Join the Army Against Alcohol-November 2017

[satz123]

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You're never going to believe this, Satzuma, but I was just going to message you and there you are.:hug:

Morning Jacks ....... I need a kick up the arse !

Young Satz is in rehab - the quare place that Molls went to and doing very well and soaking it up as I hoped he would.
His sister went for family day on Wednesday and gave it loads and had him squirming. Not that we want that but he was telling lies about how much he drank.
I get to do it next Wednesday. I get to shame him with all the things I did myself ..... hiding bottles etc. ( feel a fraud)

Mother still demented.
My niece was stealing from her weekly ...... the b*tch - we planted a camera & gave the evidence to her father.
Family meeting today. :egad:

[stirly-girly]

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Morning Jacks ....... I need a kick up the arse !

Young Satz is in rehab - the quare place that Molls went to and doing very well and soaking it up as I hoped he would.
His sister went for family day on Wednesday and gave it loads and had him squirming. Not that we want that but he was telling lies about how much he drank.
I get to do it next Wednesday. I get to shame him with all the things I did myself ..... hiding bottles etc. ( feel a fraud)

Mother still demented.
My niece was stealing from her weekly ...... the b*tch - we planted a camera & gave the evidence to her father.
Family meeting today. :egad:

Same boring life as usual, eh?

Seriously, glad to hear young Satz is in rehab and TBH, I don't think him squirming will do any harm. And you will do well to remind him of the things you did and don't feel a fraud about it. You're doing it for his own good and so that hopefully he will get the message now and not get to be our age before he decides once and for all to kick the demon.

Your niece was stealing from her grandmother with dementia - she needs to be throttled. Mind you she could have a problem and needs professional help but still, it makes you wonder.

How is your new job going - hope you like it much better than your last one. With all that's going on in your life, you certainly don't need a stressful job to add to the rest of the merry-go-round. And yes, being sober is a blessing. How in the world would you have dealt with all of that shite hungover??

[JackieClaire]

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OOh just think while Molls is away we can @@@@@@ everyone

[MENTION=11158]stirly-girly[/MENTION]........Mr JC's fine and dandy. Bess is getting old although a few times a week she can lollop and frolic like a puppy. Jenny is loving teacher training..........nothing better she likes than studying...........sometimes think we were given the wrong baby at the hospital and she's nothing like the rest of us. S&H coming up to the busiest time of the year........doesn't get a day off all of December..........got to keep the populus of Newcastle topped up with fine wines.

[MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION]..........How did your brother take it? Dreadful thing .

As for the lying I used to lie to myself how much I drank..........it took weeks for my counsellor to get out of me that is wasn't 'just' a couple of bottles of wine..........it was also a couple of large voddies first thing...........oh and liquers after a meal out.........oh and a couple of voddies (large of course) before the meal.

[stirly-girly]

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Ooh, I've been @'d. Thank you [MENTION=7008]JackieClaire[/MENTION]. What a treat that was!!!

[satz123]

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As for the lying I used to lie to myself how much I drank..........it took weeks for my counsellor to get out of me that is wasn't 'just' a couple of bottles of wine..........it was also a couple of large voddies first thing...........oh and liquers after a meal out.........oh and a couple of voddies (large of course) before the meal

Yes this is the crux of it Jacks. He has been lying to himself how much and HOW he drank.
I have to now tell him & the group he hid bottle, drank alone, took drink from here etc. All the things I did myself.
But I'll have to put on my big knickers and be up front about it. Apart from here it will be the first time I've verbalised it :egad:

[JackieClaire]

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Ooh, I've been @'d. Thank you [MENTION=7008]JackieClaire[/MENTION]. What a treat that was!!!

You're welcome.

[JackieClaire]

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Yes this is the crux of it Jacks. He has been lying to himself how much and HOW he drank.
I have to now tell him & the group he hid bottle, drank alone, took drink from here etc. All the things I did myself.
But I'll have to put on my big knickers and be up front about it. Apart from here it will be the first time I've verbalised it :egad:

Don't forget you're hankie. Its gut wrenching but cleansing at the same time.........and the other thing is the counsellor has heard it all before and worse.

[stirly-girly]

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Yes this is the crux of it Jacks. He has been lying to himself how much and HOW he drank.
I have to now tell him & the group he hid bottle, drank alone, took drink from here etc. All the things I did myself.
But I'll have to put on my big knickers and be up front about it. Apart from here it will be the first time I've verbalised it :egad:

Σatzy, of course he lied - we all have. Gawd, many times, we didn't even admit to ourselves how much we drank. I can remember taking the bottle out of the closet from where I'd hidden it the night before and being dumbfounded that I had drank that much. Again. Every night. Jaysus. We've all done it.
As Jackie says - it must be a very difficult thing to do but just keep in mind that right now, since he's in rehab - this is about the only help you can give young Satz and you know what, hearing you admit it and realizing that you DO know what he's gone through and that you understand may help him in the future to communicate better with you and if, at some time, he should start to waver, he knows that his Mum understands and he will come to you rather than talk to a buddy. And that could just be the thing that will help keep him on the straight and narrow. Best of luck to you. I know it's not easy but damn it, we do whatever we have to for the good of our kids, right?

