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Re: One Step at a Time - August 2017
August. Thank god I have a cold room to step myself down as I suspect COPD is the culprit. Been through the ringer with my employment and the products used (people loved my truck because it got them high). Though as time passes through spring it just may have been allergies."Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid." - Albert Einstein
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Happy August all and thanks for starting us off Nora. My new month resolution is to try and post more often.
Sending all my love to those of you, like me, who are on life’s ‘mezzanine level’- worried about those both above and below. I especially hope that Nora (your mom), Liz (your dad and mom) and Rusty (your mom) are all ok and sorry to anyone else I missed.
NS – how old are your grandkids?There's two ways of looking at the holes in your shoes
You can dig the ventilation... or you can sing the blues
I didn't come this far to only come this far.
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Hi, [MENTION=19302]Lizann[/MENTION]. My mom cared for my grandma after she had a stroke. She had essentially no memory so the situation was not unlike dementia. She didn't trust anyone else (other than my dad) to do the caring and so after a few years, had had no breaks and was completely worn out. She also had/has health problems of her own which exacerbated the situation. She eventually had to put my grandma in a nursing home, which of course came with a whole different set of problems and extreme feelings of guilt. It was an awful situation and not at all what my grandma would have wanted. Now my dad is the full-time carer for my mom (who has memory issues but not diagnosed dementia). My dad is healthy and active and could do all sorts of things but he will not leave my mom with a non-family carer. And so the cycle goes on...
Our grandsons are 2.5 and almost 2 years old [MENTION=8902]Glass Half Empty[/MENTION]. The younger one lives ~ 3 h away and the older one (and upcoming sibling :smile:!) live nearby. The last 2.5 years would have been an absolute nightmare if I hadn't quit drinking already. I've been needed at all hours of the day and night and was so relieved and grateful to be able to BE THERE. I'm so glad I've never resented spending time with him b/c it "interfered" or that I manipulated situations so that I would be with him on my very selfish terms. When I quit it was for me but it is so humbling to see now how if I hadn't, it would have been so bad for the people I love.
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Hello everyone.
Nora, on the subject of itching I do have info to give you. In TX we have fire ants and the itch is brutal and lasts a long time and mosquitoes. etc. I do recommend the diatomaceous earth food grade. I also bought these little zappers from Amazon. You place them right on the bite and click and it releases the histamines or whatever. I also purchased a gizmo that releases a small point of heat that has worked really well. I planted a citronella plant on my patio and also put 2 small zappers out there which apparently emit a piercing noise that only insects will hear and I'm relatively bug free. If the itch has already happened as in your mom's case. I wonder if AfterBite would work. It's just ammonia, and for myself I use vinegar which takes the sting right out. Good luck.Enlightened by MWO
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TMH, glad you stopped in and I;m sorry about the illnesses of your friends. To everyone with parents with dementia, it's a rough road and I went through this with my dad. He wanted to go into a nursing home and was placed in a very nice one. I visited him in Toronto shortly after and he wanted me to take him to my home in WA state where I was living at the time. It was very sad. He wanted to go into a home because he felt he was a burden to my sister and his lady friend. His estate paid my sister to spend time with him 3 days a week and that was the best we could do. His condition worsened after 2 strokes.
Techie, I've been worried about you, please keep us updated.
Glassie, you have such precious times ahead. Vivian is now 8 and came over on Sunday and wanted to watch hippos fart on Youtube ???!!!. I steered her away from that and she wanted to know about the Loch Ness Monster and I explained the legend and then she wanted to know about aliens and we went through that too. I got a roasting email from daughter telling me she had nightmares that night about aliens. We should have stuck with the hippo's, lol.
Glassie, I also discovered Rake on Netflix. Season 3 and 4 were hilarious and I actually belly laughed. Do you think they will extend it?
Rusty, I hope you enjoy your time off. Your weather sounds perfect.
NS, nice to see you. Your g/kids are also at precious ages.
How are you doing Mr. V?
I am sorry about Ruby Willow. I don't know her age but it seems she is too young for a stroke, poor girl. She did seem to have lots of family close by.
Talk later.Enlightened by MWO
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I was wondering why no,one was posting on the July thread". Finally figured out it was August! [MENTION=18725]NoSugar[/MENTION], thank you for explaining your situation. Mom and my older sister have mentioned a nursing home for dad. It breaks my heart to even think about it, yes there is guilt and I'm so surprised mom would go along with it. She has always been a strong woman, and this is out of character for her.
Waves to everyone else! I'm having trouble keeping my eyes open! Good night!
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Just wanted to drop in and say goodnight. I hope that everyone was able to find a smile somewhere today.I know I did reading about SK's granddaughter wanting to watch the hippo's fart. I remember those days with a young one that age. :rotlf: My son & I had many a silly laugh over things like that. :harhar:
"Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.".....Carol Burnett
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AF - 7-27-15
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Aaargh - not much of a smile here. Still really sick.And apparently I’ve just found another drug I’m allergic to.
SK – Vivian sounds so cute. Fairy gardens one day and hippo farts the next!
Nora – your turn will come sweetheart, and you will be so proud that you have proven your capability and trustworthiness.
