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Originally posted by doveagain View Post
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AA is good start and helpful for recovery. Volunteer work, soup kitchen, food pantry, church groups, even visit a nursing home (many, if not most are lonely, and can't leave or do service work, and have the best stories) all keep you busy and involved. You'll meet other people with similar interests from all walks of life and backgrounds. Generally people doing this type work are of better character then the folks at the bars. It will get you out of "self", which is important for recovery. Hell, it's got to beat sitting alone watching TV getting drunk, and I promise you'll feel better the next morning.
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Hi, there. Just wanted to say thank you for posting. I'm currently on day 2 and your exact thought has haunted me for the past couple weeks as I've come to realize more and more I have a problem. I'd always think, "OK, I'll give it up for 6 months and then I'll be fine." 6 months only ever lasted 1 night. If that. I'm still scared and think often of 'forever.' No congratulatory drink with my daughter on her engagement/wedding night? No special bottle of wine on our 10 year anniversary? No wine at all when we go to visit Paris again? All those things make me sad.
But, as others have said, I'm trying to take it one day (and sometimes one hour) at a time. It's 5pm, usually that means crack open that bottle of wine. So last night when the urge hit I tried to say, "How about we revisit in an hour?" And just kept pushing it back. This morning I woke up feeling fantastic, even after a hard night with a sick toddler. But what I keep trying to remind myself is - how awesome I felt this morning and how much of a better mom I was to my sick toddler at 2am because I didn't feel that impending hangover starting.
I know I will have much harder days than this. But I will continue to take baby steps to success.
Again, thanks for sharing your thoughts. It's nice to know I'm not alone.
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Originally posted by dyingtobealive View PostI'm still scared and think often of 'forever.' No congratulatory drink with my daughter on her engagement/wedding night? No special bottle of wine on our 10 year anniversary? No wine at all when we go to visit Paris again? All those things make me sad.
My daughter will be married one day, I will enjoy the day and raise the toast with....whatever - The contents of the glass are not important - As I said before, it is about life change and your focus will adjust accordingly
You have made the first step, recognising things have to change, take one day at a time, reminding yourself of the successful day you had yesterday
Regards
BacmanLast edited by Baclofenman; January 13, 2017, 02:47 PM.I am not a Doctor - I am an alcoholic.
Thoughts expressed here are my own, often poorly put together and littered with atrocious grammar and spelling.
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'Once you learn to prioritise these wonderful events ahead of your alcohol opportunities you will realise you have made great progress' - this is great reminder, thank you. I often felt 'giddy' when I knew there was an alcohol fueled event coming up, because it was 'acceptable' to drink then. Eventually I hope it will not matter what I have in my glass.
Dove - I was going to suggest volunteering as well. Is there an animal shelter? Someone else mentioned soup kitchen or nursing home. Maybe a exercise group? I'm blanking on what they are called - but basically when non professionals get together to play soccer or basketball or something like that.
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Actually, I envision myself (in my mind) at all of these things as the non-drinker....and in my vision I am smiling and happy and it doesn't matter that I am not drinking. I think that I can do this because I have played this role every now and then throughout my life...the one watching everyone else get wasted and stupid and having fun not being them, but being able to help out if needed....something about being the caretaker appeals to me. This hasn't happened in a lot of years as my ex-husband enabled me to be the drunkest bc he was always there to drive me home. Then after the divorce...with no friends to drink with, stuck in small town nowhere, I have become the sit at home, lonely, drink to pass out and forget the last hour of the night drunk. I really am an extrovert and being so alone has really hit me hard. When I was in college I went through a stage where I only drank coffee at the bars so I could drive everyone home safe. If only I had drunk friends to take care of, right??!! Just kidding...kind-of...maybe not....ugh.
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dove- i would just quit for 30 days each year. then once i upped it to 90 days, mostly for dieting purposes. But then at some point I decided on a year (because i hadn't lost much weight during the 90 days). So, what happens is this: by the time most folks get a few months in, they wake up to the simple fact that they feel better without it. This time I'm two years into a three year personal commitment, but I can easily see I won't start again after three years even though I have my personal "permission" to do so. Just because I would rather feel good, than not good!
Well and also because I still won't have lost that 15 pounds.Last edited by lex; February 1, 2017, 05:49 PM.
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As trite and cliche as it sounds, getting through this fight really is about winning battles. The war is ongoing, it gets easier, but it never really vanishes, at least for me.
Try and get past each urge as it hitsGlad to be back with my second family :sohappy:
Last dance with the devil 5/02/11
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