Join the Army Against Alcohol-January 2018

[JackieClaire]

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She's all talk arsey she's prolly crocheting one ;-)

You called..........



If I ever manage something like this I'll run naked down the High Street.

[starty]

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I only rediscovered the 'simple' things in sobriety - the quick and easy high that booze gave me made the 'little' things seem too trivial to bother with - now I can get fun out of two blackbirds having a row out the back garden...

Evening all - just made myself a big platter of bbq chicken wings and fried noodles and not for anyone else... well they SAID they weren't hungry - but I sat and loved it...going to learn to be more selfish... fed up trying to please everyone and pleasing NO ONE!!!

Love that Molls. It is the simple things that make life worthwhile. Something I need to remember.

Today I wake up fresher than I have felt for a long time. I dont feel ill and that is huge gratitude. I have a lot to do today which I find daunting but copping out of it will not make it go away or any less daunting. 26 days clean and sober is quite an achievement and I am pretty proud Emotions still come to the surface really easily though but again I guess that is a good thing. Feeling them and accepting them is harder but its what we all do or must learn to do as humans I reckon.

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

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Morning folks, not a lot happening in Tabbers-land these days really. The company I work for is still looking very precarious but I have managed to avoid the rounds of redundancies so far. It is a concern given how difficult it is to get a job once on the scrap heap of being over 50, ironic really given we are all supposed to work till 70 and probably later in the coming decades. Still no point in worrying about things whose outcomes we have no control over. I am thinking I may have to going into business again after about 7 years of taking a wage but honestly I don't know if I still have the enthusiasm and stamina to work for myself again. Early retirement does look very inviting but then so does being able to eat. That said I am off to work now so laters folks.

p.s. Morning squirrel features, cross post. Great to hear you are getting to back to where you need to be. Keeping it simple, a mantra I love.

[IamMary]

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Good morning,
Good to see you [MENTION=22456]starty[/MENTION] and well done you. 26 days is a brilliant achievement. Today will be fine, things always seem daunting the more we thing about them. Plus you have a clear and head today, that counts for a lot.

ThatÂ’s tricky Tabbers... redundancy would be nice, if you had something else to walk into. Does it have to be the same industry, could you keep your nest egg and try something different. We have similar conversations here with mr M about changing jobs over 50.. heÂ’s wants to take a different path but thinks heÂ’s too old. I completely disagree. Anyone who shows that much initiative would be a huge asset to any company. Your free of Al now Tabbers, the world is actually your oyster now, go for it.

Arise, think dreams are just random thoughts in your head. Prob just means something like you being worried about speaking your mind incase you donÂ’t have support. Normal feeling.

Hope Stirly has defrosted!!

Great news about both J daughters on route to teaching jobs! Both have a lot going on, would be great timing.

Busy day in Maryland... later

Ps bon voyage Anon (cow :smiles

[starty]

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Hi Tabbers, so impressed with your progress to date. Its like its all suddenly come together for you?

Yes, work can be a huge worry. Both me and Mr S have had big promotions lately but the stress that comes with it is challenging as we are both in our mid 50s. Energy levels also are not what they were and we both have to accept that we cant do as much as we used to and not feel guilty about it.

I am working on the mantra of one day at a time. Never done that before. Always planned for future and looked at tomorrow. I find it too overwhelming just now so have to dial that back

[starty]

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Cross post Mary.

Yes I agree with you about encouraging mr M to do something different. I have had a number of changes to career that started after 45 and another in my 50s. Its all about attitude and willingness I reckon

[rustop59]

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Good morning all. Great to see you back Starty and well done on the 26 days. I’m inclined to live in the here and now much more so than when I was younger. Looks like a nice day so will try to get a walk in.

[JackieClaire]

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Morning,
Geez what a faff on this morning. Trying to get a shopping list together. We're having a freezer cooking weekend. Got a lovely recipe for Tuscan bean soup I want to make a batch of and himself is making a huge batch of base curry sauces.

