Army gates open 7th march 2016

[JackieClaire]

Morning lovelies,
Tell us why its not so simple and we'll try and simplify it.

[satz123]

At the end of my drinking I thought I had it 'in control' and down to just a few G&Ts every day while getting the dinner.
But these were huge G&Ts and getting bigger - then Mr S found the empty bottle collection :egad:
His reaction brought it home to me that this dysfunctional life I was living was not in any way normal & needed to be fixed.
I was just living a half-life.............
Don't get me wrong my life in the evening is not exciting - but at least I'm now functioning the other 50% of my day.

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

Hi JC, I dunno right now.

[JackieClaire]

I'll go into alcohol worker mode for a bit............then I'll go back to being a clattering ol' woman.

I'm not going to ask you to throw all the drink down the drain this week.

Get a big piece of paper.........write down when you drink, how you feel, and at the the end of the day tot up how much you've had................for 7 days. No-one else needs to see it just you. Even after the first week you'll see a pattern.

Well that's your homework for this week.

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

Ok I will do that, thanks.
Bye for now ladies.

[JackieClaire]

Can I go back to clattering now?

[JackieClaire]

He'd better

[IamMary]

Morning Clattering ol ones!
Just missed you there tabbers..

Molly, you mentioned that before and its what we do now, dinner by 6. We were the same, wine most nights, although with the kids, Id wait till they were in bed mid week. Then at the weekend, all bets were off.
Mr M still drinks at home Satz. ITs mostly beer, thats fine. But at least 1 bottle of wine appears in the fridge at the weekend. He keeps the brown paper bag on it, cos then I might not notice!

Satz - I went to great lengths disposing my gin/vodka bottles, no alco lived here you know!!!

[IamMary]

I'll go into alcohol worker mode for a bit............then I'll go back to being a clattering ol' woman.

I'm not going to ask you to throw all the drink down the drain this week.

Get a big piece of paper.........write down when you drink, how you feel, and at the the end of the day tot up how much you've had................for 7 days. No-one else needs to see it just you. Even after the first week you'll see a pattern.

Well that's your homework for this week.

Thats a great idea. Even when I started here I was still in denial about how much I drank!
I could have great weeks of moderation, but its still the relationship we have with Al, isnt it?

[IamMary]

So true Molly. I used to 'share' 2 or 3 bottles at the same time, made it all seem ok I'm my head! It's funny now when I recognise other people saying the same things.

[satz123]

that honesty is hard -- but that was all part and parcel of my recovery --- a tool given me by Oney's Dad -- the message he sent to me the morning I was going into rehab was 'be honest -- don't waste your chance'

What great advice. And I agree so very hard to admit the level of our drinking to anyone.
Young Satz does it constantly - but you 'can't kid a kidder' - 'cos I did it too

[satz123]

Ok I'm off.
Cemeteries to visit and chicken wings in The Summit to eat. :llama:

[IamMary]

Evening. perfect day for a wander up the summit..
Lots of garden and house stuff today, lovey not having to be anywhere or do anything.

[IamMary]

Mary -is this errrr emm a romantic late meal when the kids are in bed and all that entails :egad:
So Mr S is still having the wine ?

Feck that-do what Molls says- that is WAYYYYY too much to deal with in early sobriety imvho.

Meant to reply earlier, HAHA.. That 'used' to be the plan. As Molly said, the good ol' days!!

[satz123]

Evening Army :checkin: