Join the Army Against Alcohol - January '17

[marthadan]

Hi Starty. Mornings are cool. My challenge will be later in the day. But planning to keep busy!

[mario]

Ok folks I am of out to a CA meeting, see ya laters.

[starty]

Hi Starty. Mornings are cool. My challenge will be later in the day. But planning to keep busy!

Good move. I binge watched Netflix to help

Laters Mario

[JackieClaire]

Morning All,
Marthadan :welcome:

Slept like several logs.

[JackieClaire]

Lovely post, Molls.

[satz123]

to a certain extent I think you may have put your finger on it Benjy -- at least half of the couples at Aftercare - their relwerestruggling big time -- some made it after the two years - some didn't - I quizzed Joe about it recently - (didn't feel I'd the 'right' to afor a few years) why that happens - and I gather from what he said that when the addict goes into recovery and the world seems to be their oyster - everyone all over them for being clean... so much attention paid etc.. and he said it's very easy to feel angry and neglected - and that the person who 'caused all the trouble' - is being pampered and minded and the concerned other - having put up with all the shite is sort of side-lined??

Yes Molls that is what I was getting at. It's common sense.
If we stop and put our feet in their shoes we can understand better what they also went through. Most of it we probably have forgotten because we were drunk.
They see we are quitting alcohol - but all that crap is not forgotten .... probably never will be. We have to accept that.

[abcowboy]

Great discussion ladies about our spouses feelings through all this stuff we go through as we get sober. Sometimes they become a "forgotten" important reason why we are doing this! Forgive and forget is easy to say, but not always easy to do. Bubba will still mention something I said to her 10 years ago while I was drunk, no, she hasn't forgotten, forgiven, maybe... But I can't really expect all the things I said and did to be washed away just because I'm sober now....

[satz123]

Good move. I binge watched Netflix to help

Laters Mario

Yep - Breaking Bad & Game of Thrones back to back - saved me !!

[marthadan]

Hi Mollyka,
Thanks for the encouragement. I'm 55. Been struggling on and off for the last maybe 15 odd years. Sometimes I feel like I've got things under control. Others I know I just don't. Especially when I start having blackouts - can't remember what I said/ did etc. I think I'm really too old to be a drunk old lady! so time to do something about it. In other news, I'm a musician though not performing much as I've moved countries and now live in Ireland.
2 kids - 25 and 20. 25 has marijuana issues - it just doesn't work for him. 5 step kids. Oldest 35 youngest 18. I'm actually really blessed and have a good life. I just want to be more present!
Didn't know what to share - so there goes my verbal diarrhea. :happy2:

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

Hi Marthadan, thanks for sharing. How are you doing this evening?

[JackieClaire]

Evening, was just thinking that meself Tabbers, give us a wave Martha.

[IamMary]

Evening All..
Nice to see you Martha, your in good company here, :hug:
Have you got a distraction plan tonight??

Do you sing/play an instrument? Few musicians on these boards (not I...croak croak)

How are you doing KTab??

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

Hi JC & Mary, I am doing better than fantastic thank you for asking.

[marthadan]

Hi guys,
Survived day 1!!! Yay! I took the advice of watching series! And it worked a charm!! That and a serious warning from the hubby! :love:
Still watching person of interest now. I play piano and sing. I'm very grateful for the support!
Good night and hope to catch everyone tomorrow.
Bless.

[IamMary]

Good for you Martha!
I loved this blog..

Night night AAAers.