One Step at a Time - August 2017

[Lizann]

Re: One Step at a Time - August 2017

Nora, I know you are dealing with a lot, but like you told me, try to find the happy! I understand you not wanting to post, it's another thing to do/think about. I'm glad you came here instead of lookng for another way to numb! We are here for you. I am sending prayers and hugs your way. I wish there was more I could do.:love::hug:

[Lizann]

Re: One Step at a Time - August 2017

TMH, we have three kids, two girls and our youngest a boy. Isn't that always the way? No make up and you run into everyone you know! I don't wear makeup when I work out anyway though.

Bird, I think the snacks in the car is a great idea. I find the healthier I eat the less likely I am to drink too. I guess I'm on a doing my body good kick, or something and I don't want poison in me, go figure. My latest obsession is unsweetened green tea with lemon and then blueberries. They're easy to eat while driving and I just love them. Let us know how it goes tomorrow. Good luck!

Rusty, I'm glad you're cutting back on work. As much as I dislike actually exercising I feel so good afterward. It is important to take care of ourselves. I would miss you if you took a break. You're such a ray of sunshine here and your advice is always so insightful and spot on.

So I started reading John Grishams The Testament and I'm finding it hard to put down. One of the main characters is a recovering alcoholic and on some level I can relate to him. I hope it ends well with him. Anyway off to continue reading.

Wising you all a restful AF night!

[NoSugar]

Re: One Step at a Time - August 2017

I'm sorry life feels stressful right now, Nora. It's hard to live with the tension and racing thoughts. I agree with others that isolating yourself isn't helpful, though. You're such an amazing friend to people here and I bet in your real life, too. Do your friends the honor of letting us be there for you :hug:. (Thank you for always checking on me. xx).

And, Rusty, thank you for pointing people to the 3 principles thread. I've found this understanding to have dramatically improved how I experience life - the good and the bad. I can only hope others find the same freedom from being prisoners of their thoughts and unconscious beliefs. Enjoy your easier autumn - by far the best season for us in this part of the country in my opinion :smile:

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - August 2017

Thank you all so much. I feel so whiny. I seriously have no problems compared to so many. But, I guess it's ok to feel overwhelmed. I need to take my own advise and take care of me first. Let go of some of this guilt......just feeling like I am not enough in every area of my life......not doing enough at work (even though I'm working over 40 hours a week).......not doing enough for Mom (even though I know that I am doing the best I can)...........not spending enough one on one time with hubby (even though we are spending time together).......and the list goes on.
Anyway, I let myself get overwhelmed and that is helping me slip back into my old habit of always feeling guilty.
Anyway, I gave myself a break today. I called my niece and told her that I was overwhelmed. We are going to work something out so hubby & I can get away and she'll stay here. I used the exercise bike, I read a trashy novel, I took a nap (yuck, that made me have a headache). I was able to wash mom's hair and give her a sponge bath. I painted my toenails.
Today was a better day. Thank you all for being here. :heartbeat:

[Pavati]

Re: One Step at a Time - August 2017

Hi,

Nora! I have read A LOT about relapse because I really, really don't want it to happen to me. "They" say there are 11 (depending on the website you look at) signs that happen BEFORE the actual drink. To me it is such a tremendous sign of strength that you realized what you were doing (stepping away from support, romanticizing alcohol) and caught yourself. I admire you for what you bring to us here, and I am glad to be in a long line of folks that will offer you a hand.

Hi, Steppers. Just checking in!

Pav

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - August 2017

I don't have words to say what all your comments have meant to me. Your support means the world to me. :heartbeat:

[Glass Half Empty]

Re: One Step at a Time - August 2017

Nora – whatever you do, DO NOT leave here. I will have to come and hunt you down if you do that. You always contribute, but even if you don’t that’s OK – we don’t all have to contribute all the time.

Rusty I’m so glad you’re taking some time out. I know you enjoy your work but it’s still important to have some down time. (ie – do as I say, not as I do – lol)

Techie – the diet sounds hard but I’m sure it will help you have a positive outcome. I’m glad you’re enjoying the writing. I’m looking forward to following your bike ride!

Liz I’m not surprised you’re feeling emotional with all that’s going on. It’s a very positive thing that you can recognise it though.

