One Step at a Time - July 20016

[NoraC]

Techie - thank you. What a wonderful thing you are doing. :bravo:

[paulywogg]

Nora,I hope your nephew stays safe in Qatar(wherever the hell that is)my geography is awful, hi Techie hubs' job change is the absolute worst decision he's made in a looooong time,he's realizing that I really am ALWAYS right haha,don't feel like talking about it, makes my anxiety rise see y'all in the blankie fort,I'm bringing baked cheetos that taste just like.....cheetos

[NoraC]

Blankie fort open for business. I think I'm bringing ding dings to go with the cheetos

[SKendall]

Techie, what a wonderful idea. This is a very thoughtful idea and I would like to follow the process, do you have a website?

Nora, this is really a difficult time. My father had serious dementia before he died. He was a strong, stoic Englishman and it seemed as if his started in his 60"s, not bad but he and my mom had an rv and mom had to be "all eyes". When he was in his 80's he had a stroke which made it worse. When he used to ask me if I would take him home, I would say maybe next week because he would forget having asked the question, this is something the nurses told me to do and I wonder if an Alzheimer support group would help.

Lizz, it is an absolutely a crap offer. The price doesn't even pay for the building of the home, let alone the land and drilling of the well. We have sent back a counter offer, we'll see. The house is showing again today and I think having the virtual tour on the ferries from Seattle is really helping.

Have to get off the gabapentin quick, on only 100g I have intense dizziness and blurred vision still from last night's dose. I don't know how people do it with 3000mg.

Hello to Rusty, Glassie, Mr. V, aihfl, AG, Pauly and everyone. My dizzy brain doesn't have good recall today.

[NoraC]

SK - hope you can get those side effects resolved quickly! Thanks for the idea regarding caretaker support. I have been cruising the web recently and think I have found a couple that could be helpful. I haven't had a chance to read there very much.

I'm thinking I'll be going into the bedroom soon. Son & DIL should be getting home pretty soon. Trouble in newlywed paradise. :bricks: Both sides have valid points & I am not getting involved in it all!!!! Actually, they might not be arriving together because she might not pick him up and he'll have to uber home. Sigh..............

[NoraC]

Pauly - I am so, so sorry to hear about hubby's job. If you do need to talk at any time, just go ahead. We're here for you 100%.

[Lizann]

Nora, so sad about your nephew leaving. I think Qatar is a safe place? Hot though. My nephew left last week for mountain combat training somewhere in Nevada or California. My sis posted a pic of him leaving at the airport and my mom and I cried our eyes out. Brave young men they are. Sorry to hear about the newlyweds spat. Hope they can work it out. You are wise to stay out of it. Do they ask for your advice?

Skendall, hope you guys get a better offer. I hope that those side effects wear off quickly.

Pauly, sorry hubby's job change was a mistake. It's still early on in this process, maybe it will still work out? When will these guys learn to listen to us? I'll bring some s'mores for the blankie fort. Got plenty of leftovers from out fire pit. Hang in there, this too shall pass.

Techie I agree with the others, that's a wonderful thing that you are doing. Did you ride 50 miles this weekend? Do you watch the Tour de France? My BIL is an avid cyclist and loves watching it.

Had our church picnic today and I ate way too much. Good food and good company, a lot of laughs. Took Lucy to the park tonight to try and walk it off. Poor little thing is all tuckered out.
BTW Nora, how is Molly doing?
Wishing you all sweet dreams.

[ToMyHealth]

Happy Monday! Had a nice weekend. Worked very hard on Sat. getting more stuff moved. Never ending. But yest we played golf at a reciprocal. Almost quit by Hole 7, it was like I had never held a club b4. Stuck with it and on back nine dh said it was like a different person showed up. LOL. Much more fun when you do well! Had lunch at their club so just had popcorn dinner last night.
My life is so different from everyone here being retired and not living close to,family so we don't get caught up in a lot of drama. Remember those times and feel for you all.

Techie, how did the bike ride go? I got 5 mi. In on Friday . Would like to replace Happy Hour time with bike ride, but problem with that is by end of day we 90% of the time have a storm. Rainy season.

Still dealing with fitful sleep. 2 benedryl helped. Any other suggestions? Am not normally a tea drinker so tend to forget about that.

Let's make it a good day!

