Re: One Step at a Time - April 2017
geez-a-loo! I was getting all ready to come on board here with the steppers, and I come to see that the ONE post a good friend of mind made on this thread is over-analyzed to the hilt and I'm ready to run for the hills!
“I’m trying not to post too much in the Steppers thread, my tough love approach isn’t well received here, but I do want to say something to Liz. I think you’ve proved to yourself Liz that it matters not what hubs and/or Mark think, or how they react, it doesn’t stop you from drinking. I was the same way, drinking, asking for forgiveness, and then secretly hoping and knowing they would get over it. Then try to hide my drinking better, or get in a good string of sober days so that they’ll forgive me yet again when I drink. I was lucky, I didn’t get the ultimatum from Bubba, but I’m sure I eventually would have if I didn’t quit for good.
So, the next question is, why did you drink last night and what can you do the next time to get through without drinking? The answers you need are inside you, just dig deep enough and you’ll find them! Good for you to come straight back and start over, the only failure there is, is when you quit trying! You can do this, I know you can!”
I know cowboy called it tough love, but I’m sorry … this is tough love? This is about as gentle as I’ve ever seen anybody here! Framing himself in a similar situation and how he probably would have reacted. Then asking some legit questions to get Liz to think about why the slip happened. That’s tough love? No, I don’t think so. I just don’t get why people are cornering this guy that is legitimately trying to help somebody figure out where and why things went wrong? what the ... ? And there's even some encouragement at the end of his "sermon".
Cowboy does like to go off on a tangent and get on his soap box from time to time, and readily admits it when he does ... but I've never picked up on a holier than thou attitude, or bossing people around. He happens to give a shit about people, and tries to lend wisdom he's learned by tackling this thing ... what more can anybody do? All any of us can do is speak our own truth. As always, take what works for you and leave the rest. Stop the needless bashing! It becomes none of us.
geez-a-loo! I was getting all ready to come on board here with the steppers, and I come to see that the ONE post a good friend of mind made on this thread is over-analyzed to the hilt and I'm ready to run for the hills!
“I’m trying not to post too much in the Steppers thread, my tough love approach isn’t well received here, but I do want to say something to Liz. I think you’ve proved to yourself Liz that it matters not what hubs and/or Mark think, or how they react, it doesn’t stop you from drinking. I was the same way, drinking, asking for forgiveness, and then secretly hoping and knowing they would get over it. Then try to hide my drinking better, or get in a good string of sober days so that they’ll forgive me yet again when I drink. I was lucky, I didn’t get the ultimatum from Bubba, but I’m sure I eventually would have if I didn’t quit for good.
So, the next question is, why did you drink last night and what can you do the next time to get through without drinking? The answers you need are inside you, just dig deep enough and you’ll find them! Good for you to come straight back and start over, the only failure there is, is when you quit trying! You can do this, I know you can!”
I know cowboy called it tough love, but I’m sorry … this is tough love? This is about as gentle as I’ve ever seen anybody here! Framing himself in a similar situation and how he probably would have reacted. Then asking some legit questions to get Liz to think about why the slip happened. That’s tough love? No, I don’t think so. I just don’t get why people are cornering this guy that is legitimately trying to help somebody figure out where and why things went wrong? what the ... ? And there's even some encouragement at the end of his "sermon".
Cowboy does like to go off on a tangent and get on his soap box from time to time, and readily admits it when he does ... but I've never picked up on a holier than thou attitude, or bossing people around. He happens to give a shit about people, and tries to lend wisdom he's learned by tackling this thing ... what more can anybody do? All any of us can do is speak our own truth. As always, take what works for you and leave the rest. Stop the needless bashing! It becomes none of us.
wishing us all a happy AF Saturday (ugh I hafta work!)
And, I was just sorting out my cd's that I had shoved in the wrong cases. Yep - there is Phil Collins. :rotlf:
Used the outdoor windex and sprayed the windows. They need a good cleaning but this helped a lot. I haven't used water like that in several years. Even though we were told we are out of the drought, I still felt guilty to waste the water! But, at least the water ran into my planters so my plans got a little water.
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