One Step at a Time - August 2017

[Glass Half Empty]

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Nora – I’m so sorry about your mom’s latest episode. Your husband sounds very kind; it’s lovely that he’s so caring with her. It wouldn’t surprise me if the Benadryl is mucking her around. I’ve had awful congestion for the last few days so I bought a ‘day and night’ pack of meds from the chemist. The day ones knock me around so much I’ve been having 3 naps a day (and a massive rash), and the night ones give me insomnia and nightmares.

Liz - apart from the issues with your dad, are you feeling a bit better now the invitations are sent?

[Glass Half Empty]

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I'm gonna place this song here because I don't know where else to put it.

Empy - I clicked on the first of your links and saw a video of someone walking in on a couple in bed so I clicked right out again. Not sure what music was involved, but that's not really my thing.

[Lizann]

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Happy Thursday all.
Glassie, yes I am feeling heeps better, thanks for asking! Things for the wedding are moving along and falling into place. The wedding shower is Saturday and I am excited and looking forward to it.

Empyr, I happen to love lee Ann Womack , I Hope you dance. I used to tell my girls about it all the time. Kind of our theme song, if you will. It is definitely a motto I tried to instill on my kids, and you know what, they took a chance and danced! I like some of Sara McLaughlin.

Well, I have a busy day ahead, workout, mom and dads, baking for the shower, laundry and on and on! Wishing us all a happy fabulous AF Thursday! I hope you dance.

[empyr3al]

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[MENTION=8902]Glass Half Empty[/MENTION] its a 3 second clip before the music starts that may have offended you. Sorry it offended you. Its the premise of the entire song. There is nothing else sexual in the video. She cheats on him while he was off fighting in the war. It moves into some vivid imagery of how he drinks himself to death and I have first hand witnessed what they show in the video which is rarely shown on media, if almost never. Only hardcore alcoholics have seen or experienced this. Its the hidden side of alcohol nobody wants you to see. They both drink themselves to death in the end and its crazy sad. He drinks himself slowly to death, you see the shakes, DTs and all sorts of things. She feels crazy remorse and tries to drink over the memory and at one point she is hallucinating while dancing with who she sees as him because she can't get over his memory and drinks herself to death. I'm not sure what the "and pulled the trigger means". Whether it is death by alcohol or some other unknown but its pretty profound. Probably the most honest song I have ever heard about alcohol. So the name implies, Whiskey Lullaby. Drink your sorrows away. Actually by far the most honest song about alcohol I have ever heard and its devestation. Clearly shows that emotional pain is what we try to cover with alcohol. After they are both buried there is also some images of after life and forgiveness between the two witnessed by a little girl. Again sorry if it offended you.

You would not like the Sarah videos as she is naked in a tub but you don't see anything. Its an analogy for feeling like you are drowning in alcohol. Its also a lot about shame, suicide and about addiction and how it affects loved ones with frustration. Its not expressly stated but if you know her history, and some of her friends, you know what she is singing about. There are some violent images of things thrown, swift and short images of things like the initial stages of a car wreak, but not between people. There is no blood and gore in any of those videos. Its a lot of the expressed damage addiction and emotional pain causes. Saved me from another addiction I had.

Very powerful video's if you dare to see how bad things can be. Not all of us have been there. I have, so thats why its important to me to show you these things.

[MENTION=19302]Lizann[/MENTION] Lee Ann Womack, yeah that song on that site where I found it (I don't listen to country to be honest, as most is sad) is his legacy because he has passed on, Foundation for a better life or values.com He was an advertising magnate and wanted to express love, compassion and all sort of wonderful things and obviously had the means to have his messages advertised. What to do with your money when you pass on. Live life, pass it on. Reminds me of a movie called "The Bucket List".

[SKendall]

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Glassie, get well soon.
Liz and Nora, you are both going through an awful time :hug::hug: Nyquil causes me great anxiety and keeps me awake and agitated.
Wildflowers, great to see you.
Pauly, I hope today is a good day for you.
Hi, Rusty.
Hey Mr. V.
Good thoughts for Techie.
Hello to all I haven't mentioned.

[Lizann]

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So how was everyone's Thursday? I got it all done and I am tired! Went to mom and dad's today and my father held the baby. Just such a beautiful thing! I heard somewhere that there is an assisted living facility and a day care center. It's a win win, they say, for both the little kids and the elderly. My father is so in love with the little miracle Logan, as he calls him.

Glassie, how are you feeling? I hope you are on the mend.

Skendall, NyQuil gives me nightmare! My husband loves it! My kids get the nightmares from it too. I wonder why that is?

Nora, how is mom? And how are you and hubby holding up? I hope things have calmed down a bit.

Hello to everyone! Wishing you all a great AF night!

[red67]

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RubyWillow passed away today. My heart is broken. She was one of the first people to reach out and help me here and she was so proud of my sobriety. Such a funny, outgoing woman who loved her family and friends so much.

