One Step at a Time - July 20016

[NoraC]

Oh wow, Liz. Blankie fort is extra special right now. :hug:

A few questions:
Does her boyfriend know about this?
If not: Ask him what is going on.
If so: what is his response?

Is it possible that his Dad always locks all the doors when he leaves? Maybe some people do that?

Oh Liz - I'm trying to think of any reason. :heart-borken:

Is this normal behavior for his Dad? Some people might lock all the doors.

[NoraC]

Liz - I'm trying to think of a logical reason but I can't. We had keys made for our DIL before she even lived here. She got off work late and came over late, we wanted her to be able to get in & out of the house easily.

[NoraC]

What d does cj say?

[Glass Half Empty]

Liz, I'm so sorry you're hurting. Are you sure this was deliberate and not some sort of misunderstanding? If so, then maybe he's just a nasty piece of work and sadly the world is full of them. It a reflection on him - not CJ. I know it hurts when anyone hurts our children but many hugs sweetheart. :heartbeat:

[Glass Half Empty]

Oh and BTW – not sure if I told you all this. A couple of years ago, my DIL’s mother went through a mid-life crisis, lost the plot and decided to go and find herself. In India, of course. Why on earth middle-aged women can’t ‘find themselves’ wherever they are is beyond me! As if there aren’t enough people in India as it is – they hardly need more people finding themselves there!

Anyway, my DIL’s mother isn’t very interested in the grandbaby (doesn’t even know it’s a girl yet) and so my DIL, whom I’ve always loved very much and fortunately been very close to, is now even more like a daughter to me than ever. She’s always pretty much treated me as a second Mum. But it’s a strange territory to navigate. Both my son and DIL are very independent and capable of looking after themselves (she’s just received a huge promotion, despite the fact that she's 6 months pregnant and will be paid maternity leave for at least eight months). So, not actually being her mother, I’m not quite sure how much help and involvement to offer without overstepping the mark.

I know she must need some sort of help or support, but I don’t know what or how much to offer!

[Rusty]

Good Morning Friends,

Liz-So sorry to hear about CJs boyfriend's dad locking all the doors. Maybe this is just his habit and it has nothing to do with CJ. How long is she watching the dogs? I had a thought: maybe his dad did this because her BF had a former girlfriend who stole from them? That would be my guess. I don't know how long CJ and her boyfriend have been together but maybe the boyfriend's parents have had bad experiences with houseguests stealing from them or breaking fragile things and that's why he did it. I've had cleaning ladies steal from me and looking back, I should have kept a more watchful eye on them. If I were CJ, I would CALMLY and nonchalantly ask the BF...."I noticed your dad locked all the doors while I was taking care of the dogs. Has he had problems with houseguests stealing from him...breaking things?" I also think Nora may be right...it's possible he just locks all the doors when he leaves.

Glassie-Your DIL Is SOOO lucky to have you as a MIL! So sorry she isn't close to her own mum. Her mum is missing out on the exciting arrival of her granddaughter. SIGH

Nora-the condo meeting was 3.5 hours long! The picnic afterward was fun, though. I toured my neighbor's condo. She had an open house...she gutted the place and it is fabulous! The weather was perfect. It was a very fun day!! How are you feeling without the ADs?

Today, I am going to go for a walk on the lakepath with my dear friend and neighbor, then go for a swim in the lake, and plant some geraniums that have been sitting in pots since Memorial Day. Hahah! Then, gym, and of course, lots of paperwork, but that's OK.

Big hellos to Mama, Pauly, TMH, Mr. Vervill, Techie, and those MIA... Red67, Mr. G, ActionGirl... I know I am missing someone. Oh, duh. Huge hellos to our dear friends across the pond: Jackie, Molly, Mary, Satzy, Spidey and everyone else. Happy Sunday!

[Lizann]

Thanks for your input guys. I thought maybe I just wasn't getting it. CJ was having trouble with the tv/netflix so she called joe to ask him what she should do. Joe told her to go into the study and turn something off and back on again to see if that would fix the problem. She went up to do that then realized the door was locked. Joe was as surprised as she was. She said he got very quiet on the phone. They are coming home tomorrow, it was just a weekend trip.
Yes rusty, maybe someone stole from them in the past. I hugged my baby girl when I saw her yesterday and will say no more about it to her unless she brings it up. I guess i am just a trusting person.
I love you all and appreciate your thoughts on this. :love:
Glassy I agree with Rusty, your DIL is so lucky to have you. When is the baby due again? You made me laugh with the India comment. I don't get it either.

[ToMyHealth]

Hello ~ kind of at a loss for words what with all the violence going on including my home state of MN. How does protesting & shutting down major highways make things better?

Rusty, you really had cleaning ladies steal from you? What did they take? I had one who is in my Bible Study. Trust her but always had to be gone, or she would prefer to talk to you rather than work. Former owner of the house had 2 ladies come for 3 hrs for $150. Claims they did everything incl laundry, lanai, garage. I Asked them what they would charge if no laundry. Same. Haven't done either so far.

Have kind of a free day here. Think I'll go,workout, balance my checkbook, maybe bake some cookies. Hope everyone has a great day!

[paulywogg]

Hey all,Liz,that's odd,how long have they been dating? That'll be my deciding factor on what I think is up,Nora,my headache never went away even after popping Advil all day,I think its cuz I started drinking diet coke again,I was feeling good off of it but its hot now and I missed the cold fizz hitting the back of my throat,going back to Perrier I guess,the headaches plus incredible fatigue that had gone away,brain fog,irritability all of a sudden kinda just points to it so we shall see,back later,I hope we all have an easy day like Byrdie says

[NoraC]

Morning all.

Glassie- you are such a sweetie. Your DIL is so lucky to have you. I would just tell her that you would love to help in any and every way you can. I'm sure she feels your love.

Paulie- I'm having no luck with the diet coke yet. Maybe it is the cause of my issues. Damn it - another addiction.

[NoraC]

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[NoraC]

Hey everyone. I didn't get to sleep until after 3:00 last night. I just couldn't settle so I kept playing on my kindle. Good thing it was a Saturday night. lol

Liz - was it only that room that was locked? I'm sure her boyfriend asked his dad what was going on. I hope that they discuss this and find out what the issue was. I hope you had a good day today with your relatives. :hug:

Rusty - gee whiz. You are one busy woman.

Thanks for asking how I'm doing. I seem to be doing fine. I am more teary for no reason. But, that could also be that it's been stressful around here and I need to watch a sad movie and have a good cry. :rotlf:
I was thinking earlier that I am trying so hard to be a positive, optimistic person. But, you all never see that side of me because this is where I come to complain about everything. So, I am sorry about that. But, I doubt that I'll stop all my bitching. Ha, ha

[Rusty]

Hi Friends,

Taking a break from cleaning my closet and thought I would pop in and say "hi!" I am posting from my phone so I will do the best I can to type coherently.

Nora-big hugs coming to you! You ARE always so positive and optimistic!!! I cannot imagine the kind of stress you face every day..with working full-time, a disabled husband, your mother living with you full-time....I do not know if I could do all that and stay sober. I love and admire you on so many levels:hug::heartbeat:. Vent away!

[NoraC]

I've walked into the bedroom three times to start going thru the closet. It's getting a little too late to start now. :rotlf:

[paulywogg]

Nora,you're always a positive person in my eyes,that's why I have been pestering you about how you feel,you've seemed a llittlequiet lately but iI guess we all just have stuff going on right now