One Step at a Time May-2016

[Rusty]

Mama-He's UNINSURED and YOU have to pay!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!@@##$%#*& is all I have to say about that!

[Rusty]

Nora-what are your plans for the weekend?

[NoraC]

What am I doing??? Yard sale :cuss:

I'll catch you all tomorrow. Better get to sleep so I can get up early on my day off. Carry a bunch of stuff. Sit for hours. Sell a couple of things (hopefully). Then load it all up and take to Goodwill.
I'll bet you are all green with envy:greedy_dollars:

PS -thanks for the congrats everyone.
I had the wrong day 1 again so I went back and confirmed again. I've got it right this time. Anyway, just wanted to explain in case anybody wondered what I was talking about. I really don't keep track except for roll call so I wrote it down this time.:victorious:

[red67]

Hi All, thank you so much for all.your support and kind words. Two more days and he will be out. I will be finally free of his emotional blackmail and verbal abuse. His daughter is awesome and since she is 14 she can make the choice to see him or not. She told me she wants to still come and see me, and her mom is supportive of that too.

My new puppy is awesome and he has been a huge emotional support for me during this time. I call him my therapy dog. Rusty, he is a fluff ball of love and he is so darn cute. I have only had him two weeks and I can't imagine life without him. My cat even tolerates him (and that is a huge accomplishment for her).

Nora, I am so proud of you! You are doing so great. I hope you have a successful rummage, I hate doing my own but I love going to them. How is your mom doing?

Rusty, are you doing anything for memorial day? I hope you enjoy the 3 day weekend. I always love your positive posts. You always take time to follow everyone here and I just think you're awesome!

Mama, I am so sorry about Nana. The whole situation is so sad for everyone. Did you find a place to move to yet? How are the boys doing? Will they go with you to the new place?

Pauly, I hope everything is going well with you. I apologize for not keeping up with you guys lately. Just so much going on. How is the new puppy (did your daughter get one - I think I saw you post that)? I hope you enjoy your weekend and don't have to work too much.

Hi Glassy, how long have you had the boot on? I would hate that. Can you take it off at night when you sleep? Thank you for your kind words also. This has been the toughest time I have had in a very long time and I don't have many people to talk to about it. I am so glad you and the rest of the ladies here are so understanding.

Liz, how are doing? Will you be having a cookout with the family this weekend? That's so cool about the Chew, I watch it when I am off of work (which is not often) but I do like that show.
My phone battery is about to die so I just want to say happy memorial day to all and thank a veteran if you see them. Love all of you !

[Lizann]

Good morning. Happy Saturday. Not doing much but I will be lounging in the pool. The air conditioner guy is coming today. Royal rip off, but what can you do. Supposedly we are still under warranty and it's still costing us a bundle grrrr!

Mama, that is so sad about that driver. I'm sorry he died, but really no insurance. I hope it all works out for nana. I can't even imagine the stress she is dealing with. I am dealing with a lot of drama at work too. I'm sort of on the outskirts of it all, but it does effect me and my job to an extent. Not good. People just want to do as little as possible.

Nora, good luck on the yard sale. We are having one at church next weekend. It's a lot of work, but it's also a lot of fun. Love hanging out with my ladies.

Rusty, working on Memorial Day? Do you get time and a half?

Red, I'm glad you and puppy are getting along so well. They do heal the heart don't they? Cuddling with my little Lucy as I write here.

Gotta run as The repairman just showed up. I'll be back later

[paulywogg]

Hey all, good to see you Red glad the roommate situation is coming to an end,yes Kell got a pup,her name is Dottie and she's 1/2 chiuahuah and 1/2 shitzu,she tiny and I babysit her when Lou's here,only prob is she's constantly under foot and she is not house broken!! But she's a cuddler Liz,I like Dr.Oz's daughter on the chew,I watch it on Fridays when I'm off,Nora,have fun, haha,I hate having yard sales!! It was ok in my drink days cuz it was a,good excuse to crack one open but after my last one I decided no mas yard sales for Paulywogg! Off to get ready,grrrrr,hope everyone has a spectacular Saturday

[actiongirl46]

Happy Saturday all!

I'm here, same story, no progress. At least the wine is gone and I told him NOT to buy anymore. Sigh. I feel like such a loser surrounded by your success stories but I want to be honest on where I am at . . .

I'll try the Nal again. Ok, don't want to be a downer on this long weekend for US folks!! Moving forward, one (small) step at a time.

I appreciate you guys!! :heartbeat:

[Rusty]

AG:hug::hug:You are NOT a loser!!! WE have ALL been where you are! When you say you have made no progress, do you mean you haven't been able to get an AF day in quite yet??? If so, then try to keep your mind occupied with non-AL thoughts, and when they pop in, try to think of ANYTHING else to do. Take it from me....AF holidays are wayyyy more fun than weekends soaked with booze. Stick close to us and PM me or anyone else here....we're on top of this. ;-)

Pauly--oooohhh....Kel's puppy sounds so cute!!

