One Step at a Time - January 2016

[NoraC]

Been trying to post all day. So busy at work, I couldn't sneak on.

Pauly - sorry you got the cold. It's really going around here too. Several prop plate at work have been sick.

Liz - have you recovered from the shoveling? Did CJ get home safe and sound?

Fen - what's next on the agenda with the divorce? Are the lawyers hashing it out?

Mama - hope your week is going ok. You must be exhausted.

Rusty - how are you doing?

So sons soon to be FIL is going to pay to have the invitations printed. I'm so happy. They weren't even planning on having invitations and I insisted. But didn't think we had time to get them printed. That's why I just made the do it yourself kind. But, her Dad found this place but didn't want to hurt my feelings. I'm thrilled. These looked so cheesy and I want not happy with them. So, now I'm happy. The little things in life, right? Now if I could just find something dress. :fingers:

[Lizann]

Well, just lost a nice long post!
Nora, I'm glad the invitations are being taken care of and that you are happy about it. I'm sure you will find a dress! Are you wearing long or short? Does it have to be a certain color? I was super busy at work today too!
Pauly, hope you feel better soon. I have been able this far to ward off those germs. I wish CJ would get married too. I suppose they will, but not any time soon. She got home last night or should I say early this morning, 2 am. She did go to work today. She is sleeping at the bfs house. And so it continues! They had a wonderful time on vacation, all relaxed and tan.
Mama, loved your pictures on FB. You make work look like fun.
Rusty, fen, I guess you guys are working hard! I'm off tomorrow and then working Thursday and Friday and Monday. I'll be working alone and that's always hard to keep up with. At least I get my steps in.

[Rusty]

Good Morning, Dear Friends!

I am working long hours, and like Mama, come home and flop into bed, so quick check in for me. You must all be relieved! Hahaha.

Glassy-great to see you here! I love reading your posts but it's been awhile....I'll have to take a peek at the Undies Thread. We know that grumpy posters do not represent all of Kiwi-land. No worries, there. How have you been?

Nora, my dear...oh how well I know how hard it is to find a dress....AL helped me gain about 50 lbs. and trying to find a dress for my nieces' weddings when I was a Size 16 (WHIMPER) was a real drag! And I am short...I know...gross!! Here's an extra big hug from Wisconsin with some thoughts thrown in from this Cheesehead who really loves you: 1) You have a whole month, and you could probably take off a few pounds, and just doing that will make you feel so much better. 2) You daughter-in-law loves you in a way she can't possibly love her own mother, and she won't care if you show up at the wedding dressed as Ronald McDonald. She'll just be delighted that you are there. That's how my nieces felt, and like my sister said when I was whining about my weight when our brother's daughter got married, "Nobody will care what you like...all eyes will be on the bride." I put too much pressure on myself when I was trying to find a dress for my niece's wedding, and I wish I would have gone online to New York & Company and looked around instead of focusing on the big department stores like Macy's, Lord & Taylor, Nordstrom. I found NOTHING there in my size. However, I was not the MOB or the MOG so maybe the big department stores have a nicer selection. When my drinking was at its worst, I was so bloated and I hid from pictures (with good reason)....now, I don't hide....I want my face in every pic because I am a ham!!!! Hahahah. Not really!!!

Liz-I am glad CJ got home safely.

Pauly-you cracked me up too with your shriveling boob story...it made my day. Feel better!

Fenny-so sorry you are going through this painful divorce. I wish I could take your hurt away!

Big hellos to everyone else...I gotta fly! Happy Hump Day, everyone!

Mama-I know you're having fun at the conference. Good for you!

[fennel]

Nora, I'm glad FIL is chipping in. Is DIL's feud with her mom only?
Do you have a "Dress Barn" store nearby? I swear by them in my hours of dressy need...Boston store, too.

Today is the appt. with the divorce financial advisor. Wish me luck.

[NoraC]

Good luck Fen. You are in my thoughts. Hang in there. Please let us know how it goes.

My DIL's Mother just sort of took off. DIL pretty much raised her younger siblings. She doesn't even call her Mom, she calls her by her first name. DIL is close with her Dad though.
DIL actually sent me a text saying how blessed she was to finally have a Mom like me. Really touched me for her to say that.

