One Step at a Time May-2016

[NoraC]

Pauly - I love to color.

I have a terrible feeling that MWO is fading away. It makes me sad and scares me. But, it doesn't look good.

[paulywogg]

But why Nora? There has to be a reason for it dying down,in any event I'm still gonna hold onto my friendships that I have here,MWO is just a site,the people who we care about are all that matters anyways,it's the people who made the site,not the site making the people if that makes any sense haha

[actiongirl46]

MAE all - The German teacher left today. It was super fun to have her here for two weeks but it definitely took away from my down time. Sorry to be so quiet!

Hubs is still here and doing better every day. The bruises are all gone but he is still sore in the lower back and hip. I'm sure being in his early fifties doesn't help either.

NORA!!! 300 days and counting!! Wow! Fantastic. I am so proud of you. So inspiring.

Mama, I had a piece of my nose taken off too. Not fun. I couldn't find a band-aid that would stay on so I just had to go around with a scabbed nose for a few weeks. Keeps you humble for sure. My poor dad just had his whole face done and he looked miserable last weekend. Well, its sure beats the alternative.

Pauly, I love your tag line "stop trying and start doing". I think mine should be "stop thinking/planning/wishing and start doing". Hubs has decided that since I was going out and buying a small amount of wine (the little camping box) that to "save money" he would go to Costco and get a few of the big boxes. Not helpful. I can't exactly throw it out as he will have a FIT. But it is clear that I need it all out of the house. Any thoughts on how to deal with that challenge today would be very helpful . . .

Techie - I hope your mom is settling in well. What a big change for her at this point in her life!

Rusty - I'm curious, if you can share, what is your job? You travel so much!! Yikes!

Liz, welcome home, I'm so glad you had a good trip. Did you learn anything new about your family history? Any surprises?

Ok, back to work, I need to start my health kick TODAY. Take care all - AG

[NoraC]

AG - so great to see you. Does hubby drink the wine? If not, put it somewhere where it will be very inconvenient to get to. I just could never have it in the house at the beginning. :hug:

I started reading the book Tired of Thinking about Drinking . I have been reading her blog and just got her book. So much of it is right on for me.

Here's one passage that hit home..

My journal for this post-crazy-boyfriend time says things like “I drink differently from other people. I’m only going to drink on special occasions or when socializing. Only on weekends.”

But of course, you and I both know that only drinking on weekends is tricky. Because what about Sunday night? Is Sunday part of the weekend? What about Thursday? Maybe the weekend is four days long. Maybe it is, in fact, most of the week.

I clung, for a very very very very long time, to this idea of having rules, and I kept adjusting them, trying to find some guidelines that I could actually follow. I was sure there must be some trick that I’d yet to find, that would let me handle my consumption and therefore not have to quit entirely.

[mama bear]

Good stuff Nora.
AG - my hubs keeps a locked liquor cabinet. That's how we compromise. And I am not a big liquor drinker, so it's ok. I have wine on date night now, so I guess I am moderating. That's a long way from a 12 pack a night. Not making excuses....that's just my situation.
Yes, Nora...Bret and Nana are at an attorney as we speak. We think we can fix everything to protect her assets, but it will a lot of work and most of that will fall on Bret. He is such a good son.
So...I am kind of excited because a client I have been stalking just emailed that he wants to meet me!!! Ya'll would laugh at some of the stuff I have done. He has a Master's of Music and went to Julliard, so I emailed once just to talk about music and my musical background. I guess it work, so wish me luck. It would mean managing two more communities in Jacksonville, for a total of six.
Nora - I will always be here for my friends....I am not going anywhere.
Love to all....Mama

[Mick]

Thank you, thank you!!! You all are just mean so much to me. :hug:

Just saw this ...well done

congrats ..300 ..now thats some total,
300 days without sniffing the bottle,
fighting the fight,challenging the strife,
you opened that door door ,now enjoy your life

[NoraC]

Ah Mick. You are a doll. I love reading your posts.:thanks:

[red67]

Hi all! Sorry I have been MIA. I have given my freeloader, abusive roommate an eviction notice and be has to be out by next Tuesday. He is being absolutely evil and I am counting down the days and praying for the strength to get thru this.

I also got a new puppy! A Golden retriever, he is my beautiful baby. He is so good and my boss let's me take him to work with me. He is nine weeks old and sleeps alot. No accidents in the house at all and I have had him for a week now.

I have not read back too much yet but I will tomorrow. I love you guys and I will start posting more once the evil monster is out of my house.

[NoraC]

Red - is he violent at all? You have known him and been friends for so many years. Has he EVER done or acted violent?? For him to be acting evil after all of that is very concerning. Please be careful.

[red67]

He is very verbally abusive, I worry about him getting violent especially since I am kicking him out. But I have alerted the police department and I will definitely be careful. He has always been a selfish person but I let him stay because I love his daughter like my own. Her mom said she is going to still let me see her and she said she is not going to let him see her. His daughter has been getting verbally abused by him lately and that was the last straw for me. I will not let him do that to her. He has sent very mean texts to her and treated her like crap when she is here. I told her I would never allow that to happen to her again and I will do anything to protect her.

[NoraC]

Red - it doesn't sound safe for you there. Maybe you should have the police remove him now. He is having days there to get himself worked up.

[red67]

I wish I could but the police said he has to make a threat against me first. So far he is slamming doors and sending stupid texts to me. Not enough to get him removed. But, the first threat he makes and I am calling 911. I just can't wait til next Monday.

[Lizann]

Quickly read back as I'm off to work in a few. Came home from work last night and just crashed, darn jet lag.
I'm with Pauly, I'll follow you guys anywhere. I hope that mwo isn't fading out!
I promise to comment more later. I will stay awake tonight!!!
Happy hump day!

[paulywogg]

Hey all,good to see you Red,hope he just leaves effortlessly,sounds like a pain! Liz,I'venever had jet lag as I don't fly but iI've deffo had car lag haha,iI'm always exhausted after a trip! I'm irritated by my coworker,Iswear she calls in for every llittle sniffle, bet she calls off today making more work for me,meh,who cares,weighed myself and I've gained 3 lbs iI'mpissed! hello all,hope we all have a great Wednesday

[mama bear]

Red....please be careful and keep us posted. I love your puppy piccies on FB. Does meanie roomie have somewhere to go?
I have 5 conference calls today, so I be glazed over soon. But I am in my Mickey Mouse pj's so I guess I can't complain.
I love you all and need to run.....I will check in later