One Step at a Time - August 2017

[bird]

Re: One Step at a Time - August 2017

Hi all,
I haven't been here in a really long time but I need to come back. Need to stop drinking for good. Have a tremendous hangover and have to go to a new job I am starting and take some tests. It's gonna be rough....Nora, I am sorry about hospice. :sad: Sending healing thoughts your way. You have been a so loving and caring....gotta head out soon...dreading it....b

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - August 2017

[MENTION=2634]bird[/MENTION] - welcome back. Get thru these tests and then get back over here. :heartbeat:
Good to see you but sorry you are struggling. :hug:

[techie]

Re: One Step at a Time - August 2017

Thinking of you, Nora. I hope things work out for you Bird. Good to see you. xo

[Lizann]

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Welcome back bird! I hope you feel better and do well on the tests. I know how hard that would be. Will you let us know how you do.

Nora I am so sorry :hug: your mom is so blessed to have you to take care of her. Please take care of yourself too.

Rusty, I'm glad you're here posting, it's been so quiet here! What are you up to this weekend? Are you working?

Pauly, you've been kinda quiet. I hope everything is ok by you.

TMH, Skendall, glassie hope you guys are ok too. Keeping busy I guess.

At work today one of our patients brought in her "therapy" dog. She was an adorable 3 1/2lb. white poodle name Joy. The patient is an elderly frail anxious lady,that's where the dog comes in. That sweet little puppy was therapy for me too. So cute. Brought a smile to my face whenever I saw her. thought maybe it might make you guys smile too.
Wishing you all a restful AF night

[techie]

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Liz, I think you should do that walk for breast cancer. Hope you have a great weekend.

Let's all send the folks in the hurricane path light and prayer. xo

[NoraC]

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Thank you Techie - yes, sending light & prayer to Texas. :heartbeat:

Bird - how did it go today? I've been thinking of you. Are both girls moved out now? How are they doing? What is your new job?

Heading to bed - catch everyone tomorrow. :sleeping:

[bird]

Re: One Step at a Time - August 2017

Hi all,
Day 2 and thank you for the welcome back. Yesterday was by far, the worse hangover I have had in a very long time. I think I am lucky to be alive. I didn't even drink over my norm but whew. Was shaky welding up my tests and so tired. They looked ok though so I start to work Monday. It is a place that builds crop dusters. Nora both girls are off at college, one a sophomore and 1 a junior. For the most part they are doing well.....Techie, the hurricane looks bad. I used to live in S. Fla. and one time a hurricane came and left much destruction.....Lizann, the therapy dog sound sweet. What sort of work do you do?....off to start my day. Practicing getting up earlier since I will be having to leave at 5;30 to get to work now...b

[NoraC]

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Bird - hard to believe that both girls are in college!
So glad that you are on day 2. Believe me I used the antabuse to get thru rough days. A little added insurance.

[Rusty]

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Good Morning, Friends!

Happy Sunday to all!

Yesterday was a quiet, lazy day. Did a little paperwork and caught up with a few of my friends. So today, it is paperwork and exercise, but at least I am at home today and tomorrow.
:yay: I have also decided to turn down some work in September, so now I will have one to two days at home each week. Thank you ALL for your support as I was overwhelmed with work this summer. I was truly burned out but I am so relieved to know that I will be able to enjoy some Fall days getting together with good friends I haven't seen in a while. I am grateful that my closest friends didn't desert me during my drinking career and that I have made a whole new group of friends, some of whom are moderate drinkers and others who don't drink at all...not because they are in recovery but because they don't like the taste of alcohol. Entertaining is my passion when I am not working and I had perceived my biggest roadblock to be that I couldn't entertain AF. Well, I was wrong. I can and I do and it's even more fun than I imagined.

Techie, my dear,:hug:thank you for popping in here and keeping us posted on your health, and adding light to our thread. We love having you here!
[MENTION=2634]bird[/MENTION], please let us know how we can help you. We're a very compassionate bunch...stick with us!


A shout out to those MIA: Glassie, TMH, AG, Mr. V, and Pauly. Hope you are all OK!

Happy Sunday, friends!

[Lizann]

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Rusty, glad to hear you are slowing down a bit. You are so lucky to have friends that stick by you and I'm sure they are happy when you are entertaining too. I enjoy the planning of a get together probably more than the actual get together. Maybe I should start a career as a party planner!

Bird, I'm glad you faired well on you tests and that you will be starting the new job. I too, have to get up early for work and that's pretty much the worst part of my job. You'd think after 15 years I'd be used to it! I'm glad that you are here with us and posting. Is there any way we can help you? We are here for you. Let us know how the first day goes. Make sure you're drinking lots and lots of water, I find it does help!

Nora, how are you doing? How is mom? Did hospice come by yet? Mom took dad to the dentist the other day and he insisted mom take him to the "other" house. She finally relented and decided to see where this was gonna go. He gave her the directions and don't you know they ended up at their house! Mom said for a moment there was recognition on his face about what had just happened. He promptly forgot about it later though. It just broke my heart. That is the hardest, when they know they don't know.

Hung out in the pool yesterday and Ellen and I went shopping. She finally got a dress for the wedding. One month from today. CJ sold her car yesterday and that made me sad. I'm just so freaking emotional and that scares me you know? Trying to just stay in the moment and not look to far ahead. I can do this.