Waving madly to everyone and now back to work. :checkin:

[Lizann]

Nora, that is so sweet! You are lucky to be getting a wonderful daughter!
Hey rusty, don't work too hard. You're right all eyes will be on the bride! But I for one love to get dressed up. I especially love heels! Nora will you be wearing heels. Shoes can make the outfit IMO. CJ wore a sun dress on the cruise for formal night and just wore silver strappy sandals. . .wala dressed up.
Fen, good luck today. Thinking of you and sending positive vibes your way! Will you tell us later how it went?
I have a pot of red roasted pepper soup simmering on the stove! Yummy can't wait. I'll send some over Pauly, that should help your cold! Nice and warm here today. The snow continues to melt!

[paulywogg]

Liz,I think that soup would knock this cold right out of me good luck Fen!

[paulywogg]

Feel terrible! I'd rather have the shits again instead

[techie]

Dropping by to say hello to all you wonderful people. Stay strong. Stay focused. Stay yourselves!

[Lizann]

Pauly, have you tried a hot bath and some NyQuil? Maybe that will help you sleep and feel better tomorrow? :hug:

[fennel]

Wow, what a day!

Nora, did FIL help to raise DIL at all? I don't think he gets off the hook just for being a dude. Just my two cents worth.

Today was trying. I don't think that the financial agreement as J has it will stand up. We went over a rough budget with me today. There is so much to take into consideration. Plus, our advisor had my attorney as her attorney, which J certainly didn't anticipate.

Working on mom to go into assisted living, but she's not about being considerate of me...we will see how things go.

Just going to crump for the night and report back tomorrow.

I love you all.

Pauly, feel better.

[NoraC]

Hello darling, Techie. :hug:How is your Mom? Are you still in New York? I've been thinking about you. I was even telling hubby about you.

Thanks for all the dress advice. I am going to try The Dress Barn. My friend had mentioned that place too. I'm a jeans & tennies kind of gal. Haven't felt like dressing up for years. Probably since I gained all this weight. But, I know I can find something that will look nice. I just need to actually get out there & look which I'm planning on doing this weekend.

Pauly - I'm sorry you are so sick. Hubby is still sick too and now seems like he is having a relapse. So, be sure to take really good care of yourself.

Liz - I wish you were here to help me get dolled up. :makeup:

Got to post this because I walked away and left it sitting here for an hour.................

[TJAF]

Feel terrible! I'd rather have the shits again instead

TMI my friend TMI

[NoraC]

I am going to try again and see how far I get…..

Fen – I’m so sorry that all this is going on with the financial agreement. But, I am so grateful that you have a good lawyer and financial advisor making sure that you receive your fair share.
I am sorry that your Mom is dragging her feet. How was the place that they looked at? Is there a waiting list? How much is your sister going to be helping now that you are working?
I hope that you were able to chill tonight.

Oh – FIL did raise the kids after she left. But, he worked a lot (she took a LOT of money). So, DIL had too much responsibility from a very young age.

Liz – I was thinking about you & your steps today. Are you & Fen & Pauly keeping track of each other? I started using my fitbit again today. My steps are pathetic. Going to work on that for sure.
Did you have a good day off? When is your next marriage encounter? How many classes are there?

Rusty – glad that you took some time and posted.  Sorry that you are working such long hours though. Are you going home tomorrow?

Well – this post has taken over an hour. So, I am saying goodnight.

[techie]

Hello darling, Techie. :hug:How is your Mom? Are you still in New York? I've been thinking about you. I was even telling hubby about you.

Thanks for all the dress advice. I am going to try The Dress Barn. My friend had mentioned that place too. I'm a jeans & tennies kind of gal. Haven't felt like dressing up for years. Probably since I gained all this weight. But, I know I can find something that will look nice. I just need to actually get out there & look which I'm planning on doing this weekend.

Pauly - I'm sorry you are so sick. Hubby is still sick too and now seems like he is having a relapse. So, be sure to take really good care of yourself.

Liz - I wish you were here to help me get dolled up. :makeup:

Got to post this because I walked away and left it sitting here for an hour.................

Hello Nora. Thank you so very much for thinking of my mom and me. Things are difficult but moving forward. I will be moving my mom to an assisted living facility near me in California. It has been an emotional roller coaster but this is a necessary step to protect her and allow my BIL to facilitate my sisters estate. Again, thank you for your concern. I will pop in from time to time. Even though I have lots of sober time under my belt it is always prudent to stay close to this amazing support network. xoxo