One Step at Time-Feburary 2016

[paulywogg]

Hey all,NE,its always slow around here on the weekend,don't think its you Cowboy,I clicked thanks for the Happy Valentine's day and liked that you've been sober for a year and are quitting smoking but please don't dismiss other threads as "social media" there are plenty of other helpful threads that I follow,it can't be a one size fits all zone,I think we all do what works for us,hope everyone has a great V-day,off to shower and wake up

[fennel]

Nice to see you, Cowboy!

NE, things get quiet on weekends.

Sorry I didn't post yesterday. I spent a good part of my precious day off hauling crap out of my mom's basement. All of the dust messed up my breathing, plus she was watching Barb and I like a hawk to make sure we didn't slip any of her uninspected treasures into the pile. Took it to the consignment shop, but the owner wasn't there. She forgot that we had an appt., so I had to leave mom's nasty hoard in my fennel-mobile for two hours until the owner returned. It was an exhausting day.

We spent the evening watching Monty Python's "The Life of Brian."

Sad that I am not making a valentine's card for anyone today. : (

[fennel]

I don't know how long MWO will be around. The owner has clearly gotten on with her life. It's ridiculously easy to start a new forum using proboards and the like.

I don't understand why it's so difficult for peeps to put trolls on "ignore" and keep them that way. Once I realize that someone is unkind and wants attention, the first thing I do is deny them that attention.

[NoraC]

Hello all - yep, I was busy yesterday, too. Returned a dress, looked for shoes, looked for clothes for Mom.

Cowboy, great to see you. Glad that you are doing so well.

I agree with Pauly. There are many great threads here. I mainly post on this thread but I read and get helpful information on other threads. I am trying to keep my options open by checking on other forums. But, this is my main support.
I do not think that the Steppers have lost their purpose. In my opinion, my purpose is to get thru each day without alcohol. There are some days when I need to talk about it and do talk about it here. There are other days when I do use this as more of a friendship thread and talk about life. But, honestly, that is what I need. Not talking and holding it in is what got me in this place. Coming here each day and talking about the ups & downs of daily life really helps me. Also, when I get to that point of thinking a drink might be helpful, my friends here already know what has been going on in my life and can jump right in to help.
Oh well, it is working for me.

[NoraC]

Ne - you made me laugh about your comment about checking in from work but not on the weekend. :rotlf: Seriously, I normally do but yesterday was a little busy.
Congratulations on taking the antabuse. Please do be careful though. If you drink in the next couple of days, you will more than likely have a reaction from the antabuse. I know that I did and it's not fun. Major flushing, racing heart - I know people that have vomited repeatedly. It's a great med when you take it and know you will not drink on it. But, if there is any chance you will drink, it's not worth the risk.
Sorry - I don't mean to be lecturing. I just know how it was for me a few months ago. I would be determined and take the AB then cave a couple days later. Then having a reaction to the AB. Trying to hide it from hubby. And I did it on several different occasions. I was definitely at my low point at the beginning of last year.

Ok - enough lecturing. Yes, thank you for inviting us to the new forum. I am very interested. I definitely think meds have their place and help many people. I just didn't give the meds a chance. I kept going off of them.

[NoraC]

Hi Steppers. Just wanted to pop in and say that I love reading your thread. I think it is a wonderful place of support and I certainly do not think you have lost your purpose. Keep up the good work!

Starty - thank you for that. I had just skimmed before and I missed your post. I sat down to read properly and saw it. :hug: I try to follow you around and keep up with you. You are doing fantastic!

[NoraC]

Seems like I am going to monopolize the thread this morning. :harhar: I'll make up for yesterday.......

Anyway, we went to the liquor store this morning to get the Sunday paper and some ice. I was sitting in the car waiting for hubby and saw a man walk in. Hubby came out and as I was backing up the car, I looked up and that man walked out of the store, opened a shot bottle of whiskey and downed it. Wow! Scary thing is that when I look back at some of my behavior, that could have been me one day. I am gladly saying today that I do not drink!

[SKendall]

Morning all. I'm not into Valentine's Day except for kids it annoys me that the card/flower/chocolate industry wants to tell us how and when to appreciate our loved ones. Feb. 15th and everyone goes back to their relationship as if Valentine's Day didn't happen. In any event I got Godiva truffles which I am enjoying very much.

Glad to see Cowboy pop in. I don't agree with him dismissing some of the threads as social media, but I don't share the outrage.

When we were active in our disease we shunned the social life. We always put our addiction first. We came here because we were looking for help and we got it As a result we began to heal and make connections and these connections will likely last a lifetime. We need these connections because our friendships here are not based on judgment as friends and family do (although we put them through hell). Our friends here were anonymous in the beginning but had the compassion to reach out and touch us. Any meet ups that have occurred here were very successful. I had a meet up when we had a subs thread and it was amazing and fun. I applaud the social value of this site. When we have battled the demon we don't talk about it any more, but still need these connections. There are still people here on their journey and we will be here to help them.

