix an apartment issue fast enough, plus fine me $50000 and put me in jail for a year....
I have not read my back, but I will..

Mama, seriously? I swear, the laws are so crazy! Here in Madison, a law was passed that landlords can't discriminate against potential renters based on their criminal histories...but at the same time, if a landlord has a building that has a lot of "issues" with crime, that landlord will get in trouble for having bad tenants. You just can't freaking win.

[Lizann]

Hey guys! I'm exhausted! After snowblowing and shoveling here we went to my parents and cleared them out. In all fairness hubs did most of it here and by the time we got to mom and dads the neighbors how snow blowed their driveway. The homes in my parents neighborhood are close together and if there is even a garage it's a one car. They had a total to 22 inches and no place to pile the shoveled snow! Unbelievable! Anyway sissy, my niece, BIL, hubs son and I all went and took our dogs. It was a lot of fun, memories were made. I did read back and sounds like everyone's ok!
Rusty, I admire your honesty! That's perfectly fine with me!
Off to take a hot shower and some Advil.

[NoraC]

Sorry I wasn't around. Will read back and catch you in three morning. One month from today until the wedding so been a little busy.
Hugs to all

[paulywogg]

Hey all,Nora,I'll bet you're excited! I wish one of the girls was getting married (to someone I approve of that is haha) Liz,that was nice of you to pop in to the daily thread the other day,you should stop by more often Fen,I'll bet you can't wait until all this divorce b.s is behind you,too much stress,sorry about having to clean up the old cats mess,gross! I used to have a mini poodle who's butt would get yucky and I had to cut it off with scissors, I hafta say thank god that was my drinking days couldn't handle it now haha,Mama,crazy rules going on sheesh,NS,recommend a "whole 30" I checked it out but I don't think I can do it,have any of you done it? Last time I went high protein my boobs shriveled up Hahahaha!! They fluffed back up when I started eating again,but so did everything else alrighty, off to the races,hope we all have a wonderful Monday

[Lizann]

Hey guys. As expected a bit sore today. Food shopping and hung out for a bit at Erin's. Her school was closed, snow day. She works in the same town my parents live and they got the highest snow totals!
Pauly you made me laugh with the boobs shriveling! I clean Lucy's butt whenever she goes out. She sleeps in my bed, she needs to be super clean!
Got a text from CJ, she made it to Pierto Rico! Looks like her connection to JFK is on time right now. I have missed her so! I was initially annoyed she was flying into Kennedy as opposed to Newark which is way closer to home, but turns out Newark still has many cancellations and delays, weather related. They reopened just this morning!
Nora, enjoy, this pre wedding exciting time!

[NoraC]

Hey all...

Liz - oh my gosh, I'll bet you are sore. That is a lot of snow!! So glad to hear that CJ is ok and going to be able to make it home.

Fen - how exciting that there are going to be owlets. Can't wait to hear all about them. Any luck on finding some help for your Mom? About STBX - wow. I am livid on your behalf. I'm glad that you called and talked to her.

Pauly - you made me laugh about your high protein diet and the effects. :rotlf: Are you all recovered now?

Rusty - Did you have any problem traveling with the weather issues? Hope you got all the Christmas decorations down. I just realized that I still have my Christmas dishes sitting up on the shelf. Better take those down. LOL

Mr V - How's it going? You still working a lot?

I'm excited about the wedding but so much that needs to be done. I help where I can but they are taking care of everything. I helped with her dress and I'm going to help pay for the dinner. I'm going to have a bridal shower for her in a couple of weeks. I'm trying to help with the wedding invitations. I bought some blank cards and have designed something to print on it. Just need their final ok and I'll print them at work. But, I think if they would take it to Kinko's, they would get a sharper image. Whatever they want.

Read some interesting posts on PAWS today. I have noticed that I'm just flat and been feeling anxious. I'm going to do some more research on it. I want to make sure that I don't let my guard down.

Getting to the point that I'm scared of venturing out of our safe spot here. So much negativity & drama. Really annoys me. Sometimes I like going around and reading on different threads. Getting helpful tips, etc. I don't post other places very often but I do sometimes. Sad that it's getting to the point that I'm scared to click on a thread.

[fennel]

Geez, Nora...I hear you!

It's weird. I never assume that an entire nation of people feel, behave or think in the same way. It's always a shock to me when somebody accuses the entire U.S. of something horrible.

My mantra is report and ignore.

[Lizann]

Same here fen. I don't need that aggravation in my life. Some people just need to argue and philosophize everything. How was work today?

[Glass Half Empty]

:upsidedown:

Hi USA friends
I saw some hateful things posted in another thread and I’m not going to buy into the argument there, but I just wanted to say that the ridiculous generalization by one grumpy poster from our neck of the woods most definitely does NOT represent the views of the rest of us from downunder on MWO. :love:

Well done on 6 months Nora – I hope things are looking more positive for you now with the wedding in the wings.

:hug: to the rest of my stepper friends.

[NoraC]

Glassie - I throb you. :hug::heart::hanging::heartthumbs:

[paulywogg]

Hey all,head cold now,just great,caught Brady and Louie's junk good to see you Glassy,as far as that thread goes just ignore it,they both love controversy in different ways and I'm over it,have been for some time,I used to love the gratitude thread but I refuse to post there anymore cuz I don't care for the behavior of its originator around the boards,hope everyone is well, let's kick Tuesdays ass