[NoraC]

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Oh Red - thank you for the update. Very sad. I have been praying for the family.

[Rusty]

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RED-So good to see you but I am so sorry it's under the saddest of circumstances. Rubywillow was one of the first people to reach out to me, too. She lost a brother to AL and was so candid about how is experience with AL was motivation for her to get sober. Mama Bear must be devastated as well. She actually met Rubywillow and was friends with her on FB. Red, how old was Ruby? I forget.

Liz-so glad that little miracle Logan makes your dad smile.

Skendall-how are you feeling?

Glassie-are you feeling any better?

Techie-are you going to change your course of therapy now?

At home today and it is delightful. Waves of hello to everyone else.

[paulywogg]

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Very sad news Red,I've never "met" RubyWillow but I've read her posts,praying for the family

[Wildflowers]

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RIP RubyWillow. Your with the good Lord now. Prayers for your families loss!.... We had several PM exchanges over the years and you were always so supportive and kind!... I'll never forget how much love and time you gave to Cowgirl. I bet she has given you a big hug and tour of heaven. Thank you for all you did here and elsewhere to help others!... Light and Love.

[Rusty]

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Pauly:hug:I forgot to mention that I got very choked up as you described the details of Jon's memorial service. It must have been so moving on so many levels, and fascinating to see as it was a Native American ceremony. Very cool but oh well I know the sadness of it all.:sad: Regarding your dad not wanting you to "poke" around so you could find that necklace of Kell's and your older brother showing up drunk....funerals bring out the worst in people. I'm sure your brothers thought the booze would make the sorrow a bit easier to handle. Guys can be very uncomfortable with showing grief in public.Pauly:hug:I forgot to mention that I got very choked up as you described the details of Jon's memorial service. Thank you for taking the time to tell us all about it. It must have been so moving on so many levels, and fascinating to see as it was a Native American ceremony. Very cool but oh how well I know the sadness of it all.:sad: Regarding your dad not wanting you to "poke" around so you could find that necklace of Kell's and your older brother showing up drunk....funerals bring out the worst in people. He was probably in shock and that's why he blurted out that he didn't want you "poking" around in the house. I'm sure your brothers thought the booze would make the sorrow a bit easier to handle. Good for you for not drinking!!

Glassie and Techie...how are you feeling?

Liz-I loved how you said your little miracle Logan brings much joy to your dad. I am so glad...I bet it gives your mom so comfort as well.

Wildflowers-Rubywillow was a special lady for sure. I felt badly about Cowgal because she committed suicide. She had a couple of addictions and I know she really struggled to stay sober in the end. Good to see you here.

Big hellos to everyone else. Working here at home...off for a work out later.

[NoraC]

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Hey all. Really sorry to hear about RubyWillow. I have been following her daughter's posts on FB since the stroke. So sorry for the whole family. I think she was only in her 60's - early 70's? She has had health problems for years. But such a happy person.

I know that Mama Bear saw the news. I texted Fennel and let her know. But, sad to find out that Fennel's Mom died in June. She died on Fennel's birthday. I am heartbroken to hear that too. My heart really hurts for her.

I'm also unhappy with myself that I am so out of touch with Fennel. She is a great friend but I probably haven't e-mailed her in over a year. I lost contact with most people except this group right here.

New goal is that I'm going to start connecting with people more. I have my phone phobia now. (I wonder if that developed once I stopped drinking. My liquid courage that took away my fear of talking? Hmm, maybe I should talk to a therapist about this :hmms: ) But, I can certainly keep in touch with e-mail. )

[NoraC]

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Glassie - how are you feeling? Did they find an antibiotic that you can take? :hug:

Red - it was great to see you but wish it was for a happy reason. How are you doing?

Rusty - Hope you had a good workout.

Wildflowers - how are you doing?

Pauly - I've been thinking of you. Take care of you. How is Kell feeling?

Mr V - I am so happy for you. You are doing GREAT. I loved to read that you're not going to quit on your quit.

Liz - I hope you take lots & lots of pics tomorrow. Or is it Sunday? Is it coed? I'm so excited for you. I've been thinking of getting my mom a baby doll. I've read that it's really helpful to many Alzheimer's patients. If you are interested in joining either of the caregiver forums on Facebook, I will send you the link. Sometimes it is too overwhelming. But, I've got some great info there too.

SK - I had another vision of your granddaughter watching the hippos fart. :rotlf: How are thing pain patches working out? Are you able to get a larger prescription now so that you have enough to get thru?

Techie - I hope that you are still feeling better.

I will be back..........of course, I will............it's time for my weekly ramble. LOL

[paulywogg]

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Kell's feeling ok Nora thanks for asking, today they moved into a little house one street over from me,I'm so happy they got it cuz for some reason these apartments are being weird I dunno why all of a sudden rents are up and they're being super strict about credit and stuff who knows