[mollyka]

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Evening from glorious Morocco! Give him shovels of it benjy - even tho I had fully accepted my situation poor wee Joey couldn't stand the thought of saying anything bad bout me - so - like a light - guess what??? I'm telling myself I wasn't 'that bad'

[JackieClaire]

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Evening from glorious Morocco! Give him shovels of it benjy - even tho I had fully accepted my situation poor wee Joey couldn't stand the thought of saying anything bad bout me - so - like a light - guess what??? I'm telling myself I wasn't 'that bad'

Ahh yes clinging onto I wasn't 'that bad' and there's also I wasn't as bad as her or him or them..........and that's where the yet comes in.

This you tomorrow?

[sweetpea29]

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Evening all

So good to come home from a long day in the mad house and see you all posting

Tabbers- glad you're feeling more human and at yerself just hope you didn't overdo it in garden today x rest is important too x

MrsA - how'd the 10k go? I'd imagine you've won something again eh? You are amazing ya know?!

Rustop- where'd ya go for the hike? Looked lovely out today but it was bitterly cold anytime I ventured out for a puff!

Satzy- jeez I dunno where to start. Dear love ya is all I can say and give virtual hugs x
you're amazing that able to cope with all going on, I just can't imagine me doing same. Your family are so feckin lucky to have you about is my first thoughts. I remember back to my last year or so of drinking and doing so blatantly in front of my Dad and bro nearly wishing they'd challenge me or comment or something.....don't think my Da has noticed one way or other that I've stopped to this day. The bro woulda said gentle kinda things but I wanted someone to really put it to me. In end I had to put it to myself......
Point is, young Satz is so bloody lucky to have you and his sis there nearly part of his struggle and hopefully part of his recovery x
Your poor Mam- I'd have taken the head of my cousin if had caught them at that carry on. So sickening. I see so much in my line of work at how vulnerable the elderly are it just breaks my heart. Again though, ain't she blessed to have a daughter like you around looking out for her x
This is all such a strain on you though so I hope you find time for YOU and your needs among it all x

Jacks- can I just say thanks for being here, the constant one full of support- it is appreciated x

Stirls- lovely to see you again too. Hope you didn't work too hard today x

Molls- I hate you! Lol! It's bloody Baltic here and I'm jealous.
Serious tho have a fab hollier x

Where for art thou Mary wan?

Ya know that ol drinking thought I had other day? It came back again tonight in work. Thinking how I'd like to go home and have a few red ones. Dunno why or where the eff these thoughts are coming from, needless to say I haven't acted on them, but they're kinda niggling at me. Maybes need to go back and find my list of reasons for quitting.......

[IamMary]

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Hello, busy Saturday here, great to see everyone!
[MENTION=18312]sweetpea29[/MENTION], feeling your pain, total flat, no fixing, completely knackered tire today - had to get a man out to replace it. Car needs a lot of work too. v annoying.

My niece was stealing from her weekly ...... the b*tch - we planted a camera & gave the evidence to her father.:

Its all going on there Satz!! How dare she... good luck with that family meeting.
Good your son is getting help. Ive a relative there at the moment - hes due home soon. To what is another story....
[MENTION=11158]stirly-girly[/MENTION] good to see you.. hows things with your friend, still making you smile I hope

Hubby sorting though old photos today, asked me had I lost weight in recent years - I said no, much the same. funny he said, your face looks really chubby in all of these...
That was all the wine I said! (and the more wine and gin and beer....as [MENTION=7008]JackieClaire[/MENTION] mentioned :eyes

Hope your having a ball Molly and the heat has fixed Joe..

Good hike Rustop??
Glad your on the mend Tabbers..

Later..

[IamMary]

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Where for art thou Mary wan?

Ya know that ol drinking thought I had other day? It came back again tonight in work. Thinking how I'd like to go home and have a few red ones. Dunno why or where the eff these thoughts are coming from, needless to say I haven't acted on them, but they're kinda niggling at me. Maybes need to go back and find my list of reasons for quitting.......

I is here.
Whats going on with these thoughts Sweetpea? Are you letting them linger? Maybe get a distraction plan together?
It will pass.

[satz123]

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Ya know that ol drinking thought I had other day? It came back again tonight in work. Thinking how I'd like to go home and have a few red ones. Dunno why or where the eff these thoughts are coming from, needless to say I haven't acted on them, but they're kinda niggling at me. Maybes need to go back and find my list of reasons for quitting.......

Now Sweetypie - don't let those renegade thoughts grow. By dwelling on them they grow.
Think about the' few' red ones ...... ( funny the language we use - making them sound innocious )
Then think about how to stop at a few. You will not be able - none of us can. Think the whole scenario through to the next morning ....... not so inviting then ?.

[sweetpea29]

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I is here.
Whats going on with these thoughts Sweetpea? Are you letting them linger? Maybe get a distraction plan together?
It will pass.

Hey Mary

I'm all tucked up in the leaba now with 2 hottie bottles, duvet and fleecy blankie- feckin sleeting outside another early start tomorrow.

Re the thoughts, I dunno.... Mind playing games with me, feel like I've 2 brains. One saying sure you weren't that bad, a few wee vinos would do no harm, maybe help you 'switch off' blah de blah....other saying if you weren't that bad why'd ya end up seeking out a site like this, looking up AA info etc... Being totes honest here I just would like to escape for a while...ya know? Just block out all that's going on in my shitty wee life. That sounds awful but just being honest. But I know that form of escapism doesn't work in the end- just leads to more shittiness!!!!

Sorry for rambling, my heads whirling cos I haven't had these thoughts in sooo long.