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GOOD FOR YOU! Congratulations on a great effort.

Isn't it funny about the 'anticipated drink' not living up to its promise? I know exactly what you mean. A few months ago I managed to do a 30 day AF stint as a kick start to my new moderation regime. At the end of the 30 days ( it was actually about 35 days ) I had a friends 40th birthday party - a big deal and I knew that i would have a drink - and was I looking forward to it! I could taste that first glass of wine for days, weeks before hand. Until l I got to the party...

I was handed a glass of wine, I took a sip and, like you , no big deal! Is that all there is?? It was simply a glass of wine. I drank it (sipped it which was a new first for me) and didn't need another. And that's pretty much the way it has been for me since than. A glass of wine is a glass of wine - no big deal. Maybe for you too.

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WAY TO GO!!!! This site and the folks here do make the differnce, they saved my life, LITERALLY!!!! I can't thank everyone enough! It ain't easy, but it can be done!!!!!

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Starlight, that is absolutely fantastic! The same thing happened to me after I was AF for 6 weeks. I knew there was a yearly party that I always loved to go to and there was always a lot of drinking (not drunkeness, but good fun drinking and music and a great time for all). So I actually planned it ahead and used it almost like a motivation to stay AF all the way until the party. I was afraid I would go overboard then, so tried to prep myself to take it slow, and not drink too much. As it turned out, it wasn't the biggest deal to drink again. It was nice, I admit, but I was fine after a couple of glasses of wine. Had one more, then stopped halfway into the party and went home 3 hours later sober, feeling great.

BUT-- and this is a big BUT... I did not plan for what I'd do after that night, and fell into drinking every night again, a little more each night until after a week I was out of control again. So, just a warning. Starlight, I think your plan to go right back to AF all week is a great idea and it will probably keep you from falling into the trap I did. Redrobin, I hope someday to get to where you are, but for now it's AF for a long long time. I've proven to myself that I am not ready for moderation.

Like LOVUALL, this site has been great for me. Thanks to this site, which I found after my last relapse, I have been AF the whole time since (4 weeks now and going strong). Thank you all.

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Starlight,

I am very impressed!! Good job and glad you are enjoying the AF times, too!!

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Cindi

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Very glad you achieved your goal this week Starlight, what a confidence booster. Well done on that and on making future plans too. :l

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starlight I + redrobin,

you don't know how jealous I am of you, I feel that if i taste a full alcoholicdrink again i will slide down that very slippery slope that beatle describes .

Good luck to you xxxxxxxxxxxx

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Hey Diamond , absolutely no need to be jealous!!

For me that "no big deal drink" was the culmination of a fairly long time adhering quite rigorously to the full MWO program (as set out in Roberta Jewell's book.) I slavishly followed the program - topa, all supplements. the CD's, the exercise regime, the 30 plus day alcohol free period before (very nervously) trying my first drink, largely to see what would happen. I still follow many aspects of the program although I have customised these to fit my own needs and circumstances.

There are many here who would say why tempt fate? If you can do without alcohol for 3 days or 33 days why take that first drink? For me it was a decision that was already made. I had never intended to be fully abstinent (for a variety of reasons.) For me this program was all about bringing a bad habit under control - and it has succeeded in doing that. For which I am extraordinarily grateful.

We all come here from different places with different needs and different issues and this isn't a one -size-fits-all program, which is one of it's main strengths. Certainly in my response to Starlight I did not intend to imply that anything involving ' the demon drink' is easy or that there is any short cut or easy way out. There aint!!