One Step at a Time - January 2017

[Rusty]

AG!:yay: Sorry...cross post! Yes, I loved "Under The Influence." It's an excellent book! There are also two excellent books by Lance Dodes that really helped me..."Breaking Addiction: A 7-Step Handbook for Ending Any Addiction" and "The Heart of Addiction." You are doing so well....and I am so proud of you!!!

[NoraC]

Hello. Just checking in. Not much going on here today. Going thru tons of paperwork that I have put off for to long.

[NoraC]

Hope that everyone has had a fantastic day. I'm still hanging out doing nothing. I have been totally stressed out this week. Hubby and I have been rubbing each other the wrong way. Work has been stressful. So, I'm so grateful that today is a better day. I woke up on the wrong side of the bed but was able to turn it around.

[Lizann]

Hi all!
AG, you are sounding great! Keep it up, you're well on your way. Did you end up going to the movies? I hear la la land is supposed to be fantastic. I would imagine your boys aren't into it though. A cold glass of milk actually sounds good, I may go have some now too. Honestly have done that in forever! Post away AG, your keeping busy and it sounds like you are being mindful, important to get I touch with those feelings.
Glassie, I really think you hit the nail on the head with "cognitive dissonance ". Wow, that make a lot of sense! Thank you for your insight.
Rusty, you are so sweet, always finding the positive in everything. Thanks so much for being a ray of sunshine here.
Nora, darn paper work! It's overwhelming sometimes. Not much going on here either. Looking for venues for Erin's baby shower. I contacted her MIL and we threw some ideas around. I think we are making progress with that. Waiting to hear back from one venue and will probably book, hopefully next week.
So just wondering what your thoughts are on who pays for the shower? She has offered to help if I needed anything, I'm not sure what that means or how to proceed. Any thoughts?
Watching James Bond tonight, apparently there's a marathon today. Gotta love it!

[Lizann]

X post Nora! Glad you were able to turn that around! Sometimes you just gotta fake it till you make it!

[Wildflowers]

Had a read back.

AG~ Agree with the food advice & low blood sugar. I keep Kashi, or protein bar in my purse. I too have done AA, Smart, counseling, exercise, reading, meditation, positive thinking etc. Check your HALTS. Maybe try & figure out which one's are dominating triggers. Then work on a plan. Fairly normal to feel anger, anxiety even depression early on. If it lingers past 90 days, perhaps make an appt with a health care professional. Helped when I read, was tired of lying to myself. Read this before, but some how it really hit me. Two wks in & was at the store & said this to myself. Congrats on day five. :yay:

Nora~ Glad you had a u-turn on your day. :smile: Along, with tackling paperwork.

Pauly~ Hope your feeling better from having wisdom teeth pulled. Member years back & all I wanted was taco's. Helped one of our kids recuperate. Read it may dump poison in body, so best to have them pulled. Sorry, you'll be having more dental appts. I went last month. Was happy, I didn't need a root canal. Will in future. Went this wk for my cleaning. Now have two squeeze balls. One in family room & vehicle.

Rusty~ Thank you for caring for everyone!... Hope your weekend is happy!...

Liz~ It's been years since I've been to a baby shower. They were in homes. See positive advantages to booking a venue. No cleaning before, after, cooking. Maybe you could have MIL buy the cake, or ask for help in planning games. This is such an exciting time in your lives. Happy boat shopping. Such great fun. Luv~luv the water.

Waves to everyone else. Hope your weekend is good.... :love:

[Lizann]

Wildflower, you're sounding great! We love the water too. It's been a few years since we had the boat out on the lake. I am hoping this summer we will finally find some time to do that. We shall see. Thanks for your shower advice. Have a good night!

[NoraC]

I've only been to one baby shower in a restaurant so I'm no help either.

WF - good to see you. I'm going for my cleaning this week.

Rusty - thanks for being a positive force

Back to doing nothing.

[actiongirl46]

Hi all - I'm up waaaaay too late again but not due to drinking! Made it another day. So good.

I wanted to make a morning yoga class but I slept in. I can't blame it on drinking, so I just decided to not worry about it. Maybe I just need to sleep on Saturday mornings. Who cares.

I love the snack theme. And I'm seeing a pattern here as it works for a lot of us. I'm going to prep some snacks tomorrow for the week. I mainly work at home, but I think I still need to have them ready to go. Great ideas, thank you so much.

