Army gates open july 2016

[JackieClaire]

Morning Satz,
I like that word befuddled.

[IamMary]

Evening. A timely and excellent post Molly. So so glad I can get on here and read. Definitely feeling a tad sorry for myself as the holiday progresses - to the point that I was getting myself down this evening, watching other wine drinkers in the restaurant, imagining it going down and that buzz.
Enough, it's not real and I am so delighted that I'm no longer a slave to being close to the wine tap all day. Satz, I'm still not used to being able to drive anywhere after 6.. I have to remind myself!

B12, definitely going to start on it when I'm home. I'm exhausted and was blaming the sun, prob a bit of everything.

Too hard to quote on my phone, but I'm hanging off all this posts today. Thank you all. :heartbeat:

[NoraC]

Excellent post, Molly. Thank you. I love the words of wisdom that I collect from all of you.

[sunbird2]

Evening All,

Hang in Mary.....I know its harder on holiday when everyone else seems to be having a ball drinking.....

Went to my home group meeting here in Johannesburg, and it was fantastic........you have no idea how wonderful it is to be so applauded....it makes not joining the drinkers on holiday all worth it!!! :thumbsup:

Al packed and ready to go home at the crack of dawn tomorrow.....I will so miss the children....thet are a handful.....but I love them so!!!

[sunbird2]

And to dearest Jackie on her seven years....sorry I missed it in the involvement with the grandchildren.......WELL DONE!

I so wish I had hung in there with you....the last 5 years of Tonys life would have been very dirrerent!!!

[NoSugar]

I so wish I had hung in there with you....the last 5 years of Tonys life would have been very dirrerent!!!

I used to (and still battle) the tendency to think that way, Sunbird. But we really don't need to do that.

Story of the Taoist Farmer
A farmer had only one horse. One day, his horse ran away.

All the neighbors came by saying, “I’m so sorry. This is such bad news. You must be so upset.” The man just said, “We’ll see.”
A few days later, his horse came back with twenty wild horses. The man and his son corralled all 21 horses.
All the neighbors came by saying, “Congratulations! This is such good news. You must be so happy!” The man just said, “We’ll see.”
One of the wild horses kicked the man’s only son, breaking both his legs.
All the neighbors came by saying, “I’m so sorry. This is such bad news. You must be so upset.” The man just said, “We’ll see.”
The country went to war, and every able-bodied young man was drafted to fight. The war was terrible and killed every young man, but the farmer’s son was spared, since his broken legs prevented him from being drafted.

All the neighbors came by saying, “Congratulations! This is such good news. You must be so happy!” The man just said, “We’ll see.”

We can't see the "could have beens" but maybe what happened was actually a good thing for reasons we cannot know.

In some ways I still regret that that I became addicted but I would not ever want to have missed what I've seen during the last 3.5 years. Alcohol stole much from me but recovery has made me more of the person I want to be. I'm almost ready to admit it was worth it.

xx, NS

[JackieClaire]

Morning lovelies,
Molly makes an excellent point. I was just thinking in my previous quits some nearly 5 months long i used to actively encourage Mr JC to drink.............it was a case of go on ...........I'm the one with the problem...........no need to affect your life because I'm a sad sack................but while you are drinking, please,please,please read my mind and know what I'm really feeling.
The first year is about getting through things, next year will be enjoying those things. Never dreamt that I now look forward to Christmas, birthdays, holidays without alcohol..........it becomes a time to relax and enjoy not a constant wondering where the next drink is coming.

I'll talk about the BBQ in a bit.............it was fun, really good fun.

[anon]

Good afternoon--Some excellent posts to read over the past few days.
Off on my holiday next Tuesday and I am always amazed at how LITTLE other people seem to drink. In my drinking days I thought everyone drank nearly as much as me! Gets easier after the first sober holiday--

[JackieClaire]

Evening all,
Tuesday as in tomorrow Tuesday or a week tomorrow Tuesday, Mrs A?

House and garden all back to normal after the busy-ness yesterday. Everything eaten apart from 15 chicken drumsticks, 2 packets of quorn burgers and a pot of coleslaw.

[IamMary]

Evening..
Party sounds like a great success JC? Are you wrecked??

Thanks Molly, I am looking forward to year 2. I didn't mean to sound like I'm not enjoying myself, having a ball everyday with the kids but just wrecked at night and
I suppose feeling a bit lost or unsure of myself, if that makes sense... Not enough to
Pickup a glass, but God knows how quickly the mind can justify these things.
Anyway, your both right about being 'more' honest.. Pride is a curse!

Sunny, that must put you on a high! Well done to you.
Love that piece NS, well put. When I was really 'pink clouding' it, I've had thoughts, how lucky I am to be an alcoholic as I see he world differently now!! Big cloud :happy2:

Anon- complety agree on most people drinking normally!!

[IamMary]

Ps: bought a pair of killer heels today. All is right with the world now. :biglaugh:

[spiderwoman]

Evening all - first day back on the diet so its been a long one. Enjoy the heels Mary, I stopped wearing them because I was always falling over drunk so might be time for some shoe shopping now the idea's in my head

[JackieClaire]

Morning and cheerio,
Off to the sunny borders of Scotland.
I used to wear heels even when I was drinking........and still managed to stand up in them. No idea how.

I still wear them but very rarely but take a pair of flats in my bag.

See yous in a few days.

[Mick]

Have a good holiday jac's ..it will be seeing as you are going to jock land currently on coach just leaving London for Manchester pouring down with rain haven't seen that for 3 weeks big hi to everyone else

[anon]

Very quick check in as off to do the school run! Killer heels sound like fun but I am built for comfort and the poshest shoes i have are Sketchers.
Holiday next Tuesday the 19th --Enjoy this Tuesday everyone!