Off to church and then out to lunch with my boys. Another beautiful day here, but my thoughts are with those in Texas. I have been through it and it's not going to be easy for them there. Anyway smile on my face and on with the day. I love you all! have a good one

[bird]

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Hi all,
Having a slight cool down here. Slight as in 89 and not 95, but makes such a difference. Sat outside and watched my 3 cats play yest evening. It is nice to sit out with a breeze. I am so afraid of starting my new job. I was at my last job 20+ years, and it was a very sedentary job. I hope I can keep up at this one. I am also worried I will be so exhausted that all I will be able to think about is beer. That will probably happen, but I have a plan for my drive home, which is have some snacks ready to eat on the way home, and listen to a sober podcast as well. If I still feel bad I will stop at Dairy Queen and get an ice cream, since it is right before the beer store that I use....Rusty, glad you are lightening your load. Time off is so precious. My mom enjoyed entertaining. I kinda miss that.......Lizann, have a good lunch with your boys...Nora, how are things?......think I'll go out to the park and walk some....later...b:heartbeat:

[Rusty]

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[MENTION=2634]bird[/MENTION],

have a plan for my drive home, which is have some snacks ready to eat on the way home

this was KEY for me so that I wouldn't get home and think it's cocktail hour...or hours...having a snack on the long commutes home allowed me to go straight to the gym before I got home. When I got done working out, I was so tired that all I wanted to do was take a shower and go to bed. GREAT PLAN, BIRD! :thumbsup: Your new job sounds interesting...wishing you lots of luck. -)

[ToMyHealth]

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Hi. Watching PGA on another rainy day here in FL. But as we all are seeing, could be much worse. I have a niece living in San Antonio. They are ok, lots of rain and wind.
Nora, hope you are feeling better! Agree with Rusty - GREAT plan indeed, Bird!
Lizann, how many kids do you have? My son who just remarried now has a family of 9. AND they are thinking of having yours, mine and ours. Not too keen on that considering their ages. He will be 50 in Sept; wife is 40. Granted, they seem much younger.
Techie, what a lofty goal! Gives you tons of hope, no? I know my surgeon told me he would operate and then next year run another marathon.
And I did! So happy to hear you feel that strong. Please post training rides. Would enjoy that.

Well, since golf got rained out I went to Fitness Center. Usuallly go to old neighborhood but twice now I have had to have tire repaired. Nails due to construction. Went to main one. Did 25 min on elliptical and 50 min on TM. Didn't bother with makeup and, of course, ran into people I know. One woman had full face makeup. But what I mainly noticed was her beautiful shiny eyes. Been in social situations with her, and She is a very light drinker and it certainly shows. She plays golf, tennis and lifts weights. Think I need to rub shoulders with her!

Have a good rest of weekend!

[NoraC]

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Hi all -

Bird - really great plan for your drive home. Congrats on the new job. Sending you lots of positive energy - I'm sure this is a huge adjustment for you.

Rusty - so happy to hear that you are going to take care of you! :hug: I am sure it's not easy to turn down the work but I think it is in your best interests.

Liz - exciting.....less than a month. I now it's bittersweet for you. But, try to find the happy. :heartbeat:

I need to check on Techie, Glassie, Pauly, Mr V, SK, TMH, Wildflowers, NS, Mr G and on & on. I am sending love & hugs out to all on this journey.

So, I have not been in a good mental state. Lots going on in my life. Last night I wished I had something that would just make it all stop/turn off my head for awhile. That was a scary thought to me. Looking for something to numb myself, put myself to sleep. Then today, I started to make a post that I was taking a break from here for a little bit. Too overwhelmed to contribute anything of any help to anyone.
But, luckily I came to my senses and realized that I was sabotaging myself. Right now is when I need you all more than ever. So, please bear with me as I deal with life.

[Rusty]

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Nora:hug:I wish you liked talking on the phone. I would call you.:heartbeat:

So, I have not been in a good mental state. Lots going on in my life. Last night I wished I had something that would just make it all stop/turn off my head for awhile. That was a scary thought to me. Looking for something to numb myself, put myself to sleep. Then today, I started to make a post that I was taking a break from here for a little bit. Too overwhelmed to contribute anything of any help to anyone

You ALWAYS contribute, even if you think that you aren't! We are HERE for you! Lean on us, please. I can understand wanting that escape and I am so proud of you for not drinking. :welldone: You know when I was so overwhelmed and swamped with work this month and last month, I almost took a break from MWO, too, but I am glad that I did not. Just reading your posts reminded me that we need to take care of ourselves first before we take care of others. I realized that I needed to address my issue of self-sabotage with too much working on clients' documentation and not giving myself the full amount of time that I want to devote to exercise every day. I don't know how you do it, Nora...working full-time, taking care of your husband and mother, and yet you still find time for us. I am very grateful for our online friendship.:hug:

TMH-Wow, sounds like you had a marathon exercise session...and I say you get to know the golfer/tennis player you saw at the fitness center. Good for her for making healthy choices. A family of nine...and your son wants one of his own with his new wife...well, if they can afford it and they really want one, good for them...I understand your hesitation, though.

Bird-you know what you might find helpful in support of your quit...The Three Principles Discussion Thread in the General Discussion Forum. I highly recommend it!

Ok, back to work for a bit and then off to the gym.

Hope everyone is having a great AF Sunday!!