We didn't make it to the movies but it is ok. Maybe tomorrow. I did just sit and hang out with hubs this afternoon and evening. Lots of talking, not about anything super important or deep, but just things like kids schedules, our summer plans, etc. It dawned on me that when he is in the TV room and I am in the kitchen sneaking the stuff behind the paper towel roll (secret is out now) we really don't talk AT ALL. DUH. AL makes you so dumb.

Nice to see you Rusty. Nora, I hope you are not getting too bored. What is your next adventure? Class? Book club?

Liz, we love the water and boating too. When is your daughter due? That is so exciting!! What would happen if you just listed all the estimated costs and shared that with the MIL? That sounds like a bit of a pickle.

Take care!

[SKendall]

Way to go AG! I am dying to see LaLa Land.

Liz, it was my understanding that the person who suggests the shower pays for it.

[NoraC]

Hello all.

AG - 7 DAYS!!!! Yahoo

[Rusty]

Good Afternoon, All!

AG-wow, are you past your 7th day....WHOO HOO!! I love your posts! I underestimated the need for sleep when I was drinking. DUH...lack of sleep leads to poor mood which always lead to AL. Isn't it great to stay up late and then wake up without a hangover? Your husband will come around..just give it time. I love the water, too, and live in a resort community really close to a beautiful, spring-fed lake. I lived on a lake growing up and we had boats and assorted water toys. I wish I could afford a boat where I live..but I enjoy OTHER people's boats. Hahah!

Hey Wildflowers...glad to see you posting here and sharing your experiences. You're sounding so positive...great to see.

Liz: Regarding the shower, I am with Skendall...

it was my understanding that the person who suggests the shower pays for it.

I would not assume that Joe's mom is going to help out financially, though. Maybe you and she could host it together and split the cost? I know you said they were not contributing toward the wedding, but maybe the shower is different? Would it be possible to have the shower at a restaurant and get a private room to hold it in...or maybe the Hilton since one of your girls works there? I forgot which daughter, though. SORRY!! How come you guys haven't put your boat in the water in the last few years? Spending more time in your pool?

Skendall-how are you doing, dear?

GLASSIE!!!:heartbeat: You said the ladies in your family battled eating disorders...were you or your daughter anorexic at one time?

Nora...you and hubs are at odds:hug:...I'm sorry, hon. You know, it took me a long time to be able to say to myself that it was OK to do nothing but watch old movies all day if I wanted to. I used to feel REALLY guilty about it..like I would look like a slouch. The way I look at it, since I am sober, and I want a day to do nothing productive, then I should be able to do it. I work about 60 hrs. a week and I know you work hard, too, AND take care of your mom...we both deserve mental health days! Hey, did I email you to tell you we hired two aerospace guys out of Salt Lake? Well, apparently, these guys are SO inflexible and unreasonable that the clients do NOT want them back. Maybe I'll get those clients. :-)

I am SO sick of all the political talk elsewhere. I am glad we don't talk about politics here....it helps our tight little thread maintain its harmony on a daily basis!:happy2:

Ok, onto paperwork and more decluttering. I hope everyone is enjoying their AF Sunday.

[NoraC]

Wanted to say hi. I haven't been able to sit down on my computer yet today. Hopefully catch you in a bit.

[Rusty]

Hey NORA!:heartbeat:

[actiongirl46]

Hi Steppers - I am feeling better today. I woke up with a sense of pride and happiness, instead of dread, self-loathing and wondering how badly I screwed up the night before.

The bewitching hour was still there (hello, 4:00pm!!). I ate, took a walk with one of my boys and my dog in the snow, and just tried to push out the thoughts. Now I know they will be gone by 9pm. I've also been playing out my last Sunday night . . . just seven days ago . . . when I came to leaning on my kitchen island at 2am. No idea how or why I ended up there. I'm so thankful, so so thankful, I didn't fall and crack my head open. What a way to go in your own house.

Hubs is doing better too. He is talking to me so much more. The weather is getting him down, I had no idea.

I could not have done this week without you guys on this thread, and the other good folks here on MWO. Not just this week but the past year or so.

Ok, this little speech is NOT an "ending" but a "beginning" one. My next goal is 15 days because that will be an all time record for me. My next short term goal is tomorrow, Day 8.

Sleep well friends! AG