Join the Army Against Alcohol - January '17

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

Evening all, flying visit.

Smashed? Not heard of it I think I will watch that in bed tonight

As opposed to going to bed smashed, which was my default setting for so so long.

[IamMary]

Evening all, flying visit.



As opposed to going to bed smashed, which was my default setting for so so long.

Yep. Having a last last last one before bed.. makes no sense.
I used to being at least 2 litres of water to bed every night, more if I'd hit the wine hard, then run to the loo every couple of hours. God I don't miss the nights.

[kuya]

You are right there Molls. Many times young Satz has said to his sister that 'Mam did it easily without AA'
We pointed out that everyone is different and that I found MWO and for ME that was my support ........... and that he needs a support structure.

He text me and asked that I trust him to do it. That he'll do it "my way" ( his way) which echos in a way my signature below :egad:

Your son's attitude is so like mine. It is almost as though they think that because they didn't see the struggle for us there WAS no struggle. As Molly says, once our minds were made up it was relatively easy, but, for me, making my mind up took years.

Additionally I was a high functioning drinker, always worked, paid bills, no legal problems, raised children. Whereas my son has worked about 2 years in the last 10 and they have lost the last five homes through non payment of rent.

I get what Tabbers said about tough love pushing him further into the drugs but I have simply given hi a choice (one he asked for) paid for counselling or to not come round stressing/frightening us. It is his choice to go on with his lifestyle and his GF's choice to enable him.

It became even more of a pressure when my mother died earlier this year....before that I could legitimately say I couldn't lend them money but now I cannot say that. He has thrown that in my face a couple times and I have HAD to grow a pair and stand up to him.

Nobody carried me while I was drinking. I am certainly not obliged to carry him.

Satz the hardest thing for me to accept was he is EXTREMELY manipulative. He has been willing to do nearly ANYTHING to continue his lifestyle. At least your lad has tried, but maybe you should stand back and see whether he is also trying to manipulate you too.(like the 'doing it my way' statement).

We are mothers and can be blinded by that instinct to protect them.


Starty.....sorry to hear you are under pressure but good to hear you are booking a holiday.

[JackieClaire]

Good morning, good morning, good morning...........



I set my alarm this morning because the last few days been wallowing in my pit 'til 10am. Feel like I'm missing half the day.

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

Good morning folks, where is everyone?

[JackieClaire]

Still in their leaba, they haven't got the get up and go we have..................that was a fake it til you make it moment.

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

I never got the Sunday lay in idea, always wake around the same time except when I have poisoned myself badly the night before. I have to go and fit some gates this morning and then spread some errrr old manure in the veg garden, glad it is dry and not too cold. The weather that is, not the manure.

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

I know I know Tabbers is talking crap again.
Morning Molly dear, no need to do too much housewivey thing, you have a job already.

[JackieClaire]

Ahh Tabbers, you've just brought a lovely memory back............my Ma and Pa used to have a massive garden............and he used to get as excited as a kid on Christmas Eve when his massive pile of horse manure was delivered.

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

It's lovely crumby smell free four year old horse & chicken mix from a farm near me JC. Oh can you tell how excited I am teehee.

Molly I have been planning this for a long time even down to the day and the fact that the new year will be so much easier socially with no awkward questions seeing as so many people go on a health drive this time of the year. But stopping a daily habit that has gone on for a long long time and taking in, I estimate, about 100+ units a week is never going to be plain sailing. I have been here over 7 years now and have failed many times in the past so I know what hurdles are ahead of me. At the moment it's all good and I am looking no further than sunset today. I will face tomorrow when it arrives, armed with the knowledge I have gathered over the years and a grim determination not to continue what can be only described as a slow suicide.

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

And why pray tell would I ignore your well meaning and caring posts that have only one agenda, to help me in any way you can to beat this bastard of an affliction. And it is much appreciated as you no doubt know.

[satz123]

Morning you lot :checkin:

[satz123]

Molls I feel your pain with hubby knocking around 24/7 - drive yer to drink :haha:

[IamMary]

Morning..
Big transition for Joe Molly, isn't it? Has he officially retired not or will he look for something else? Mr M would love to be the stay at home daddy/husband/person.. endless list of jobs here, like tabbers :happy2:
Had to wake up this lazy lot an hour ago - terrible habits formed over the holliers, back to normal tomorrow. :egad:

[IamMary]

Your son's attitude is so like mine. It is almost as though they think that because they didn't see the struggle for us there WAS no struggle. As Molly says, once our minds were made up it was relatively easy, but, for me, making my mind up took years

Good point, took me years. And if I had been 'found out' a decade before, it would have been excuses excuses and I would have hidden it even better.