One Step at a Time - May 2017

[techie]

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Big hugs, Liz. Well, Big hugs out to Pauly too. I would be remiss if I didn't mention that amazing woman who always provides shelter. Whether it's a blankie fort or just a kind loving embrace. Nora, you are just the best. Love you all. xoxo

[Glass Half Empty]

Re: One Step at a Time - May 2017

Liz I can’t believe Ann is doing this to you again! Gosh she’s just awful!

I know Erin has a lot on her plate at the moment, but is she able to have a word to CJ and explain how important it is to get things organised by a certain date?
Anyway, I know it’s stressful for you but you can only give advice. Ultimately, if CJ is old enough to to get married it's up to her if she doesn’t arrange things in time, and the wedding will be absolutely beautiful even if a few things go wrong along the way. So please don't get too stressed about it.

Techie you are so right about Nora - she is indeed the best. :hug: :love: :welldone:

[Mr Vervill]

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Quick check in, busy today.
Understandable frustration Liz, hope things come together soon. But about that co-worker, jeez, if she worked for me she'd be gone. Congrats on the anniversary, That's awesome.
Good idea on the written plan, AG.
Glad you're back Pauly!
Yes, thanks to den mother Nora.
Waves to everyone else, gotta run.

[Glass Half Empty]

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Ok – so this is a bit deep – feel free to skim past.

I’m babysitting my little grandbabe again on Friday. :baby:

That probably doesn’t sound like such a ground-breaking achievement, but it has a lot of significance for me.

I remember when I first joined MWO (long before I had a grandchild) I read stories of people who had either lost contact with their children or weren't allowed to see their grandchildren because of their drinking. Those stories not only broke my heart but terrified me, because my children are my world! I’ve been very lucky that I never had any real consequences from drinking too much (I just know it’s not good for me), but to be honest the only thing that’s really kept me in check is that as a sole parent I’ve always had responsibility for my children. And apparently I have no internal locus of control, because my drinking increased dramatically when they left home and I went through the terrible empty nest syndrome.

But at the back of my mind (after reading those stories) was always that I was on a slippery slope and at any time if I wasn't careful I could fall down it and lose my whole family. The thought that I might not be trusted to care for my future grandchildren was terrifying.

Anyway this is probably a bit of an anti-climax, sorry, but I didn’t, and today I’m just grateful that I’m still able to be here for my children and they trust me to care for the most precious thing in their lives. And when the little one sees me now she smiles and puts her little arms out for a hug. How on earth could drinking wine compete with that? :heartbeat:

[paulywogg]

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Hey all,Glassy I'm surprised my kids even talk to me after all the B.S I put them through, tbh we're actually pretty close Liz,those kids need to get this stuff done,I'd be irritated too,I feel like calling off today for post nasal drip too haha,Nora I agree with what everyone else said about you, you know that waves to AG,Techie,Rusty Mr.V wishes for a happy AF Tuesday (even though I have Tuesdayitis!)

[abcowboy]

Mr & Mrs Lizann!

[paulywogg]

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Oh yeah thanks for the reminder Cowboy! Happy Anniversary Liz!!!

[Lizann]

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Thanks guys sooo sweet? Really not a great anniversary. I was at work by 6 and hubby went to my parents to do some plumbing. Well he did text and say the were having some problems and he would be late. We were supposed to go out for dinner. That never happened, I brought home a pizza for dinner and it was just Mark and I. He's still not home. I'm disappointed but he is helping my parents. CJ texted me and said she called the 2 remaining bridesmaids and they will get fitted this. week. We shall see.

Lol, so m parents just called apologizing profusely that hubby was there all day, they feel bad. Mom promised to make it up to us. She will cook us a meal. Ok, I have got to stop crying!

Glassie, may I ask his many children you have and is this the first grandbaby?

Nora, I whole heartily agree with everyone's sentiments !

Waves to you all! Wishing everyone a restful AF night

[NoraC]

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You all are so sweet to me. Thank you.

