One Step at a Time - February 2017

[SKendall]

Re: One Step at a Time - February 2017

Well, it has loosened up somewhat, upper cheek and chin are very swollen. I went to have lunch at my usual restaurant and the server noticed it immediately, so I just have to trust in Father Time. I leave tomorrow a.m. and don't want to return. I have to wait for healing before the last few can be screwed in and that's about 6 months. The total cost of the trip was expensive, re hotels, meals and the hustlers. Yesterday, maracas were $1.00 each. Today they were $5.00 each. Yesterday I bought a large embroidered tote, they asked for $30.00 and I paid $20, today it was $2.00. The hustlers are just supposed to be around the border, but they are encroaching further and further up to my hotel, which is forbidden. It is just exhausting to keep saying no, and having necklaces placed over your head - way too far in my personal space.

Also, I'm flying out of Phoenix and the taxi ride is $350.00 The largest dentist is next door and they do that drive a couple of times a day but they refused to take me b/c I didn't have the work done there. my hotel wouldn't step forward For the sake of the chamber of commerce, who would ask that when I'm on board. I think the dentist was absolutely stellar, once we got the funds straightened out. I was fortunate to have no more than necessary pain and his expertise.

Weird experience the daytime receptionist wants to marry me, just for a green card convenience, I am still legally married, or I would have considered it. Very nice guy, bi-lingual and would do well in the US.

You can't help everybody.

[Lizann]

Re: One Step at a Time - February 2017

Good morning and happy Saturday.

Skendall, how many implants did you get? Your trip sounds exhausting! I've been to Mexico and know what you mean about the hustlers. It is annoying. So may I ask, is it still less expensive todo this there?

Pauly, my girlfriend swears by black cohosh. I may look into it as well. How old is Brady going to be?

Mark is leaving for Germany in a few hours and I am a little sad. Hubby and I will take him to the airport later and go out to dinner. Erin introduced us to this amazing diner close to the airport years ago. Always a treat to go there. He put in for his work transfers this week. Don't know if I've mentioned this yet but Belgium is his top choice. He will find out in a few weeks.

So what's everyone else up to today? Off to run a bit so I may consume masses of food later today. I will stick close by today.

[actiongirl46]

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Hi all - A gray and snowy Saturday here. Brrr! I managed to get out to the band festival this morning and then to yoga. Oldest son and I had a nice lunch. Off to walk the dog and then dinner with friends.

Liz, I'm with you, sticking close this afternoon. Just "not today" is working for me so far, THANK YOU.

Stay strong and take good care of yourselves today!

[Wildflowers]

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Going strong here. Tho still tired. Trying to arrange, coordinate a few milestone b-days. Hard when not having plane flights reserved. Oh well, if they don't get back in time, will make own plans. Few different scenarios to choose from.

SK - Don't understand why DMD - DDS don't have access to narcotics for pain. Never heard of that drug they gave you. Will have to Google. Glad your headed back to USA. Time for some R&R. Dental implants may be taxing your immune system. Please take care of yourself. When your mouth is healed, you might look into some dating sites. After all life should also be about pleasures. :smile:

Nora - Anxious times in your life. You will get thru these seasons. Grateful, you have two of your adult children going with you. Helping and supporting each other. Lots of folks have no one. Emotionally painful and physically taxing life seasons come to us all. Cry when you need too. Spending time alone outside or somewhere you find peace. Now is the time to be pro-active in your faith, trust in God!.. He will continue to walk with you, hold you up. Your hubs will be OK with your Mom. Grateful you have family in town to back him up, if needed. Brother who appears to agitate you at times. It will all work out. :hug: Praying for you!...


Mr WF needs my help outside. Have a big project going on. Went to AA meeting this wk. Tonight Celebrate Recovery. Looking fwd to specialist appt next wk. Have decided to spend more time at meetings again. So won't be here posting much.

