One Step at a Time - March 2016

[fennel]

Liz, what does bf do for a living? Since he officially lives with his folks, I figured he didn't make a lot of money. Would be even be eligible for a loan? Is this residential property or a business?
Realistically, your daughter is an adult and will do as she pleases, but I sure wish she wouldn't hitch her trailer to his star.

Not much advice. I doubt if he'll even get approved for a loan, but even if he does, CJ gets to make her own decisions.

I was up last night trying to fill out my financial disclosure form for the divorce. I'm going to need assistance with it, unfortunately. I hope Barb can help me. If not, I might just bring it to J's and my tax guy.

So, the house closing is the 31st of March, my friend and his bro start painting on the first, the flooring guys come in on the seventh, and hopefully, I move in on the ninth. Oh, and my divorce is scheduled for the seventh. Everything is happening at the same time, essentially. Wish me luck.

[Lizann]

Fen you are correct. He does not make a lot of money. He is a medical school drop out much to his parents chagrin. He is bought a cafe in the town where my parents live and although he is making money it's really not a lot. Just trying to process all this.
Fen, thanks for making the point that he probably wouldn't be approved for a loan.
This is all going to work out for the best. My chin is up!

[Glass Half Empty]

I'm wishing you luck Fen. Hopefully all the worst of it will be over soon and you can move on to better things. :hug:

[SKendall]

Hi Glassy congrats on baby, grandchildren are the best. I think Vivian, my granddaughter's heart beats with mine.

Lizz, been there. My daughter was engaged to a guy who I liked but knew it wouldn't last and I said NOTHING and was fully prepared to support her when it didn't work out. Deposit was on the reception, etc. It was almost by osmosis that she broke it off, and I offered my support for cancelling events, etc. My sil is heaven sent for her.

It may work out or not, but she is entitled to her decision and the experience will be a good one.
I don't call decisions mistakes when they are so young, it's an independent decision and she has the rest of her life to live. If it goes pear-shaped she will bounce back quickly. This is an opportunity for her that she wouldn't get standing in place.

If you haven't checked out ne's website, you need to. It's easy, professional and safe, I will join tomorrow.

[Glass Half Empty]

Thanks SK :happy2:

Liz - I agree with the others. All you can do is let her potentially make her own mistakes and be there for her if it doesn't work out. And try to keep in mind that if you say anything too negative now, it may make it harder for her to admit things aren't going well and to come home if she needs you.

[actiongirl46]

SK - I'm glad you are feeling better! I hope I read that right . . . Scary times.

Liz - yep, can't add much more . . . I really liked Glass Half Empty's last point. However, that doesn't mean that you can't ask some questions (framed positively : ) that will hopefully make her think . . . good luck . . .

Fen - your move is almost here. Lots going on for you, wow! hang in there!

Nora, what is your job?

I had a great yoga session AND therapy today, one lucky girl I am. She thinks I am making great progress (not so much with the yoga, ha ha). Well, I'll take one out of two.

Take care! AG

[Rusty]

Good Morning Friends!

I have another day off today but it will be busy...exercising, hair cut and color, and then making the final selection on selections for my bathroom remodel. I am so excited and I know it's going to be $$$$$, but I don't care! LOL

Skendall-I liked AG's advice on making a list of numbers and then trying to recite them backwards. How scary that you had such severe memory loss! I agree with everyone else, maybe you need an MRI? :hug:

Glassie!!! So good to see you here...and congratulations on expecting a grandchild! How Fun!!

Fenny-wow, with all you have on your plate, you are holding up sooo well. Are you getting excited for your condo?

Mama-do you get this weekend off?

Pauly-what are you up to today?

AG-you sound so positive...great to hear!

Nora-are you working today? What are you doing for Easter?

Well, I am off to the gym, so I hope everyone has a peaceful Good Friday. :-)

[mama bear]

trying to get motivated to get to work....sipping coffee at the moment.....I'll read back when I wake up

[Lizann]

Thanks guys, I appreciate your input. I just saw red when she told me that yesterday. A little distance and thought makes it seem less than likely. CJ has asked me about the ring(she will get my MILs diamond), she mentioned she questioned the banquet facility where she works about price. I think she has it all layed out and planned out, joe on the other hand is flying by the seat of his pants. It just breaks my heart, she deserves so much better than this.
Anyway quiet day at the office, dinner with my boys and then church tonight. Have a good night.

[SKendall]

Hi Lizz, we have a hard time thinking anyone is worthy of our daughters and mothers of boys don't feel any girl is worthy of their son. Its a universal issue but allowing her this opportunity is much better than sheltering her. Many parents who have been helicopter parents have kids that can't cope. Before my kids left home daughter had to learn to change a tire, change her oil and know how to cook. Son already knew how to cook, change a tire and they were both doing their laundry at 16 yrs. old and son was ironing his shirts for work.

I was thanked my son's girlfriends for raising him as such and daughter was able to work, cook, cut the grass, etc. At some point we have to realize our kids will be spouses and educate them accordingly.

[SKendall]

Another thing. I was reading in the Army this week about thoughts and pangs re alcohol.

After I was sober for a while I decided I would not indulge myself in thoughts of drinking and put those thoughts into the category of your parents having sex, lol. So I really don't allow the thoughts in my head. Today, a friend took me shopping and I have to drive one of the battery operated carts and swung into the wine and liquor aisle while I was looking for dog treats and wham! I was so shocked but my old wine label was on sale, I almost stopped the cart but didn't but I had not been confronted like this for a while.

It is necessary to protect your quit, but this came out of the blue. Could have been a low sugar/hunger issue so I bought a leg of lamb, small ham and a cheesecake!

I am not ready to be NS right now, and the lamb is roasting!

[Glass Half Empty]

Another thing. I was reading in the Army this week about thoughts and pangs re alcohol. Today, a friend took me shopping and I have to drive one of the battery operated carts and swung into the wine and liquor aisle while I was looking for dog treats

Wow - things really are different here. Battery operated carts and wine and liquor aisles? I can only imagine how hard it must be to avoid buying alcohol when it's in the actual supermarket. Not that ours is hard to get, but at least it's not staring us in the face while we're doing our normal shopping.

[red67]

Hi all, busy week for me and now ready for Easter! Hope everyone has a wonderful weekend!

[actiongirl46]

SK, I had a similar instance yesterday in the Target. My fav was on sale (who cares!) and I almost reached for it. I turned on my heel and distracted myself in the rows of bedding choices. Even though I'm modding, I am keeping all AL out of the house. I am fortunate that hubs is committed to that too. I know I can't be healthy with AL here.

Nora, how goes it?? What's on your list for this weekend?

Hey Pauly, what is going on in your world?

Pretty quiet weekend here as all of our extended family is either far away or occupied. My all male household doesn't really get into decorating or making things nice for Easter dinner, so that falls to me. Which is just fine! Of course I went all out on Easter baskets for the teenagers and even got some dye for eggs. We haven't done that in a long time. We'll see how it goes . . . I have band rehearsal today and then we play for two services tomorrow.

Have a great Saturday where you are! I'll check in later.

[SKendall]

Hi Red good to see you.

Yep, states have their own rules on the liquor laws.

AG glad you didn't buy any. I got away pretty fast on my cart lol. Can't wait until I don't have to use the carts but they are helpful right now.