Liz - Happy Anniversary and I'm so sorry that it didn't turn out the greatest. Sometimes life just gets in the way of our plans. It would be fun if you & hubby could slip away for a little picnic or something. Spend some alone time together. :hug:

Glassie - your post was absolutely not anti-climatic. That is huge and you should be so happy that you are at that point. A loving, sober grandmother. I still wonder in the back of my mind if they're going to feel comfortable leaving their children with me. All I can do is continue showing them how it is now. Anyway, congratulations on being the babysitter. I think that is more than special.

[NoraC]

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Trying to type but keep getting interrupted. Will try to get back on later. We have a painter coming out for an estimate on Friday. The daybed I ordered will be here Monday. Things are moving along.
DS has been here and has been complaining so I guess things aren't fabulous in the love nest.

[actiongirl46]

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Hey Liz, sorry you are feeling low, but remember the saying from when they were toddlers, "this too shall pass". I have been using that a lot in my mind with the teenagers.

Glassie, so happy you can feel those little arms around your neck with no regrets. I'm so proud of you!

Long day and longer one tomorrow! Hubs is STILL waiting for the boat, so will be gone at least another 4-5 weeks. Onward!! AG

[NoraC]

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Hi AG - I was just logging on to check on you. How are YOU doing?

:checkin: Rusty, Mr V, SK, Techie, Pauly, Cowboy, WF, TMH, NS, Narilly, Pav, G and everyone else that drops in. Just not going to have the time to catch up tonight.

Glassie - I never got a chance to get back to you regarding mothers. I'm sorry that you didn't have a mommy that could make it all better. How wonderful that you are that mother to your boys though. :hug: I know quite a few people that had bad mothers and a couple that were just down right evil.

Have a wonderful Morning Afternoon Evening wherever you may be :heartbeat:

[Glass Half Empty]

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Liz, I’m so sorry your anniversary turned out to be a bit of a flop. Gosh it really is all happening for you at the moment. You must be feeling exhausted.

Glassie, may I ask his many children you have and is this the first grandbaby?

I have two sons – one 31 and the other about to turn 28. The eldest one is married (the parents of the grandbabe) and the younger one has been with his partner for a few years now. He graduated from uni with a science degree, went overseas and then came back to Oz to do an engineering degree 4 years ago, so money is still a bit tight for them right now but when he graduates at the end of the year it wouldn’t surprise me if an engagement isn’t too far away. Both their partners are just gorgeous and I’m so lucky to have a great relationship with them. Well, to be honest it’s not just luck, as you know, it’s also accepting their differences and deciding when to talk and when to zip the lip – LOL

Glassie, so happy you can feel those little arms around your neck with no regrets. I'm so proud of you!

Thank you AG – that’s so kind, and yes those little plump arms are just delightful.

Nora of course you will be allowed to care for your grandchildren. You’ve proven yourself many times over by now and they will be absolutely privileged to have you around!

Glassie - I never got a chance to get back to you regarding mothers. I'm sorry that you didn't have a mommy that could make it all better. How wonderful that you are that mother to your boys though. :hug: I know quite a few people that had bad mothers and a couple that were just down right evil.

Nora - In fairness I should clarify what I meant – my mother isn’t a bad one by any means. She loves us very much and she's always done her absolute best for us. I actually had a very privileged upbringing and my parents are the most generous you could ever meet. And they've been incredibly supportive to me and my boys. It’s just that my mother isn't physically affectionate and she's a bit tough and old school. So if you run to her crying she’s more likely to tell you to snap out of it, stop feeling sorry for yourself and do something about it, rather than dispense tea and sympathy or try and fix it for you. She doesn't mean to be unfeeling, that's just how she approaches life and she expects us to do the same.

[Guitarista]

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Happy anniversary to you Liz and Mr L!

Big waves to y'all.

[Mr Vervill]

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Liz, I think you and hubs need a date night this weekend!
Waves to all