Nice to see Fenny checking in. Hope all is happy in your world. Waves to everyone else. Take good care!... :heartbeat:

[Lizann]

Re: One Step at a Time - February 2017

So just got back taking the boy to the airport. He is flying business class with all the bells and whistles, nice huh? United club lounge offers free food (pickies) and yes drinks! Wasted on him, but good for him :love: hubby and I enjoyed our dinner out. Probably would've gone somewhere after dinner, but it started pouring! . Home cuddled on my couch with hubby and Lucy watching James Bond.

Wildflower glad you are finding support. Whatever it takes.

AG, I'm glad, the just for today, is working for you.

Today I was searching for a particular color of nail polish under my bathroom sink. I usually get manicures now and don't usually do my own nails anymore. I found two small airplane bottles of al amongst my forgotten. Nail polish. I disposed of it immediately and you know, it didn't tempt me at all:sohappy: taking one of my kids to the airport would be a reason to drink, nope no desire! Just thought I'd share that little milestone!

[NoraC]

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Hi all. Been busy today. Hubby & I did some running around this morning. Came home and spent some time with son & DIL. Actually, DIL ended up doing make up on mom & me. We had a lot of laughs.
Thanks all for the encouraging words regarding my trip. I am sad to have to be doing this but have given myself permission to be a little sad. But, then going in with a positive attitude. I told my brother that we are so blessed that we have a home to go thru and that it was filled with love & happy memories. Many, many people don't have any of this.

WF - glad that you enjoyed your meetings. I did go to a few and enjoyed some of them.

Liz - good job on not even being tempted and just throwing it out. I was scared for a long time that I was going to find a big bottle hidden somewhere. I knew it would be empty because I wouldn't have misplaced one that still had anything at all in it.

AG - just not today. Yep, sometimes that's what you have to keep telling yourself. I don't know why there are episodes like that. But, they become fewer and farther between.

Where is Rusty??????

Techie - hope you are having an amazing time.

Pauly - I hope that Brady has a wonderful birthday!

SK - safe travels!

Don't remember if I got a chance to tell you that it was my son & DIL's anniversary yesterday. 1 year. They got tattoo's. :sour: The tattoos are nice but they are right on their forearms. I've known people who broke up and had a tattoo to try to cover. Oh well - it's done and they do plan on living happily ever after.

I'm sure everyone is in bed now. So I'll catch you all tomorrow. :love:

[techie]

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Aloha Nora. Greetings from Kailua Kona, Steppers. Not so great weather, but it is wonderful to be here. Hope everyone is well. Good for you Liz. More to follow...

[SKendall]

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Hi everyone. I'm back in the USA. I would describe my day as a perfect storm for a breakdown. Traveled 10 hours and staying in a hotel, yep, couldn't find my apt. keys. I am becoming a disaster magnet and I don't like it.

Liz, congrats on the airport trip.

Nora, thinking of you.

I am beyond exhausted so will chat tomorrow.

[NoraC]

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Oh SK. :sad: :sad:

[NoraC]

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Techie - drat that the weather isn't better for you. How long are you going to be there? Any chance of improvement?

[Neo]

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Hey SK, Hope everything is ok with the implants. Mexican implants (We won't tell Trump). I'm getting 1 in the upper front Jaw under 2 weeks .Got 10mg of val 1/2 hr b4 procedure which I think will help .Never had a problem with fillings or wisdom teeth and never been worried/frightened about dental work except for the tooth extraction last year killed, even with numbing agent so hope mine goes well. Arguably, being on the drink the night b4 at the time didn't help

Last time I had major work done was all 4 wisdom teeth. A box of Panadeine Forte went very well so will make sure I have that on board as well

[Rusty]

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Hi Friends!

Very busy here and no time to post.

Liz-congratulations on your milestone and not being tempted with the airline flights of vodka.

Welcome, Neo!

Techie-enjoy Hawaii!

Must run now...big hellos to everyone else!

[Lizann]

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Techie not great weather day in Hawaii is still great! I hope to get back there someday! FYI, it was early in our marriage and if I recall it correctly there I didn't drink at all. Yep there was a time drinking wasn't an issue, sigh. . .