NS you’re very lucky to have 2 and a half grand kids. I love what you said about being able to be there for them, and also not having to manipulate things. That’s the thing I’m proudest about now, just that I can always drive to babysit at the kidlings’ house at their convenience and even at short notice, rather than them having to drag the grandbabe to mine. I know it’s not really a big deal and it’s never been an issue between us but it’s what I feel a grandmother should be able to do!There's two ways of looking at the holes in your shoes
You can dig the ventilation... or you can sing the blues
I didn't come this far to only come this far.
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Glassie - feel better. I'm allergic to 4 antibiotics. Doctors just look at me and shake their heads when they have to prescribe something."Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.".....Carol Burnett
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AF - 7-27-15
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I'm sorry to hear about Ruby Willow. She was always so welcoming, helpful, sincere and fun. I pray she heals well and has support on her journey back to good health.
Hello to all the Steppers. Hope your all doing well. Shout out to AG. Last I member (think you and fam were headed to your cabin in AK). Hope your enjoyng your summer with hub's and the boys.
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[MENTION=16893]Wildflowers[/MENTION] - good to see you. I hope you are doing well.
I will check back later. Mom has been having one of the episodes. :sad: Out of it, not making sense, agitated. She fell last night/early morning and thank goodness didn't break anything. She kept saying I think I broke my tail bone, I think I broke my tail bone. But, then she was able to move and we were finally able to get her back in bed. Hubby was standing right next to her when it happened. She keeps thinking she can walk without her walker. He had just said - Mom, grab your walker. Then she turned and fell before he could catch her. Poor guy has had a very busy day watching over her. She was up & down over & over. Wanted to reheat her tea. Tried to put her cup on the stove. She never even goes in the kitchen. Anyway, just that kind of day. The mental state started yesterday evening. I now realize that the Benadryl we've been giving her for the horrible itch has made the dementia worse."Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.".....Carol Burnett
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AF - 7-27-15
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Glassie, I hope you feel better soon. Really sick is no fun. Did the doctor give you something else you can take? Thankfully, I am not allergic to anything so far.
Nora, I'm sorry mom is having a bad time. Do you really think it's the Benadryl? I guess the topical ointments will have to suffice? It's so hard to know his to manage them when they become agitated. It's just plain scary. We have been doing a lot of reading about dementia and how to deal with it. We will go see my parents tomorrow. I think Erin and Logan may come too.
Wildflower, thanks for popping in. Always happy to see your posts. How are you?
Skendall, you had me laughing with the farting hippos. Yes, we need to do a whole lot more of that.(laughing, that is, not the farting
Waves to everyone and wishing us all a restful AF night.
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I'm gonna place this song here because I don't know where else to put it.
I listen to a way different type of music but this one seemed to resonate with me big time (too late in my situation), but it had a huge impact. Sorry if I'm breaking rules. YouTube Brad Paisley, Alison Krauss - Whiskey Lullaby, so country music. "I will love you until the day I die". Is a phrase that hit me hard. Interesting video and shows some of the absolute crap we have put ourselves through when you watch the guy nearly die, Creepy the video part near the end when she is seeing him while dancing, but its another guy. Its a pretty good illustration of what goes on emotionally and while wasted. Watch if you want.
I have some more video's that altered me hard like from a site called values.com ... Lee Ann Womack - I hope you dance. On a more positive note.
And of course the best of all Sarah Mclachlin, Fallen. By far my favorite http://https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=so1J2ie7Jqs... YouTube or depending on your taste of music YouTube, the lyrics are crazy if you take the time. I prefer the remixs (Gabriel and Driesden) , but even if you don't want to listen.... watch them, there are tons. Sarah was huge in Canada and if you actually listen to the lyrics they are what we all feel. She was suicidal and an addict so far as I know."Heaven bent to take my hand, no where left to turn". The lyrics are nuts. Lyric cut at one spot. YouTube. Gorgeous woman I might add.
"Heaven bend to take my hand and lead me through the fire
Be the long awaited answer to a long and painful fight
Truth be told I tried my best
But somewhere long the way, I got caught up in all there was to offer
But the cost was so much more than I could bear
Though I've tried, I've fallen
I have sunk so low
I messed up
Better I should know
So don't come 'round here and
Tell me I told you so
We all begin with good intent
When love was raw and young
We believe that we can change ourselves
The past can be undone
But we carry on our back the burdens time always reveals
In the lonely light of morning
In the wound that would not heal
It's the bitter taste of losing everything
I've held so dear
Though I've tried, I've fallen
I have sunk so low
I messed up
Better I should know
So don't come 'round here and
Tell me I told you so
Ohh
Heaven bend to take my hand
I've nowhere left to turn
I'm lost to those I thought were friends
To everyone I know
Oh they turn their heads, embarrassed
Pretend that they don't see
That it's one miss step, one slip, before you know it
And there doesn't seem a way to be redeemed
Though I've tried, I've fallen
I have sunk so low
I messed up
Better I should know
So don't come 'round here and
Tell me I told you so"
Yeah the lyrics are a little nuts and dont fully match if you didnt watch the videos. Close enough.
I'll just make a simple comment. Men can love just as much as a woman they just don't show it right sometimes and nor do some women.
I will leave you with this. In the arms of an angel, sarah. Have a good morning or evening depending on where you are https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1SiylvmFI_8Last edited by empyr3al; August 3, 2017, 12:33 AM."Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid." - Albert Einstein
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