Do You REALLY Want To Be Sober?

[Byrdlady]

Re: Do You REALLY Want To Be Sober?

Welcome, Changes! This place saves lives and Im one of them! Link to Newbies nest and Toolbox are in my signature line below. Welcome aboard, getting sober will be the best decision you've ever made! Byrdie

[fluff]

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Well- thank you all for the kind responses! I decided to get my ass off the drinking couch and go look for a gym- so today I went to Gold's but they lock you into a contract- altho their place was very nice. Tomorrow going to another gym that's not contract doomed but $39.00 a month for everything. I'm looking into evening zumba classes to block off the drinking time- plus need to socialize more. I think I've locked my self away socially by drinking. Next step is to find another job- I live in a small town that has a few boutiques- one has a we are hiring sign out on the door- will go and take a look at that. My heads getting better and my hands not shaking like it was. It was a second fall -after that first one I told you about that did all the weird stuff to me. The problem is sometimes I take a melatonin pill to help me sleep but if you're drinking that might be what causes the inbalance- and maybe shaking hands. That second fall caused headaches but I didn't want to go back to the doctor because I had already had fallen once before and had the MRI done. Today was the first day the headaches stopped. I want to go into the other "nests" but feel kinda out of place in a room where everyone knows each other. One step at a time. Gym hunt again tomorrow- plus job hunt again. Those on-line job hunts are grueling, btw-takes forever to do an application and everything else they ask you.

[abcowboy]

:welcome: to MWO Changes, I’m happy that my journey to sobriety inspired you enough to start your own journey. It is when we get sick and tired of being sick and tired that we look for a way out of alcohell. The day we wake up and really want to be sober, to want to be sober more than we want to drink.

That’s where our journey begins, day 1 of a new way of life. We have to leave behind our old way of life, our old way of thinking, and move to the things that create positives instead of negatives. It’s not easy, but it’s doable, I know, I’ve walked in your shoes. Today you’ve taken the first step, a very big step, and reached out for help and support. Now you have to stick with it, stay the course. Get involved in the threads where you feel comfortable, post, read, post, and learn. Pay attention to the things that worked for other members, and the things that didn’t. It’s trial and error for you for a while, you’ll struggle a bit till you find your way out, then you’ll get your “click” and it’ll all make sense.

If you slip, and I hope you don’t, make sure you don’t leave, that’s when you need the support the most. There’s no shame in admitting a mistake, the shame is only when you don’t learn something from that mistake. We’ve all made mistakes, learned from them, then moved forward.

Remember, it’s okay to look back on where you came from, just don’t let it get in the way of where you’re headed. Congratulations on starting the journey to a new you!

[abcowboy]

Hi fluff, nice to see you back! We’ve known each other for a while now and I hope that you can find a support system that will work for you here at MWO. You know I don’t pull any punches and yes, sometimes I may come off as sounding cocky, but that is not my intent. I struggled as hard, if not harder, as everyone else has when trying to find what works. You can hang your hat here for as long as you like. You’ll get no judging from me, just my thoughts as to how they may help you. And there’ll be lots of others join in with that help and support.

I wasn’t quite sure about “another job”? You’re not working right now, you’re not happy with where you’re working, or you just want to fill up more of your time to take away from drinking time. Whatever the reason is, you’re thinking of improvements, filling your time with other things rather than drinking.

The exercise and zumba are great ideas, not only a healthier way of life, but an opportunity to socialize and make new friends. As you know I’m from a small town as well so the opportunity to socialize without alcohol being in the mix is a bit difficult, but it’s there if you look. The public library is another great place to spend some time, just reading or volunteering. Think of local organizations that don’t involve alcohol and get involved with them, volunteer or join those groups, fill those drinking times with something rewarding and positive.

The best thing is that you are looking for alternatives to drinking, and they are there, and I know you’ll find your’s, just like I know you’ll find your way out if you don’t give up! One day, one problem at a time…

[satz123]

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Well- thank you all for the kind responses! I decided to get my ass off the drinking couch and go look for a gym- so today I went to Gold's but they lock you into a contract- altho their place was very nice. Tomorrow going to another gym that's not contract doomed but $39.00 a month for everything. I'm looking into evening zumba classes to block off the drinking time- plus need to socialize more. I think I've locked my self away socially by drinking. Next step is to find another job- I live in a small town that has a few boutiques- one has a we are hiring sign out on the door- will go and take a look at that. My heads getting better and my hands not shaking like it was. It was a second fall -after that first one I told you about that did all the weird stuff to me. The problem is sometimes I take a melatonin pill to help me sleep but if you're drinking that might be what causes the inbalance- and maybe shaking hands. That second fall caused headaches but I didn't want to go back to the doctor because I had already had fallen once before and had the MRI done. Today was the first day the headaches stopped. I want to go into the other "nests" but feel kinda out of place in a room where everyone knows each other. One step at a time. Gym hunt again tomorrow- plus job hunt again. Those on-line job hunts are grueling, btw-takes forever to do an application and everything else they ask you.

Again Fluff I know about the job hunting - I am 'between jobs' too !
On-line becomes easy when you take the time to complete a simple CV that calls out your strengths. Employers don't have time to read ALL of the CV so keep it short.
Go get your hair done, a outfit sorted & be ready for interview. Just keep knocking on doors - someone will answer
The shaking hand is down to the booze - low blood sugar - mine went overnight when I stopped drinki

[Neo]

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a couple of years ago I started my AF crusade just quitting drinking and smoking cold turkey.

(I would encourage everyone doing this to get blood tests first - find out if anythings wrong , check with your doc and get a prescription of valium .You do not want to awake 3am in morning with 3hrs of unbearable anxiety)

In 3 months I did a beep test with a totally crap unfit score to begin with , to end up with a fitness level to get me into the police(Did a fitness bootcamp 2 x 1hr/week) but I was still tired and lacked energy and bored . If you want to be really lazy look into Hiit and get a heartrate monitor for DIY solution . 20 mins x 3 a week

I gave up coffee , cordial, any sugars and stuck to only water, used vit B and eating salad sandwiches, had protein powder, the whole lot.

Now adding to this list as people may suggest it takes a year to get up and running, no one has suggested you could have sleep apnea or another sleeping disorder.

You can get sleep studies done but I would make an effort of quitting a week or 2 and then find out what is going on. I was talking to a guy the other day who said , once they put him on a CPAP machine, he woke up with the energy of a 7yo. Now that is next on the Radar for me . I'm on Day 1 again but multiple times over the last 2 years have had some great quit runs and have tools to do with this and this is now my next avenue. How good to wake up like a kid on xmas day again lol

nothing worse going for 10 years drinking straight.

Oh yeah, and what is your passion?? Mine isn't working at a minesite for $2000k a week unhappy , or at maccas being paid $8/hr. Find something you a least like or loved doing as a kid

[Sunbeam]

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Neo, congrats to you in your improvements over the past couple of years. Quitting for good is the gold standard but there are often many steps along the way that should be recognized.

[NoraC]

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Cowboy can't get on this site tonight. I've sent a pm to zach. Just wanted to let you know why he was missing.

[Jod]

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Cowboy can't get on this site tonight. I've sent a pm to zach. Just wanted to let you know why he was missing.

https://www.mywayout.org/community/just-starting-out-/26685-newbies-nest-6957.html#post1705282

[Neo]

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Could you please enable games. I think it would be alot of distraction for the guys just starting to quit alcohol I remeber this game ZNAX here znax - DragonByte Tech | vBulletin Mods & Addons alot of fun in 05

[abcowboy]

A funny thing happened on the way to the Forum lol. Yesterday I logged in and did my morning post, did some reading, then logged out. The next time I tried to login, I get this crazy long error message! Uhhhh, what’s with this?? Ah, Zach must be doing some site upgrades or addons, I’ll try again later. And try again I did, for more than a few times, till I knew something was definitely wrong. I tried all my devices, all the different browsers, and still no luck. Well, I’ll just get hold of Zach and let him know about the problem. Ok stupid, how do you get a message to Zach if you can’t login!!

I never realized how much I would miss MWO until I didn’t have it! It’s a great way to spend time that also re-enforces the things I need to maintain my quit, and to see how all my fellow MWO’ers are making out. Now, if it concerns me that much, what does it do to others who depend on being here to get help and be accountable? It tells me how important support is, how important it is to stay connected to that support!

Anyway, back to the login problem, my only option was to get in touch with one of the members that I have on FB. (Twist hat a bit sideways to remind me to come back to this point.) So I message Nora, ask her, and after some messaging and copying and pasting the error message I was getting, she forwarded it to Zach and voilà, this morning I can login! Thanks again Nora! Therein lies the purpose of having a few people in your contact or phone list! Usually it’s to call someone if you think you’re about to cave, but it’s also useful for other kinds of support! And you know what, I don’t think it took Nora more than a minute or so to message me back, now that’s support and caring! I don’t know what I would have done if she had ignored me, or if I had no way to contact anyone. By the way, have I said thanks Nora for being there for me!

(Twist hat back straight now) Now, I’ve heard from 3 of my friends on FB who had a friend request from our famous banned member. I’m not all that tech or FB savvy, so I got one of those friends to help me “hide” my FB friends, and “hide” any posts that I make to them. I don’t want to mention your name, but you know who you are, and a big thanks to you! So hopefully that is all solved and everyone is safe again. And I apologize if my ignorance and stupidity created any problems for anyone!

[Lost Soul]

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My goodness, so much to catch up in your thread ABC! Wonderful insights & wisdom & I have enjoyed reading x
MYO is such a lifeline at times, it is wise to have a few friends outside here if anything goes wrong!
I'm glad you found your way back here fluff, there's such variety at MYO & wonderful support, it makes the AF journey a bit easier knowing that you are not struggling alone x
Take care & thanks ABC!
LS

[fluff]

Re: Do You REALLY Want To Be Sober?

Wow- I really missed out in a short period of time some melodrama- and who the famous "banned" member was- not that I probably knew him/her as I'm not here that much!

[abcowboy]

There you have it fluff, just one more reason to check in everyday!

[Neo]

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Yeah, We had Willy Wonka and the chocolate factory debarcle here a couple of months ago too rofl