Nora, if I were you I would take some memories back home with me. Our kids each have things they took from Oma and Opa's house and I know they treasure those things and hold the memories close in their hearts. I know I do too. Crap, now you've got me crying! I recently found a vintage ring I had out away from my MIL. I'm not big on rings, I only ever wear my wedding rings, but I've started wearing my MIL ring. I can't even tell you how it makes me feel. Hubby doesn't say much but he loves when I wear her ring:heartbeat: ok, I need to pull myself together.

AG, how did your day go?

Skendall:hug:

Rusty, have fun whatever your up too.

Neo, thanks for popping in.

Pauly what r you doing today for your sons birthday? I'll be over for cake. . .

Windy and cold here today. Mark sent a text that he arrived safely in Frankfort. He had a great flight. He isn't ever going to want to fly coach again, I'm sure. CJ sent pictures from the beach, breathtaking. Maybe I'll see if I can post one later. She made joe dinner, in there little house down there:love: yes, it is fun at first, isn't it? Well, like I said, I'm sticking close this weekend. I'm a little melancholy (great word, right), but doing ok. Ordered the baby shower paper goods. That will keep me busy.
Happy Sunday guys, thank you for being here:heartbeat:

[paulywogg]

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Hey all,Liz,we did Bradys birthday yesterday, he chose Outback steakhouse again,I'm finding that I don't really care for their food,kinda odd cuz I'm usually a pig that loves every place haha,I'm a little melancholy too just thinking too much.Techie,I'm sure its still nice there even though the weather's yucky,Nora,it'll all be OK,I agree with bringing back some memory tokens,Liz,forgot to say great on tossing the airplane bottles when Michelle left and I had to go in her room they had left a few unopened beers,I made sure to gather them all up and take them out to hubs,if I have a shit day I do NOT want anything in the house cuz sometimes I just don't know what my AV is gonna try and talk me into, SL,wishing you speedy recovery, WF and AG,nice to see you two flowing along beautifully, wishing us all a happy AF Sunday

[abcowboy]

Howdy ho Steppers, great to see y’all checking in regularly, helping and supporting each other! I’m too old (yep, and too lazy) to mention all of you, but I do stop by everyday to catch up on y’all. I thought I’d pop in today and add a bit of support to Nora on an upcoming difficult week.

I remember when my mom passed on, once she was safely back together with dad and the immediate things that needed looking after were taken care of, all I wanted was to get back home and take some time to just look back on the memories. I remember thinking that mom, dad, and two of my brothers were reunited once again, and sooner or later, we would all be back together again.

It was about 6 weeks after the funeral that Adam (our son) and I packed the cargo trailer with tools and supplies and headed back down to clean out the house and garage and do some badly needed repairs to get it ready to sell. My remaining brother, the youngest, still lives in our hometown and he passed along the word to all the grandkids as to when this was all going to happen, so if they wanted any keepsakes that they didn’t already take, now was the time to speak up. So after the list was compiled and any issues that arose were taken care of, we removed those things first. The rest of the stuff was a bit overwhelming, trying to decide what to do with everything. After talking to the local goodwill shop, we then took out everything that they would take. There was still a lot of worldly goods accumulated over almost 60 years of marriage. I remember Adam telling me, you can’t keep it all, you have no room for it, and it’s just stuff, the memories of them were what’s important. Smart words from a young man. So we rented one of those big construction debris containers, had them set it in the driveway, and commenced filling it. It wasn’t an easy thing to do, but as we threw stuff into it, I just remembered Adam’s words.

I kept 5 small things, the Crucifix that hung on the wall at the end of the hallway, the family Bible, my dad’s and my mom’s casket Crucifixes, and this big silver cooking spoon that was my grandma’s and mom’s favorite. The hall Crucifix now hangs above our dining table, the casket Crucifixes hang in our bedroom, the family Bible sits on a stand in our bedroom, and the cooking spoon still sees a lot of cooking!

It would be so nice to keep everything, but it’s just not possible. So keep a few things that mean the most to you, and remember, it’s just “stuff”. You still have your mom for now, and you’ll always have the memories of what that “stuff” meant. Be strong my friend, it’s just one more step in this journey we call life!