Army Social :) 15th Feb

[kuya]

Morning Army -- not a lot going on in my world -- norra lot of positives anyway so will keep it nifty -- hope young Satz is okay and maybe just has to learn by his own mistakes.... hard tho -- and just read that bout Kuya's mum -- so sorry Kuya -- howdy to everyone else

Thanks Molly,

Funny thing is that her threatened demise has been on the cards since just before Xmas and I have been up and down emotionally since then.

Upside of all of this is that this is probably the very last time I will have to deal with any of my mother's family directly.

I have tons of friends and relatives through marriage to visit whilst over there...that is exciting.

There is not one of her/my family that I would ever want to spend time with again....which is kinda sad, but also a relief.

[satz123]

Thanks Molly,

Funny thing is that her threatened demise has been on the cards since just before Xmas and I have been up and down emotionally since then.

Upside of all of this is that this is probably the very last time I will have to deal with any of my mother's family directly.

I have tons of friends and relatives through marriage to visit whilst over there...that is exciting.

There is not one of her/my family that I would ever want to spend time with again....which is kinda sad, but also a relief.

That's totally understandable KY. You can get closure on a chapter in your life that was hurtful to you...
Don't you have an Irish connection too?

[satz123]

Morning Army -- not a lot going on in my world -- norra lot of positives anyway so will keep it nifty -- hope young Satz is okay and maybe just has to learn by his own mistakes.... hard tho -- and just read that bout Kuya's mum -- so sorry Kuya -- howdy to everyone else

Young Satz - I'm leaving him to it - just hope he doesn't ruin everything now.
Molls you don't have to be all happy clappy to post here.
Positives / negatives - annoying husbands & offspring -we all have them & share all sorts. You KNOW that.

[kuya]

That's totally understandable KY. You can get closure on a chapter in your life that was hurtful to you...
Don't you have an Irish connection too?

The father of my middle child is Irish and I have a huge connection through my practice in the UK, my best mate, my very best nurse. I love the country and the resilience, not overly fond of the religion ! LOL

quite some similarities there --- I have no relations from my family of origin left in my life -- none -- kinda sad? mm dunno -- it makes life less complicated for sure -- don't know if I'll regret it when I'm old but for now I'll take it -- I posted on Satz's thread -- be gentle with yourself -- emotions are weird things

yeah Molly I am so up and down right now... I have to quit talking and start feeling tomorrow. Really not looking forward to that TBH

[kuya]

anyhoos... night guys and thanks for the support... it means a lot, truly

[satz123]

Hey Kuya - this guy is Irish has a tv show in UK and the English LOVE him :
He helps the lost causes. Fixed rig cameras in the practice’s waiting room and behind the scenes at the practice capture the raw emotion, the drama of a vet's practice.

https://www.thesupervet.com/

Night night !

[JackieClaire]

Morning lovelies,
Yep Mers, me and Mr JC are old school headbangers but I'm the only one left with hair and will keep on rocking in our wheel chairs should the day ever come.

Ahhhhhhh supervet :heartbeat:



Luckily we're good friends with our vet and his wife (met her 29 years ago at Mother & Toddler group)..............so far he's euthanised 2 of our dogs, castrated 2, spayed one, treated a hamster for mange and don't ask about the anal glands.

[starty]

Morning guys!

Kuya, you know we are all here for you. Losing a parent is so tough no matter what the circumstances :hug:

Satzy Noel Fitzpatrick is my GOD I absolutely adore him from the bottom of my scaldy ole heart.

Just been for a beautiful walk in the country. Walking with the doggers makes me so happy that I am not drinking. I think that is my pure joy to do that and just watch them play. That really is my peaceful place.

[kuya]

Dammit I meant to edit but deleted.

Anyhoos Molls I really want to train to help with the 3 Ps .... Everything I am and everything I have seen keeps pushing me that way.

Maybe mum dying will free me up financially to follow my heart... We shall see.

[GlitzyB]

Morning army. Kuya sorry to hear about your mum i hope you get through ok its n ot easy but she eas your mother so i can understand having lost both parents as a toddler and then a young adult. AAhh young Satz one day he will get it he has to find his own way and keep learning is he still going for the counciling and meetings? I haven't got an AA in ages time its time to get back. Paddy's day amd Easter coming i could always use the extra help as i drank thise times last year but its a day and a weekend it come will come and go like the rest. Lovely day here if a bit blustery but mild and sunny. i tend not to want to post any where on a bad either it used to be a big trigger for drinking but not now so i do try and check in daily and and at least read around. ahh good news for Jen and older son getting their own places sorted now you call to them for a change and i love seeing new homes and how decorate them make their stamp etc always looking for ideas for my own gaff. Roxy missing you check in if you can. Have a super sober Sunday all. xx

[IamMary]

Morning all,
|Im with Starty, up and out early with the kids (instead of dogs!), its a bit manky out there, but we have all had plenty of fresh air so license granted to veg for the day.

Kuya - theres a lot going on for you now.. big chapter closing. mind youself and prioritise your sleep if you can :hug:

Molly, hope your meditating, or preferably levitating above the gloom. As Satz says, we all have crap and your always so generous with your time and advice. I am always amazed how you and others can empathise and articulate wonderful words of help, I feel like copying and pasting sometime!! I am a great listener though

[IamMary]

Glitzy, how are you having a lovely day, its horrible here. Grey, windy and wet. Have you got your sunny day blinds still down??

[satz123]

I suppose that thing of 'find yourself ' that we used to scoff at as 'tree hugger' nonsense is the same thing.

On another note :
I was just preparing Linner ( Lunch / Dinner) for my mother and daughter.
I remembered towards the end of my drinking I couldn't cope with even a simple thing like that without a glass of wine. Thinking it was boring and something to get through. As I poured I remember wishing with all my heart I could be like others and not have to have the wine+ more when they left.
I would pick a reasonable time to open it and have a few - and when they came pretend I'd just opened the bottle. :yuk:

I came here in January 2012 and met Jacks & Molls and others - Starts & Oney were here too - just listening to their chatter about life sober is what did it for me. I learned there is pleasure in simple things.
I related to J & M I suppose as we were of an age and same timezone so thought the same about life and had been through the same.

So I will continue to chatter here in case there is another Satz out there lonely & needing to know they are not alone.

[starty]

I suppose that thing of 'find yourself ' that we used to scoff at as 'tree hugger' nonsense is the same thing.

On another note :
I was just preparing Linner ( Lunch / Dinner) for my mother and daughter.
I remembered towards the end of my drinking I couldn't cope with even a simple thing like that without a glass of wine. Thinking it was boring and something to get through. As I poured I remember wishing with all my heart I could be like others and not have to have the wine+ more when they left.
I would pick a reasonable time to open it and have a few - and when they came pretend I'd just opened the bottle. :yuk:

I came here in January 2012 and met Jacks & Molls and others - Starts & Oney were here too - just listening to their chatter about life sober is what did it for me. I learned there is pleasure in simple things.
I related to J & M I suppose as we were of an age and same timezone so thought the same about life and had been through the same.

So I will continue to chatter here in case there is another Satz out there lonely & needing to know they are not alone.

What a wonderful post Satzy. That just about sums it all up. Sometimes when I am on FB and I see people who seem to spend all their time partying or at a pub I feel weirdly jealous or abnormal. I have to continually remind myself that is not something I can do, nor do I want to do. It is those times that I can feel a bit lonely too and that is when I realise it is just all in my head and there are many more rewarding things to do that I can actually cope with now I am sober.

[GlitzyB]

Hi Mary it was raIning here early this morning b ut there is nice sunny spells and i took a photo of a rainbow over my back garden bout half hour and posted it on fb and made it my cover pic also. Its amazing how the weather can be differant just a few mies from your own area. Satz i used to that too. Get through boring housework or cooking some thing that some time and prep. A few glasses made it easier and less of a chore and then a few glasses and another bottle and a relaxing meal with a vino in front of tv became a blackout or else i fell asleep as i was too drunk to enjoy it. Ahh the madess of drink and alcohol addiction.