One Step at Time-Feburary 2016

[Lizann]

Yes, I agree with you all. CJ is making it way to convienent for the the bf! Hubs and I have struggled with her since she was 14. We are resigned to the situation because she is home, she is not drinking, doing drugs. She is working full time and sort of being responsible. While we do not totally approve of her choices we are content that she is safe and somewhat responsible.

[NoraC]

Liz - you are absolutely right. She is being responsible. And she is safe. :hug:

[paulywogg]

Hey all,Nora,if you can tolerate diet coke then don't worry about quitting it I'm just doing an experiment right now to avoid certain things to see if some of my yuckiness goes away,are you getting this warm weather? Cripes I hate to bitch but its making my allergies act up already Liz,don't feel weird about your daughter and bf's living situation,there's nothing wrong with it in my opinion, now if they were both unemployed moochers(like Michelle) then you'd have reason to be upset,they're not so chillKells bf quit his job in the heat of the moment yesterday,yikes! Hope he finds something quick, waves to all,hope we all have a brilliant Tuesday

[mama bear]

Pauly - "unemployed moochers like mine".....bwahahahahahaha.....sorry, but that was funny!
Lizz - I agree....if they are good kids and healthy and no trouble, then relish it. Maybe the bf has no funds for a ring???
Fen - just know you are loved.....I don't know what else to say
Nora....I am steel feeling a little "wired", but I know this too shall pass , so I trying not to slap hubs when he won't shut up! Having an office means we are spending more time together than we used too.....
SK - let me know what the corporate authorities say regarding your apartment. Managers should be professional and not let personal feelings be involved...
I had one of my peeps respond to an email in a very snarky way yesterday and I let her know that I appreciated her hard work and devotion to the company, but that she needs to take a breath before she chooses to be insubordinate again. Needless to she called crying and apologizing. The point I am trying to make, SK, is sometime people get a little big for their britches and think they have all this power, when in fact, they don't.

[mama bear]

good luck with the nal and the bac, NE......glad you and your therapist think you are close!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You got this!!!

[paulywogg]

Thanks NE,I know I defo had a mood crash almost instantly after drinking one, I do miss the fizz though regular soda is too sweet for.me bleh!sso I haven't had any boo!

[fennel]

Uff dah! Another day done.

NE, I feel for your friend. We are sort of in the same boat! Her hubs was clearly "through" with the relationship long before he bailed on her that morning...so, his processing was beyond what hers was. For the suddenly dumped person (as you know) it's a very painful shock.

I can't see your friend's relationship working out (with the divergent viewpoints on parenthood). I don't know why people stay together when they know the other person's desire concerning something so important is not theirs. I think people believe they'll talk the other person in or out of having kids. It seldom works out. I really don't understand not talking about it. : (

Liz, if CJ is set on marriage at some point, perhaps she should have the convo with b.f. Something along the lines of "Where do you see this relationship in say, a year or two?" If marriage is not on his radar, maybe she'll have to make a decision whether or not to stick with him. I totally support folks whether they want marriage or not, but I do think that both need to be on the same page. Like the children vs. no children folks, a pro marriage person won't be able to change the non marriage person's viewpoint.

Another thing to consider is whether either of them have ever maintained a household outside of their parent's home for a sustained period of time...it could be that neither is mature enough for marriage. My baby sis went directly from my folk's house to her hub's house. She never had her own place, was never responsible for rent, food, car ownership, taxes, no safety net, LOL...she says it's now one of her biggest regrets.

I vividly remember being in my own apartment, with no safety net whatsoever...my folks cut us loose when we were eighteen (baby sis exempted). I have to say, it was exhilarating and scary at the same time...but it was an important step towards adulthood. Anyway, I think most peeps are not fully "cooked" adults until they are between 26-28 years old...so, they have some time.

Pauly, I won't touch artificial sweeteners. With that said, I do allow myself a daily mini coca-cola during the work week, but it's all "real" sugar, lol. Not that sugar is an awesome thing, either. I think it's fantastic that you are charting your reactions to the artificial stuff and avoiding it. I love the "fizz" of a soda, too...so here's what I do. I purchase one of those twelve packs of lemon Klarrbrun mineral water and use those for my fizz factor. It's really satisfying. Sometimes, I get really crazy and add a splash of cranberry juice to it.

[Lizann]

Hey guys. Thanks for the input on CJ. They are a few years away from marriage I think, and that's ok with me I suppose. They could not afford to be on there own at this point.
I have such a headache today, maybe the weather? We went from 3 degrees to like 53 degrees today. Hubs was home today and it was windy and rainy. A few shingles came off the roof. There was water in the attic! Meanwhile I have been in this house going on 30 years, never a problem with the roof. We got a new roof put on in October and now it leaks! The guy will come tomorrow and fix it. Always something.
My coworker Ann, who calls in sick around vacations and holidays got called into the supervisor today. She was told that this is a pattern and from now on she needs a note from the doctor when she calls in! Oh yeah, she was upset. I on, the other hand am like finally!
Gonna pop a few Advil and head on to bed. Sweet dreams!

[time2quit]

Thanks NE,I know I defo had a mood crash almost instantly after drinking one, I do miss the fizz though regular soda is too sweet for.me bleh!sso I haven't had any boo!

Sparkling Mineral FTW and FTF (for the Fiz) see what I did there.....

[fennel]

Liz, thank goodness your co-worker is finally being held accountable for her egregious absences! I hope she gets bounced out of there soon!

[paulywogg]

Hey all,sheesh quiet here this morning, slackers!!!! Haha,gonna be nearly 80 today! I'm still not breaking out the summer clothes though,I know Vegas weather, hope all are well,have a wonderful Wednesday

[Rusty]

Hi Gang,

Checking in from Canada. It's been a great trip. Still at work. Coming home later this afternoon. YAYYYYY!!

Hi to everyone!

[mama bear]

Safe Travels Rusty!!!
I do equal in my coffee and then I drink sweet tea. I swear the Equal gives me brain fuzz, and then the sweet tea clears my head. Who knows?
I had a crappy day yesterday with a shitty employee that I need to fire and I wanted a six pack SO bad......I was THAT close to buying it, but I spent my hour in traffic and calmed down and the mood to drink passed. And this morning I am clear headed and working on that employee issue. YAY!
Pauly - I am sitting here in sweat pants and FUGGS.....(fake uggs)...it's chilly in Florida!
Lizz - I am glad someone recognized your co-workers issue and hopefully this will be better for you. CJ is lucky to have you.....
I had my own apartment at 21 and remember scrounging for quarters for Ramen noodles and beer......that was in college and I lpved being out on my own.
OK....off to work and make it happen
I love you all....check in Nora!

[NoraC]

Hey all - here's my check in, Mama. :checkin:

Just busy here. Sad at work with my friend gone. She is enjoying her new job though.
Busy trying to get ready for the shower on Saturday and the wedding next Wed. Whew!
Had some random drinking thoughts but nothing major. More of a relief not to be dealing with all the crap associated with drinking. It involved so much - all the planning, all the debate, all the sneaking, all the feeling like crap. Better days without it. I was trying to find a pair of my shoes under the bed and was pulling out shoe boxes. Boy was I glad that I didn't pull out a bottle. :egad:

[paulywogg]

Nora,I once found an empty 12 pack box in my closet! Those days are NOT missed!