Liz-do I get time and a half??? You're kidding, right? I own my own business and I am a contractor. Uh, nope. Hahaha!! Enjoy lounging by the pool. I will be doing the same. Loved your Poland pictures on FB. :-)

[actiongirl46]

Yep. Thanks Rusty. I'm going to change that pattern today though.

Now hubs is mad because he says I am not nice to him. I laughed this morning when he wanted to go to the store early to beat the crowds (we don't live in a big town). I apologized over and over, had no idea I hurt his feelings. Didn't mean to. According to him, I say snide remarks to him all the time. He is not speaking to me and pouting.

I told him that I need him on my team to stay strong. He says, about drinking? Well, that will never change.

SORRY to vent, crappy day here, the last thing I need is to tiptoe around his crap while trying to manage my own. Onward.

[Rusty]

AG-

He says, about drinking? Well, that will never change. What did you mean?

[Lizann]

Aww, AG, we've all been there! Just keep trying one day at a time. Any Al free time is a success! We are here for you, please come here and vent, ok?

Rusty, sorry about the time and a half crack. Hope you do get some pool time in.

Pauly daphne Oz was so sweet to CJ on Thursday. They spent some time chatting. The new puppy sounds like a bit of a handful but I'm sure once she's housebroken you'll enjoy her more.

Air conditioner is finally fixed. So much nicer in here. There was pollen everywhere in the house because we had the windows open.
Sweet dreams guys.h

[Glass Half Empty]

Mama you’re right - the accident is just such a terrible tragedy, for everyone. And are you having employee problems again? I hope you’re recording all this for that book you’re going to write that will make you a million $$$.

Red – hang in there. You’re nearly there. Please keep us posted, and I don’t think you said whether you will have someone there when he leaves. Will you be there? Sorry to nag, I just want to make sure you’re safe.

Pauly, Kell’s baby sounds adorable!

AG – you are NOT a loser. I don’t talk much about drinking here, because to use the old Facebook status, ‘it’s complicated’. I’ve had significant alcohol free periods but I’m still not completely abstinent. I’m considering whether what I'm doing now is really working for me, or whether I need to give up completely, and the fact that I'm even thinking that makes me think that the answer is probably ‘yes’. So although I’ve made huge improvements I’m not a success story, if that’s any help. And also, feel free to vent about your hubs. He’s being childish and spiteful.

Rusty I must admit I quite like going in to the office most days. In general, there’s a lot of support and camaraderie amongst our team and we all get on really well. Of all the people I work with, 99% are lovely and there’s only one I want to slap. However, being the intelligent, mature and consummate professional I am, I generally settle for the time honoured traditions of poking my tongue out, pulling faces and flipping her the bird behind her back. :rotlf:

In cheerier news, did I tell you guys I’m having some mini improvements done to my place that have been needed for ages? I had screens installed last week and also just had air con put in. Heaps more to do so watch this space!

[NoraC]

I have to tell you all how much it means to come here and read about your day and what is going on. This in itself is such a huge part of my life. I think about you all and wonder how you are. Sometimes I am sitting here laughing out loud out your comments. Glassie - you cracked me up. :rotlf:
Anyway - I was going thru old PMs and posts today looking for something. Never found that information but I did read so many loving, caring posts full of support and encouragement between us.
So - thank you all. I don't have the words to tell you how I felt today going back. It just filled me with love & happiness. :hug: :heartbeat:

[NoraC]

AG - I am sorry that I wasn't around here earlier to give you support. :hug:

Let us all acknowledge that was a SHITTY thing that your husband said to you. The fact that you asked for support and he reacted like that. Shame on him! With that being said, I know that you love him and he's a great guy. So - feel free to vent here. We're not going to judge you or him.

Please do not ever, ever, ever feel like a loser here. This thread is called one step at a time for a reason. You are coming here and posting. That is a huge step. That is so important. Please keep coming here and talking. It does help. I have read back and I certainly do vent. :hehe:

And, one more thing - your comment about tiptoeing around his crap is HUGE. Me tiptoeing around my hubby's crap added to my drinking. I am not blaming him at all, but I am saying that I reacted by drinking more. Then I didn't have to be upset or tense anymore. I just drowned out all of that. You are so smart to recognize that you don't need to take on his crap! :hug:

Hang in there. Stick close here. PM us - post here - whatever you need. We all understand exactly. :huggers:

[NoraC]

Hope to be around tomorrow. Had a busy day today. Mom walked using her walker down the street to see some of the other yard sales. Then she sat out front with us for a couple hours. It was a good day. I handed her a book that I was getting rid of. It is filled with the stupidest people facts. Example - don't kiss a rattle snake on the mouth and proceeds to tell you about the idiot that did it. After we came in the house, she sat and read some of the stories to me and we laughed & laughed.

Oh - hubby made $111.00. I told him to keep it since he did all the work. I didn't do anything except ok him to sell certain things. So he was thrilled. He's already hunting for what he wants to buy next. He's been making improvements on a couple of his guitars.

Hope everyone is having a wonderful weekend.