I'm counting myself very lucky as I volunteer. Tbh I prolly put more effort into it than any other job I've had because I enjoy it. So much for all the insurance and pension plans we made to retire early............Mr JC will be working as long as he can hold a pen. Although it was a massive shock having the IVA to both of us and a lot of it self blame went on. Its taught us to live on a budget and we seem to manage quite well. I pulled down some of my pension when I turned 60 for new central heating and to put a bit aside.

Starty, 26 days is just fab. I'm really happy for you. :congratulatory:

[mollyka]

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Hallo ! On way to cork - I'll be working till near 70 and glad of it - could never volunteer - need to earn money and too selfish - Joe carried the financial burden for a long while so consider it's my turn now - it makes me sort of proud tbh - right Google maps here we go...

[RunningCourage]

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Late evening call folks,

I'm no where near retirement... That said, I do like having something to do - focus, purpose y'know. Think that's natural. Dunno if I'll still be in class in my 50's. Maybes, maybes no.

Just back from hill race - only 11km, but f*** am i buggered after it. Looked at my times and i'm comparable to the 50+ guys... indeed many of them were quicker. Hmmm... not good. Prolly caught a cold cos it was... cold. and wet and really really WINDY

Off to potter then to bed -

[RunningCourage]

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Emotions still come to the surface really easily though but again I guess that is a good thing. Feeling them and accepting them is harder but its what we all do or must learn to do as humans I reckon.

I wonder if that's been happening to me. tbVERYh, i think that i never drunk so much as to thwart my emotions so that when i didn't drink i'd have to deal with them (though i readily admit that drinking too much did make me more conducive to being melancholy).... BUT what you said here Starty resonates... And i'm aware such feelings are around the same time as i could very easily have a drink. I don't. My excuse is that it is still January. ODAAT and all that. But yeah, feelings - real feelings, not sozzled ones or diluted ones or ones that have been tempered by a tipple too many - I wonder if i'm immature when it comes to dealing with real feelings properly. Maybe. Stuff to think about.

Right nighters troopers zzz

[starty]

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I wonder if that's been happening to me. tbVERYh, i think that i never drunk so much as to thwart my emotions so that when i didn't drink i'd have to deal with them (though i readily admit that drinking too much did make me more conducive to being melancholy).... BUT what you said here Starty resonates... And i'm aware such feelings are around the same time as i could very easily have a drink. I don't. My excuse is that it is still January. ODAAT and all that. But yeah, feelings - real feelings, not sozzled ones or diluted ones or ones that have been tempered by a tipple too many - I wonder if i'm immature when it comes to dealing with real feelings properly. Maybe. Stuff to think about.

Right nighters troopers zzz

Hi RC, Many moons ago when I did my first long stint of recovery I read that when we stop drinking, our emotional age reflects the age we STARTED drinking. As using anything mind altering will stunt our emotional progression. I do agree with that to some degree. For me now, I notice myself welling up and crying for all sorts of reasons (not depression) bit just actually feeling things that I have blocked away in the past. I guess the longer clean time we have the more resilient we become. Ultimately we have to deal with these and that is the tough bit.

Amazing that you ran 11k in inclement weather. I am dead impressed !

[mollyka]

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Morning lovelies - I don't doubt I was/am emotionally stunted - mind you - I do subscribe to the ' is it the chicken or is it the egg?' Did I drink because I'm emotionally stunted or....?

In the bed cup of tea and my book - himself down drowning himself in the swimming pool

[rustop59]

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In the bed cup of tea and my book - [/QUOTE]
Same here Molly. The joy of an unhung Sunday, never get tired of it. Enjoy your weekend away. Waves to everyone else.

[tonyniceday]

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Hi troops

Sorry I've missed a couple of days... Still here and AF - just this stupid thing called "work" keeps getting in the way. When I worked for myself I could come on here anytime, now it's more difficult - trying to get back into a different routine!

Been accepted for a house...just need to produce all my documents tomorrow and then could even be moving in by the end of the week...it's a really nice place on the edge of the city but with a bus straight in, which is important because the cost of parking if I drive to work is horrendous!

Can't wait to be settled again...even if it will be very different. My friend is being so supportive and I have now got into a really good place to keep my quit going....starting to feel much more positive about everything.

I'll read back when I get back from work later...Have a great AF Sunday everyone!