One Step at a Time - May 2017

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - May 2017

Liz - :hug: I am so sorry. Blankie fort definitely. What a terrible experience at work.
Regarding your Dad, did this confusion at night start recently? Possibly a UTI? Or dehydrated. I am sorry - please keep us posted.

Techie - been thinking about you. :hearbeat:

Mr V - you are so right about it being bittersweet. Thank you for understanding. How are you doing? Working long hours again?

Rusty - you back home today?

Narilly - how are you doing? How is the job hunting going?

AG - how long is hubby going to be gone? Things going better for you.

Glassie - I think of you so often. You are such a positive energy - thank you.

Pauly texted me today to wish me a good morning. I am taking that as a positive.

[actiongirl46]

Re: One Step at a Time - May 2017

Liz, what a day!! Wow. Sorry to hear about that. Some odd symptoms from your dad too. The mind is such a strange and powerful thing.

Nora, thanks for thinking of me. I don't know how long hubs will be gone. At least 2 - 4 weeks more, for sure. We go through this every year, so it is part of our rhythm. It is always good for me to see, when he is gone, just how much he does as a stay-at-home dad most of the year. It is easy to get complacent. He fishes in Alaska so it is all about weather, wind and the catch.

Rusty, I do not know how you travel so much. I would lose my mind. I also think that lifestyle would be so easy (for me) to sink into the nightly booze. I admire you for staying so strong!! Stick with it, you got this.

I have still not made it to the gym. I did make band rehearsal tonight. That is one of the few things I have done for myself since hubs left. I am just so busy running to sporting events, band events, Boy Scout events, laundry, cooking (my boys do not like fast food! or take out! ugh!!!) Oh, yes, and that full time job.

Sorry to vent, this is temporary and all first-world problems. I am working on finding my balance, as I know we all are.

Take care Steppers!! Onward - AG

[NoraC]

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AG - love that you can come here and vent. I think it's important to realize that we are stressed and dealing with lots of stuff and give ourselves a break.Let it all out! But, it's also great to then tell ourselves ok - this isn't going to matter in a year and as you say Onward!! I love that.

[techie]

Re: One Step at a Time - May 2017

Hello all. I am ok, we'll sort of. I have been in San Francisco giving a presentation to a corporate audience. While there I picked up a very nasty cold. I've been nursing myself as best I can. Going to Yosemite tomorrow for a hike unless I cannot get out of bed by 5am. In other news, my Oncologist thinks my recent lab results were skewed due to dental work I had the afternoon before. I had a faulty crown replaced on a back molar. Who knows. In any event, I will continue with my no sugar, no simple carbs, apple cider vinegar 2x/day and other aspects of my strict protocol. Thank you Nora. Sending you HUGE hugs. Love seeing Glassy around. Thinking of Paula, Rusty. AG (get to the gym), WF, Nursie, Ne, Liz, Cowboy, TMH, Mr. V, Naw-Lee (my twist) and anyone else I may have missed xoxo

[paulywogg]

Re: One Step at a Time - May 2017

Hey all,Techie,hope your cold passes quick!You do sound good though I had debated coming back to mwo,same old story of drinking, coming back"this time will be different" just too embarrassed to actually write it out but here I am a week sober after a terrible relapse.Yes a relapse not a"slip" it was awful! I figure I need to be here and be honest,big shout out to Nora,she text me outside of here to make sure I was OK,you gave me that extra little strength I needed to get off the bender I was on,I'll always love you for that! Liz,big hugs love,I hope everything is OK with your dad,much love to all I hope we all have a great Thursday,as AG says Onward!

[Rusty]

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Great to see you back, Pauly! Good job on your week AF!

Techie, my dear, thank you for checking in with us! I hope the fact that your lab results were skewed means your cancer has not spread???? A hike in Yosemite...fantastic! I have Apple Cider Vinegar...what are the benefits you would like to see from taking it twice per day? A woman I know who is struggling with her weight swears that it has helped her lose weight and she mixes 3 oz. hot water with 1 oz ACV and takes it in the morning. I bet your presentation was fantastic!

Big hellos to everyone else. Doing paid work for a client right now...but at home. It's all good!

[Pavati]

Re: One Step at a Time - May 2017

Hi, Pauly!

I've been looking out for you. I am glad you came back - NEVER give up on yourself.

xo

[Guitarista]

Re: One Step at a Time - May 2017

Yo Steppers!

Techie, hope that means good news re oncology! A mate of mine swears by apple cider vinegar daily as a really effective well being medicine.

Big waves to everyone. Welcome back Pauly! :happy2:

[actiongirl46]

Re: One Step at a Time - May 2017

Hi pauly, I missed you and believe me, I do understand. You bring such great energy and wisdom to this thread. I'm glad you are here. No matter what.

Pav, what a great sentiment. NEVER give up on yourself. I'm adopting that one!! Thank you.

Techie, I think the cold virus going around this year is brutal!! I caught it a few weeks ago traveling to Oregon. Believe me, I was the LEAST POPULAR PERSON on the airplane when I just could not stop sneezing, even after paying $12 for 6 doses of Dayquil. It was horrible!! But I can laugh now. I hope you feel better and get some good air outside. I WILL get to the gym!! Thanks!!

Busy day today and tonight. Another baseball game (!) and my parents are coming into town. Have a good Thursday Steppers, wherever you are! Onward!!

[Lizann]

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I have done the apple cider vinegar thing as well. I need to loss just a few pounds and it did not work for me. My metabolism came to a screeching halt and that has not helped.mmi tried it for about 6weeks. It made me nauseous for about half an hour but that's it!

