Army gates open july 2016

[satz123]

No-one around - so off to make myself useful somewhere :llama:

[anon]

Good afternoon--just. Well done Mary, holidays can be so hard as we often go to our default setting and think drink is expected! They do get so much better after after the first sober holiday, when you realise how much fun can be had without booze.
Off for a shopping expedition.

[JackieClaire]

Had to go shopping for the BBQ tomorrow. 20+ people.
Funny thing is years ago when I was in full fling drinking mode, I would be flogging me guts out in the kitchen making homemade potato salad, coleslaw and salads. Cakes and puddings. I've bought the lot.

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

Hello strangers, this made me laugh out loud and we could all do with those I reckon.

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Sorry for having disappeared yet again....

[JackieClaire]

Evening. Been in the garden again, Tabbers? I love it when something like that tickles us.

Has it been hot and muggy over there Molls?

[JackieClaire]

Not so much a giggle, but fascinating.

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[IamMary]

Hello!
Thank you all so much for the words and chat yesterday and today. You are right Molly, it's play acting, even to myself.

Nora, are you the same? Can't read much on my phone. I suppose I didn't expect it to be plain sailing, but it's not like we are in the pub with other adults, just us and the kids, hubby has his 'the best beer ever' in the house. Satz, I don't know how you do it in the pub, i am In awe.
Definitely tiredness is a trigger. And the sun. And the idea, like JC says, wine in the garden.. Or here on the balcony, which is a lovely image if is was 2 glasses, not 2 bottles.

Mary - how funny that I've had some of those same crazy thoughts! But, we're still here. :heartbeat:
I came over here because isn't it almost a year for you now? I am trying to figure out your date.

Yes, we are close!! 19th July was my day 1, so just 8 days between us..we will drag each other over that line, whatever it takes !!!

Hope your all set for the Bbq Jacks! What's the weather like?

Back tomorrow, 10 here, so goonight all :star:

[JackieClaire]

Ah good there you are.

Well its as hot as Hades and its stopped raining............for now.

[IamMary]

I'll send you a bit of sunshine over for tomorrow.. As long as the rain stays away, you'll be sorted!

[NoraC]

Hello!
Nora, are you the same? Can't read much on my phone. I suppose I didn't expect it to be plain sailing, but it's not like we are in the pub with other adults, just us and the kids, hubby has his 'the best beer ever' in the house. Satz, I don't know how you do it in the pub, i am In awe.
Definitely tiredness is a trigger. And the sun. And the idea, like JC says, wine in the garden.. Or here on the balcony, which is a lovely image if is was 2 glasses, not 2 bottles.


Yes, we are close!! 19th July was my day 1, so just 8 days between us..we will drag each other over that line, whatever it takes !!!

Oh mine was some random thought sitting on a summer day with an icy, slushy drink. Happy, laughing and enjoying the day........ Then I smacked myself upside the head and the picture changed back to reality. The hidden bottle, the pacing myself in front of others, the CRAVING for more. No thank you. I never want to crave like that again!

[JackieClaire]

I'll send you a bit of sunshine over for tomorrow.. As long as the rain stays away, you'll be sorted!

Thank you. Day of sport tomorrow......British Grande Prix, Wimbledon Final and the Euros final.

Oh mine was some random thought sitting on a summer day with an icy, slushy drink. Happy, laughing and enjoying the day........ Then I smacked myself upside the head and the picture changed back to reality. The hidden bottle, the pacing myself in front of others, the CRAVING for more. No thank you. I never want to crave like that again!

Oh Nora, that awful churning where you're mentally begging for them to hurry up...

[JackieClaire]

Morning.

[JackieClaire]

Love, love it when you come in with a cracking post like that,Molls.

[satz123]

Morning Army

[satz123]

hello girls -- a few things came to mind -- 1# you're on holidays Mary and it's definitely a new focus comes about drink when you've been previously in a drinking relationship with your partner -- it really changes everything on hols -- well the first holiday -- by the 2nd 3rd and 4th we've learnt to do what WE like as well as the drinking person -- dunno bout you but my first one I was grimly determinedly set to not being felt sorry for by anyone ('oh poor M - she can't have a drink') -- nobody tbh believes (including ourselves) that we don't WANT a drink - not in the first year or on the first hol -- but that does come -- but again to be completely frankly honest imo -- that first holiday/christmas/wedding/birthday -- whatever - just has to be dealt with in order that the next one WILL be good -- and if you manage to enjoy yourself somewhat --- ALL the better -- but the worst thing we can do on 'the first one' - is to feel sorry for ourselves -- the first word of grief between us and our partners -- where will we run???
#2 -- euphoric recall --- wonderful expression used in rehab about looking back at the rosy days -- were they rosy?? no the WEREN'T -- maybe they were before we crossed the line -- but ONCE THAT LINE IS CROSSED (and lets face it -- we're here --- we've crossed the line -- end of -- no 'I'm not as bad as' ) there was nothing rosy -- like Jackie said in her last post 'mentally begging for them to hurry up' --- THAT is the reality -- we don't like to admit it but it makes us sound like we were sad sacks -- well if we were sad sacks then then we aren't sad sacks now -- we are RECOVERING alcoholics -- proud of that I am -- so BLOODY proud -- you don't have to shout it out - but FFS shout it in your head..... be proud..
#3 -- said it earlier this week ladies -- but around the year I got a PLUNGE in mood and energy -- look into the B12 - it isn't always checked routinely unless our doctors know we drank too much

:welldone: Mollerooney !!!!
We forget that what we are doing is a positive thing. We are the HEROS ...... feel sorry for those still in the pit.
We can now take pleasure in the simple things ....... I now love doing simple things - things I thought boring before. Like a drive to the park for a walk, cinema, etc. because when I drank I was then confined to the house mostly after 6pm.
My relationship with my family has improved so much in that when I say something 'off the wall' now - I am listened to - not written off as befuddled from wine.
I just feel so lucky to have found this site.