One Step at a Time April

[Rusty]

Awwww.....Liz.....sending huge hugs your way!:hug: What did your mom say to you that set you off?

[Rusty]

Nora-You are great sober! I don't understand your last post where you said, "I'll go back and correct that." What did you mean? I am so glad your mom is better, but I can't imagine how frightened you must have been to witness that. She's lucky to have such a kind daughter.

Aihfl-so sorry to hear your mom is being so stubborn. I would be worried about her, too. I thought your joke was funny! Also, I like your new name instead of your old one, "Alky." I HATE HATE HATE that word!!!!! It is so derogatory and degrading. I remember just blowing up at Mr. G. years ago because he called himself that and I thought that was a slanderous term for a man whom I knew to be so handsome, wise, gentle, and kind. Also, I forgot to mention, I knew you were very well educated back then because your posts were always so thoughtful and well-written. I read nearly everyone of your posts, truly. Ah, I was cyber-stalking you. Not really. ;-)

AG-welcome back! Can't wait to hear about your vacation!

Glassy-come back and visit more often!!! We love having you here!

Pauly-you're sounding really good...how was your weekend?

NE-how are you doing? Are you adding a few more AF days to your calendar and if not, is that in the plan for this month? ;-) :-) You've added much verve to this thread. So glad you are here.

Mama-are you working from home today?

Big hellos to everyone I missed. I have an appt. with my new doctor this morning and then a long drive to MN so I better get going! Happy AF Monday!

[Lizann]

Rusty mama bear said it's good that Nora is doing this all sober. She left out the bear part and I thought she was talking about her mother.

Rusty, where do I being. I love my mom more than life itself, but she tends to be negative. She always says things like "I'll see you next week, if I live that long " etc. she's not one to complain, much. She'll give me just enough info about a situation to make me worry but not the whole story. Just the way she is. My dad wasn't feeling well, they couldn't put they're finger on it, but it totally freaked her out, which she doesn't normally admit. She thought he was gonna die. He is 87 and doing pretty good all things considered but I feel like they are just waiting for "it". I just don't know how to process this and have just been crying and yes drinking. Not only did that not help, it just upset my boys. Feeling pretty bad about myself today. Thanks for the hug, I definitely needed it.

[Rusty]

Awww....Liz, here are a few more hugs...:hug::hug: I so understand how you feel. My dad used to say things like, "I could go any day," and it used to bother me but he told me that he had had a good life and if it was his time to go, then so be it. He would die happy, knowing he had a good life and a family who loved him and he was at peace with himself. My mom does the same. Maybe with your parents are telling you the same, but it is not expressed in that way. It really frustrates me when someone tells you enough info. to worry you but they don't give you the whole story. In some ways, I think that's manipulative but I think it's common in elderly people. I am so glad your husband and son were kind to you, though. Getting old sucks if you're in pain. My mom is in pain every day and two weeks ago she told me when she woke up that day, she wanted to die but then she took her shower and some Ibuprofen and she felt better. You're right....drinking AT someone or something doesn't solve anything. I am in your corner if you need me.

[Rusty]

Good Morning Again, Friends,

I wanted to mention something before I leave for MN later this morning. Several people at MWO have asked me if I want to be friends on Facebook. I really love you guys and our tight-knit group here, and I am fond of a few people on the GLOAMERS thread, among other threads as well. I am a very private person....hence the reason I came to MWO to address my drinking, but Facebook makes my life not so private and I am starting to feel very uncomfortable with it. I am friends on Facebook with a few people here, and when I told someone (not on this thread) that I did not want to be friends on Facebook, this person's response was, "well, you're friends with HER, how come you don't want to be friends with ME????" This was not a single incident, either...it has happened a few times. So please do not be offended if soon you do not see me on your friends' list. I want to be fair to everyone and I don't want people to accuse me of playing favorites. Thanks!!

[Lizann]

Thanks for the kind words rusty. I just can't seem to stop crying and pull myself together, likely the al I had is helping me in that department. Off for some pampering, getting my nails done. Rusty have a wonderful trip and I understand about fb. Do what you have to do. I appreciate your kind words, as always.

[paulywogg]

Hey all,Liz,big hugs love I'm happy my parents are still young and healthyish,I need to go see them more,especially since they're only 3 hours away,Rusty,I don't care about Facebook but you say you're not playing favorites but by being friends with some and not others IS playing favorites, you allow some into your"very private" life but I guess they're a selected few,not trying to be bitchy but I think its best to just not even bring it up cuz it will defo hurt peoples feelings,anyways, Nora,I'm so proud of you,never got a chance to say it on your 9 months,do you feel like having mom there kinda helped cuz you knew you'd have to be there for her at all times? I think having responsibilities helps,somewhat, I'm happy it wasn't a stroke,very worrying, off to get ready,much love to all

[Rusty]

So sorry if I offended you, Pauly. I so did not mean to hurt your feelings which is why I have decided it's best not to be friends with anyone on Facebook. I am trying to make things right and I wanted to be honest here.

[mama bear]

Good Morning...hugs, hugs, hugs Lizz. What your mother said was just plain mean and it would have upset me too. You know the drinking is going to make it worse.....so I won't go there.....
Nana can be very snarky too, but like Rusty said, I think some of that come with age, pain, loss of those around you, etc.
Nora- I am glad your precious Mother is better and I am so glad you were with her!
Date night was fun! We ate and met some friends and danced and came home and were bums all day yesterday. We cooked dinner to take to Nana's house.
Aihfl.....I won't day Alky anymore coz Rusty may punch me :-), your mom needs to shush!!
Hey Pauly - I don't friend everyone on FB, I friend some and not others.....and it's not coz I have favorites....
I am thinking about taking my FB page down for professional reasons anyway
It's Monday.....gotta get working...love to all welcome back AG!
HUGE HUGS Lizz.

[NoraC]

((((((((((((((((liz))))))))))))))))))

[paulywogg]

Rusty,you didn't offend ME,I was saying that the people who've asked for you to friend them might be,I've never asked for a friend request so why would I be offended? I was just pointing it out,anyways enough on that,everyone make it a great Monday

[aihfl]

Thanks guys for reminding me why I don't do Facebook! Dealing with people in person is difficult enough let alone online as well

Travel safe, Rusty.

[Rusty]

Right on, Aihfl! Thank you for saying so. :-) How are you?

[NoraC]

does aihfl stand for anything? I mean the initials.....

[aihfl]

does aihfl stand for anything? I mean the initials.....

It's my initials and where I live.

Hi Rusty, I am doing just peachy. I'm going to have a hell of a week though. I offered to take people sailing off St. Augustine on Saturday so I've got to get a new outboard, get my insurance updated and rent storage space here in Orlando because it's in the water at a marina in Clearwater right now. And I've got to put some shims on the trailer bunks (that hold the boat in place) because the keel is resting on the metal right now. Not a huge deal but it can't go on indefinitely without damaging the keel. But I've got a clear head so I'm getting it done!