TMH

[paulywogg]

Hey all,Nora you're a doll I'll probably want to vent later,just want to wait and see how today goes cuz hubs was surprised with them saying he was supposed to be working yesterday and by the time he found out we were already at lunch,he had someone's car to work on so he called the main boss and told him he couldn't work so I dunno if he's still gonna be employed there,I'm just pissed cuz he was specifically told he'd have weekends off unless it's his turn on call,which it wasn't so well see how today goes,much love talk later

[paulywogg]

X-post TMH,I use a product called"midnight" it's cherry flavored and it melts under my tongue,has a tiny amount of melatonin, lavender, lemon balm and chamomile, I love it

[Lizann]

TMH, your weekend sounds lovely! If all that moving and golf doesn't help you sleep, I don't know what will. I have taken a Dramamine on occassion. The one time I took it deep sea fishing, I slept the entire day!
Sometimes I think it would be nice to live away from the drama of family. My kids insist hubby and I not move away when we retire. I'm thinking they may regret saying that.
it's gonna be a hot one here today! Enjoy your Monday!

[Lizann]

X post Pauly. I'm going to look for that stuff.

[mama bear]

Good Morning loves. Busy weekend here!
Glassy - I am happy for the offer on the house, but I am sorry it was crap. And I am glad your ex is helping. Maybe ya'll could be on friendly terms and he may offer more?? Of course, if the relationship is toxic, and I can understand how it would be, then forget it.
Nora, honey, I am so sorry about your mom. The pictures of her on FB are adorable. The newlyweds are fighting? Imagine that!! I'm an oldywed and we can still fight like cats and dogs.
Had dinner with Nana last night and it was not pleasant. But I am glad she is here with us.
I am off to work.....Techie good on you for your organization. You are so admired here and always so positive.
Kisses to little Lucy, Lizz...and Pauly....sorry about hubs.
Gotta blaze....xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

[SKendall]

Pauly, I've never heard of that. I take Magnesium twice a day or 20 mg of Melatonin or L-tryptophan.

Satz in the army is very knowledgeable about magnesium. I think you have to switch them around.

Stopped taking the gabapentin. I looked at the side effects and they are pretty bad and another embarrassing s.e. is the bloating and increased appetite. The dosage is 100mg to 3200. I think it's just not for me, but helps others. The hard part is even after a week on it you may experience withdrawal and at 3000+ it takes about 40 wks to wean off and if you don't wean off there is a warning of possible death and the withdrawal is worse than heroin - no thank you.

Lizz, I am one of four children and my brother and myself moved away geographically from our parents. The others stayed close to mom and dad. My bro and I accept change easier and are more decisive including problem solving. We got away from mom's drama and the other two lived in her drama and became dramatic themselves. There are many advantages to cutting the ties. More independancy is the most rewarding.

I remember once when my sister was living in the other side of Toronto and when her marriage was over she moved back within a few minutes of dad and she felt she was bestowing a gift on dad. He told me privately, "bloody hell" why did she do that?

Well, that was a ramble.

Love you all and have a peaceful day.

Mama, love you "blazing around". Hubs and I are civil, but he's not going to budge on the $$$s.

[SKendall]

Nora, I wanted to comment on the guy making sexual advances. I was H.R. manager of a large telecomm. company in Dallas.

Level I was just referring to sex
LevelII making off-color jokes
Level III unwanted touching.
etc., etc.

About 100 yrs ago I was a part time model and also worked in an office. My boss started making sexual advances and when I rejected him, he began sabotaging my work. I was a little naiive about my looks, and back then I don't think there were any laws protecting women - think Mad Men - I lived in that environment for a long time.

All I knew and felt was it was all kinds of wrong. I eventually went to his supervisor, who was an American working in Canada. I minimized my complaint and there was very little conversation. He was gone the next day! I felt so bad for a long time. I didn't realize I had such power! I never reported anyone else, but I developed this "look" that usually ended their nonsense. The sabotage was what did it for him. I had prepared a very lengthy 5 yr. plan that he totally trashed.

Present time, I wish I generated wolf whistles now lol. and I want a wolf whistle for the ring on my cell phone!

In any event, this sounded like an older gentleman who had no filter and was benign and horny. However, if it creates a hostile environment, you have the legal right to do something.