Cowboy has been valuable to MWO and I will not judge him on that comment.

Had a tummy bug for 24 hours - brutal. I was puking in the kitchen and had the patio door was open Peggy got out and was brought home by management. I think the eviction starts tomorrow . Any advice from Mama would be appreciated. I'm not going into details but stalking has been involved. The wife of the Maintenance Manager slipped me the manager's boss's name and told me I don't deserve the harassment I've received and she is a very private person.

[NoraC]

Gosh, yet again, there are things from a couple days ago that I want to comment on. LOL I hate when I wait too long to post.

I was laughing about the 99 cent store or Dollar Tree. Yep, I can easily spend $50.00 in there. Ha ha Oh, look - it's only $1.00, I better get it. Funny that hubby bought you big socks, Liz.

Liz - I do have to say that was really good the way you handled that lost money situation. Of course, you want to get the money back to who lost it. I just don't understand people sometimes. Maybe CJ's boyfriend is saving the ring for tonight?? Have they even talked about getting married? He might need a little PUSH.

Pauly - when is hubby getting his tats reinked? My tattoo is just black ink but it has faded. What are you going to do today?

Fen - what happened with the basement?? I thought your sister was going to do it. Does your Mom realize that the majority of her things won't be able to go with her to the assisted living?
((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))) I thought of you yesterday and the special cards you always made her.

Life of Brian was a good choice to watch.

[SKendall]

Ne, I applaud your efforts on the ab and willingness to get AF. Congrats and thank you for your new site. It has taken a lot of work and will benefit many. I am disappointed in the lack of moderation on this site when we had the subs thread we were contributing monthly to the financial support and a thread started to run us off and there was no intervention.

Nora, it's very healthy when we recognize someone struggling and have gratitude we are not them. Good luck with the shopping!

Since my 2011 surgery I have feet that are different sizes one a 7-1/2C and my "real foot" a 9B. I mostly wear crocs, but have one pair of expensive shoes that I can wear with lots of padding in the 7-1/2 shoe. Hate shoe shopping!

I'm off to look at potential homes online and my friend will take me to see them tomorrow, hopefully. I told my husband to drop the price $20K to a potential buyer who lives in Calif but fell in love with the place, but he doesn't retire for 18months. He is a fly fisherman and when walking the property a fisherman landed a steelhead trout in front of him - serendipity.

I am very chatty today, lol.

[NoraC]

SK - gee whiz. Sorry that you've been sick with the stomach bug. Yuck I really hope that something can be worked out with your landlord.
I hope that you find some great homes to look at.
Wow - you have a harder time finding shoes than I do! I am back to looking online.

I think that I've missed some more posts. Was Rusty around? Got to read back again.

Glassie - so WONDERFUL to see you. :flowerspop:

[fennel]

Sorry I'm in a foul mood. Mom's hoarding b.s. yesterday didn't help, and today, I was sad about not having anyone to make a valentine card for...and Mrs. Fen dropped in unexpectedly, bearing gifts. A heart shaped pizza, banana bread from her mom...it just made me all the more sad and when she left, Barb held me while I sobbed. I wish two years could be gone and I could just feel better.

SK, what on earth is up with your landlord? If you're in a bad neighborhood, she should be thrilled there's somebody renting who pays on time and isn't cooking up meth in the kitchen! I'm really sorry.

NE, I am bummed about the lack of moderation here. Where did you hear the rumors about the owner? Any pleas for some sort of response have fallen on seemingly deaf ears here, and I've tried A LOT. It makes me so unhappy that some are allowed to run roughshod over others with zero consequences.

Nora, good luck with the shoe shopping.

[paulywogg]

Aww Fen,don't be in a yuckster mood,valentines day is just a made up holiday anyways but defo pig out on the pizza and banana bread, as far as ignoring trolls,that part is easy but when someone makes a stink when they're someone who you used to look to for support makes it harder,I think my feelings get hurt more than anything, I just don't like anymosity and little jabs here and there when we're all supposed to be in this together ya know? Meh,its over as far as I'm concerned, hope your day turns around

[NoraC]

Ok - I've read back and Mama hasn't been around since her birthday. Where are you?????? I hope that you had the best birthday ever. :welldone::hug:

Now - off to find Rusty.

[NoraC]

Oh Fen ((((((((((((FEN))))))))))))
I am so very, very sorry. I don't understand why she would do that. She has been making things difficult with the divorce. Now, to come over and open up those wounds that haven't even healed yet. Oh - I wish you could feel all the love & energy I am sending you right now. :hug: