One Step at Time-Feburary 2016

[NoraC]

Ne - that was really sweet of your hubby to do that. Really a thoughtful gift.

[SKendall]

Fen, I wish I could say something to make you feel better. Big hugs from me. Unfortunately time and distance help but are elusive. Your proximity to her must be painful.

[mama bear]

I am here and plan on staying here. I have no interest in any other threads. This is my online family and if we talk about AL, that's fine and if we don't that's fine.
I had a great birthday and I even sang karoke!!
Yesterday I cleaned and suddenly out of nowhere, I had a HUGE panic attack. Tingling fingers, crying, unable to breathe......it scared the shit out of me and Bret. I took an anxiety pill and calmed down and just went to bed early.
I guess all the burdens we are shouldering reared their ugly head. Bret was very sweet and I have just been vegging this weekend.
I will back tomorrow when I am working from home.
Sorry....it sound like some of us are in bummed out places. Keep on talking....we are here for you.
I love you all and am headed to nana's soon......

[mama bear]

Fenny -I totally get the bootie call thing......you know I was playing, right?

[NoraC]

Mama - I am so sorry about the panic attack. Good on you for taking it easy this weekend. You really, really, really need to do that for yourself. :hug: :hug:
Glad you had a great birthday.

[techie]

Happy Valentines Day

[NoraC]

Techie - Happy Valentines Day. :heartbeat::love_heart:

[mama bear]

you too Techie!
Thanks Nora.
I bite back when anyone bites one of us, but otherwise I stay out of the drama, too. Follow the joy.....I love that saying.
Cute pics on FB Lizz and Pauly.
Skwerly Butt - please don't cry...I know that;s easier said than done, but I am sad sor you.
Nursie's birthday is the same as mine!! We chatted on FB and she is doing last "infusion" this week.
NE - I don't mean to be ugly or sound ugly about a new thread and I think it's sweet your husband supports you.
We get to get you done with those benders......

[Rusty]

Happy ValentinGood Afternoon Friends,

I had every intention of posting early this morning, however, for some reason, I was not able to get on the internet (and still cannot) and I am posting from the free WI-FI at our local grocery story. I have not posted in the last couple of days because I have been celebrating my birthday with my friends and spending time with my Mom.

Cowboy-

My personal opinion, if MWO survives and I think it will, it will basically shrink to 4 support threads, Newbies Nest, Roll Call, Steppers, and Loamers. The rest of the threads are just social media in my opinion.

Congratulations on your 1 Year AF. That is quite an achievement. I caution you about getting too confident regarding your sobriety...meaning you say you don't "need" anyone's help, etc. We have had people here with several years of sobriety who have decided to test the waters only to fall back into AL's clutches. If it happened to them, it can happen to you, too. I disagree with you that all the other threads that you mention are just "social media" types. You obviously have not spent any time on the Army Thread. That thread is abstinence-based, and TOTALLY supportive of people who are struggling to be AF. Many people, including myself, got sober with the help of the wonderful people on that thread. You also left out the Monthly Abstinence Thread, which is lead by Lavande, who has many years of sobriety. Cowboy, I know you are actively involved in AA...and although I have never been to an AA meeting, I have relatives who are active members. While the Army members don't raise their hands every day and say, "I am_____ and I'm an alcoholic," as they do in AA, if you read the posts, someone EVERY DAY mentions how their life is so much better without AL. When someone has drinking thoughts that appear out of the blue and shares that uneasiness with the people on that thread, someone on the thread immediately responds. If it seems like "social media" to you, it's because they share a common bond and they have become friends because of that bond.

Big hellos and waves of love to Nora, Mama, Fennel, Skendall, Liz, NE, Pauly, Techie, Mr. G., Glassy, Red67, and our friends across the pond: JackieClaire, Starty, Molly, Satz, Foxy, Sweetpea, et al.

I will address everyone tomorrow when I get the chance.

[fennel]

Mama, did you inhale some cleaning chemicals that might have caused your panic attack? Or accidentally mixed a couple of chemicals that caused a reaction? I'm really sorry, panic attacks suck.

I wish I could do a booty call, that way I could erase Mrs. Fen from me- or, at least she wouldn't have been the last person I was with.

NE, you're fine. Divorce is just hard. I can honestly say that it's the most painful thing that has happened to me to date. Unfortunately, it takes a couple of years to recover from one.

SK, I don't know the law in WA, but here, even if you receive a notice that says you have to move out pronto, legally the process can go on for months. Mama will know more about that than I do. Do you have a tenant resource center in your area? They can advise you for free.

Starty, it was nice of you to drop in!

Nora, Mrs. Fen didn't mean to stir things up for me. She's wired very differently when it comes to emotions. She was trying to be nice, but it's just too hard for me when she does crap like that. My thought was "Why the hell are we getting divorced if you're going to pop in on V- day with gifts?"

Hi, Rusty. Nice to see you!

[fennel]

To put things in perspective...I went antiquing after the hoarding debacle yesterday and bought this picture...it was in a cheap frame inside of a bird cage, but it "spoke" to me, LOL.

[SKendall]

I wish we had the saying like G'day that the Aussies have instead of good morning, good afternoon and good evening. Since we are all in different time zones G'day avoids that.

For those of you have asked about my landlord, it's purely personal and a result of my conversation with her bullying boyfriend who is known as the sheriff with no badge. It's unfortunate, but it is what it is and I am seeking legal help.

I am done with the subject, but since I brought it up, well.

Has anyone cut their cable with ROKU or other streaming devices? I'm about to try.

[SKendall]

Fen, I can totally see how ex is differently wired from you. She doesn't get your pain.

I am reaching out to support agencies Fen, thanks for the mention.

Mama, those panic attacks are so scary, I've had some and darned near called 911. WA state is so paranoid about controlled substances that's it's very difficult to get benzos or pain meds. Glad you had some and Brett was so sweet.

[Glass Half Empty]

I wish we had the saying like G'day that the Aussies have instead of good morning, good afternoon and good evening. Since we are all in different time zones G'day avoids that.

You're welcome to use it - we haven't patented it! :thumbsup:

[NoraC]

To put things in perspective...I went antiquing after the hoarding debacle yesterday and bought this picture...it was in a cheap frame inside of a bird cage, but it "spoke" to me, LOL.

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I'm sorry but that made me laugh my head off. :harhar: :rotlf: :harhar: