First of all I would like to apologize to any newcomers who haven't felt welcomed. We try our best but sometimes the "need for help" posts get lost in the middle of another thread.
We have a "just starting out" forum and also a "newbie" forum. I know it's difficult to post at first, because you are reading posts from members who have been year for 2 years or more and have shared day to day experiences dealing with pain, death, divorce and of course, the day to day battles of alcohol abuse.
If, what you perceive to be a clique, is not one at all just an on-going relationship with members who are committed to this program. Yes, the a.m. threads are the early birds who refer to each other as muffins - many explanations on that, but the most popular one is the fact that some of us have waistbands overflowing like a baked muffin.
We have threads started from different time zones and we all try to welcome newcomers. I was a newcomer myself until November '06 and felt intimidated and just lurked for a while. When I did finally post, I was welcomed with open arms. The intimidation feeling was in me, not in the pre-existing members here.
Also, when some of us find this site, we are feeling a little desperate, low self-esteem, etc. and we expect a lot of attention, etc. Like so many people going into rehab feel - we all have this feeling that - it's about me.
Anyone who has ventured to find this site needs assistance and compassion, I think for the most part we fulfill that need. Everyone is welcome and we have very long arms loads of compassion and love to embrace you all.
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Hilary :welcome:
We have a "just starting out" forum and also a "newbie" forum. I know it's difficult to post at first, because you are reading posts from members who have been year for 2 years or more and have shared day to day experiences dealing with pain, death, divorce and of course, the day to day battles of alcohol abuse.
If, what you perceive to be a clique, is not one at all just an on-going relationship with members who are committed to this program. Yes, the a.m. threads are the early birds who refer to each other as muffins - many explanations on that, but the most popular one is the fact that some of us have waistbands overflowing like a baked muffin.
We have threads started from different time zones and we all try to welcome newcomers. I was a newcomer myself until November '06 and felt intimidated and just lurked for a while. When I did finally post, I was welcomed with open arms. The intimidation feeling was in me, not in the pre-existing members here.
Also, when some of us find this site, we are feeling a little desperate, low self-esteem, etc. and we expect a lot of attention, etc. Like so many people going into rehab feel - we all have this feeling that - it's about me.
Anyone who has ventured to find this site needs assistance and compassion, I think for the most part we fulfill that need. Everyone is welcome and we have very long arms loads of compassion and love to embrace you all.
:h :h
Hilary :welcome:
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