Well - I appear to be immune to the wonders of modern medicine. I’ve tried everything and I’m still really sick. I just had a chest x-ray so maybe that will find something. I’m working from home today but I’m about to go and watch Miss Marple for a while instead.

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - August 2017

Glassie - big hugs. You need to take it easy, young lady. You are going to end up in the hospital. I am so sorry they haven't been able to help you get better. :sad::hug:

[Glass Half Empty]

Re: One Step at a Time - August 2017

That's very kind Nora - but I'm not young and I'm certainly not a lady!

Well the good news is they found something on the x-ray. The bad news is I won't know what until tomorrow.

[Lizann]

Re: One Step at a Time - August 2017

Glassie, feel better please!!! I hope they figure this out and that you're on the mend soon.

Pav and NoSugar thanks for posting here. I know your words were meant for Nora, but I gleaned some wisdom from them too. Nice to you know you guys are looking out for our beloved Nora.

Nora, glad you took some time for yourself today. I get the guilt thing and no one is harder on us then ourselves! It's good that you're looking to work something out as far as help. I went to a craft/antique show yesterday and they had a table for altzheimers. We took all they had to offer. There are support groups as well. Hopefully there is one close to here. I don't know if that's an option for you. I'm just glad you had a better day yesterday.

Well I'm off. Busy day today but I get to see my little man!!!! I have missed him. A bright spot in my day for sure. Wishing everyone a great AF Monday!

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - August 2017

Glassie - please let us know. :heartbeat:

[Mr Vervill]

Re: One Step at a Time - August 2017

Thanks for all you do, Nora! We love you.
It's so easy for all of us to feel overwhelmed at times. Sometimes I just need a good night's sleep, never got that with AL.
So many of you have so much going on in your lives, I'm amazed at all you do.
Glad you're taking small breaks Rusty, I think you work too hard.
I'm envious of the bike trip Techie, I'd love to do that, but sure not up to the physical challenge.
I'm not here often, but I do try to check in everyday at the cafe.

[Rusty]

Re: One Step at a Time - August 2017

Good Morning!
[MENTION=20191]Pavati[/MENTION] and [MENTION=18725]NoSugar[/MENTION], thank you for stopping in and posting such powerful and positive messages for all of us! Thank you for looking out for our thread's magnificent leader. She's courageous and thoughtful, and always looking out for others. It was her turn to have others look out for her.:heartbeat:

Glassie:hug:Oh no! I hope whatever they found on the chest x-ray is easily treatable. Fingers and toes crossed and sending prayers across the world to you. You are 15 hrs. ahead of time so I will check in tonight to see what the doctor found.

Liz:heartbeat:you always say such kind words to me...how sweet of you. Thank you!

Nora-I hope you and your husband can get away SOON!

Mr.V-GREAT TO SEE YOU!!! I know, I know, I DO work too much but I am FINALLY seeing a light at the end of the tunnel. I can breathe now. What have you been up to? Oh I agree, a good night's sleep works wonders...you feel like you can take on the world when you have a great night's sleep. Too many nights, I would awaken several times...throat parched, and even water with lemon could not stop my insatiable thirst. Then, the dread of the hangover in the morning. Why did I think drinking relaxed me????
[MENTION=2634]bird[/MENTION]-how are you doing?

A shout out to [MENTION=17650]paulywogg[/MENTION], [MENTION=16893]Wildflowers[/MENTION], TMH, [MENTION=11089]techie[/MENTION], [MENTION=7261]Guitarista[/MENTION], [MENTION=23850]empyr3al[/MENTION] and anyone I missed...happy AF Monday!

[techie]

Re: One Step at a Time - August 2017

Hello Steppers. Just a quick run through. I am off to a meeting. Very hot here today and with smoke in the air from nearby wildfire, I will spend little time outdoors. Canceled morning bike ride due to poor air quality. Have a GREAT day. xo

[bird]

Re: One Step at a Time - August 2017

Hi all,
I am home from my 1st day and I am sore and tired. I hope I get used to it soon. It was kinda blah and they have tons of work...oh well, I really need to get out of debt so....Rusty I'm gonna look at that thread as soon as I finish this post.....Nora,Glad you are getting a break, you really do so much. If you made a list of stuff you do it would be long....Lizann, I love John Grisham. Also I had tea and blueberries on the way to work haha...gonna do some reading and lay around and pet the cats....oh yeah...day 4 and glad of it......b