Pauly, I'm glad your back. I knew if you were drinking you would come back. I've had a few of those really bad relapses, I do understand. I'm sure your daughter coming back was in part to blame. Just please don't ever stop trying. We love you and care about you.

AG, I hope your parents coming doesn't stress you out too much. Enjoy those games with your boys. I used to love being outside on a spring evening chatting with other parents.

Rusty, glad you are at home, even though you are working.

Nora, how was the first night without the kids in the house. May I ask how you guys determined how to care for your mom? I hope I'm not getting too personal, don't answer if I am. Does your mom have a definitive diagnosis? It has been recommended that my dad get a work up with a neurologist to get a definitive diagnosis. I don't know if medication is an option for him, but that would be the only reason I see to proceed with that. I do not believe he will go for that. Anyway, spoke to mom for a long time today and I feel a bit better. I know this has been going on with dad, but she never talked much about it. I think she is finally ready to let us help her. She is scared, something I have NEVER heard her admit. Any light you could shed on this would be appreciated.

CJ and joe just went to see the priest from his church. We shall see where this goes. I'm ready for a definitive answer though. I am oddly calm about it all at the moment. I'm prayerfully optimistic. I have no desire to drink at all and for that I'm grateful.

Waves to everyone. I'm headed back to the blankie fort. Wishing us all a quiet AF night

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - May 2017

Liz - of course, you can ask me about my mom. Any help that I can give you.
Mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer's by her regular GP. I don't know what kind of tests he did but I still remember when Dad told me about it on the phone that day. Mom has not seen a neurologist. She has been on two medications for years - Aricept and a few years later added Namenda. I can't swear that the medication is helping but I do think that it has slowed the progression. Or maybe we are just very lucky. So, whether it is dementia or Alzheimer's it is about the same.
Regarding how we determined how to care for mom. Well.....it's just something that we all have agreed on that we are keeping her home until it's impossible. After Dad passed, my brother moved in and took care of her for about 3 years until we brought her home to us because she needs 24 hour care.
We are very lucky. Hubby is unable to work but he is able to provide care to mom, fix her meals, make sure she is safe. Then I am home from work and can care for her the rest of the time. We are very lucky in that she is so happy & loving.
I understand why your Mom is scared. When she has her restless/anxiety it is so hard. There is just no way to get inside mom's brain at that point and it is so sad.
Does your Dad realize that there is something wrong with him? Does the Doctor think that it is dementia/alzheimer's?
Hang in there friend. :hug:

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - May 2017

Pauly - glad to see you. Really glad to see you. And like I said - I knew you could do it. :hug:

Pav, Mr G - always great to see you.

Techie - when are you repeating the bloodwork?

I need to go chill a bit, stress levels have been high. I've had a flare up of my 'condition' (I still am not satisfied with the fibromyalgia diagnosis) all week, work has been extremely high stress, the kids moving out, etc. I am in the blankie fort with you Liz.

:checkin: everyone. Keep taking one step a time...........

[ToMyHealth]

Re: One Step at a Time - May 2017

Hello - been a hectic week. Big group of us had dinner Wed night with our friend who lost his wife. Yesterday he & his son started the drive up to MN. Dh & I have a flight out this evening. Time of year up there where it's difficult to know what to take. I freeze easily but forecast looks like daytime will get into the 70's. If that is the least of my worries......
So today will go do my workout, get back in time for financial Annual Review with advisor aka son. Run to get my nails done as have to keep them short now that I wear contacts most days. Finish packing. A big plus in all this is get to visit with my sister tomorrow, babysit granddaughters Sat nite, go to our old church to see friends on Sunday and then get to spend Mothers Day with my son! Reviewal Mon nite, funeral Tues am, lunch at a Country Club, then invited to the woman's daughter house in evening for her Mom's favorie dinner - turkey. Wed dh has some business to takecare of. Hopefully, I can catch up with a friend or 2. Then invited to stepdaughter's apt for dinner (a first). Fly home on Thursday.
This has not been the best week AF. Nothing terribly stupid but will keep working on it.
Welcome back, Pauly, hope everyone else has a nice weekend.
TMH

[paulywogg]

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Hey all,TMH,just reading all of your plans makes me need a nap haha,you're one busy lady! Thanks for the welcome back everyone, I'm driving myself bananas trying to figure out what went wrong,drinking was nowhere on my radar before I actually did it,usually I'll start thinking about it a few days before but this time no,I had made my bed that morning, did my exercise, went to work but then after work veering into the gas station parking lot? I had an emergency antabuse in my purse,I could have taken that but I knew if I did I'd be pissed off all night I took it wtf?! What good are tools if you dont use them? I feel serious about quitting for good but my actions speak louder sometimes, urggh,OK maybe I wanted to just get drunk for one night,obviously that doesn't work,I had thrown away extra beer I bought thinking the next day I'd just sleep it off,well the next day I was so shaky I was out digging through the trash!! You see how my relapse was even dirtier and more serious then when I drank daily? I was like an animal,I wasn't me.Too much for this morning but I had to get it off my chest,I need help but dont know what I need tbh.Get rid of this guilt,thats for sure,much love to ALL and I hope we all have a great AF Friday

[techie]

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Hello all. Busy here. Hosting a b-day party this evening. So, just a few quick items. GREAT reading your post Pauly. It's all mind set going forward. Nora, I will have another round of labs in four weeks. Going to LA on Tuesday for treatments. Rusty et al, the ACV is one thing that is part of my healthy regime. I take it 2X/day to balance my ph. It is alkaline. It also burns fat, not muscle. I also take MCT oil in my coffee. Use organis coffee if you can. MCT is very thermogenic, as it too burns fat not muscle. Hope this helps. If not, let me know. xo