One Step at a Time - January 2018

[paulywogg]

Re: One Step at a Time - January 2018

Morning friends,Nora,I love"keep the plug in the jug" what a day you had although I admit in my mind the picture of your mom just sliding to the floor and dozing sounded cute,,its not but the image that popped up was Allswell,great to see you back too waves to Rusty,AG,Liz,Glassy and all,wishes for an awesome AF Tuesday

[NoSugar]

Re: One Step at a Time - January 2018

Since there are some grandparents and soon-to-be grandparents here, I thought this would be a good place to share something that happened yesterday.

When I'm with my grandsons, I try very hard not to be distracted by my phone and leave it elsewhere. Yesterday, though, I was waiting for a text from my daughter so it was on the table, between my almost 3 y old grandson and me. At some point the text came and I answered it. He kept talking to me while I typed and I told him 'just a minute until I finish this'. He kept talking. Anyway, I set it back down and after a few seconds, he calmly reached over and pushed the top button, looked at me in the eye and said, 'Yo phone is OFF!'. Makes me really glad I try not to let it come between us most of the time!

He isn't allowed to play with electronics very often but he sees others constantly on their phones and it seems like the ability to use them is almost INNATE. He navigates the screen with no problem, has deliberately Facetimed people, looks through photos (mostly of himself), and can find my double-buried Netflix icon in seconds, starting one of his shows. I am going to continue leaving my phone as far from us as possible!!!

Good to see you again, Allswell. 2018 can be a better year.

Now, I can wake up without regrets. It has been so great to be finding myself again.

I still think of the lack of regrets each morning, Nora. Every day used to start badly because I'd yet again done what I swore I wouldn't the night before. Not everyday is great now but each one is better than it would have been if I'd drank.

Take care, NS

[Rusty]

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Good Morning from Vancouver!

Lots of FANTASTIC and HELPFUL posts today...thank you, Nora! I am in a rush so my apologies for not addressing everyone. :-(

I was only here for one day and then onto Ottawa in a few minutes and I will be there the rest of the week. The shopping here is amazing but the weather has not been cooperating. I will hit the shops tonight after work.

Allswell....great to see you back here!

AG!:hug:Welcome back! We all wondered about you and have missed you. Good for you for coming back and getting back on the AF wagon. I had so many Day 1s I lost count. So sorry to hear things aren't going well with your husband. That's a tough thing to deal with...but the more AF days you have, you can show him you're committed to quitting AL altogether. Stick with us...we are here for you.

Thanks everyone for the support regarding my mom. Yes, she does have Life Alert...she's had it for years. We are not so worried that she will fall in her house, but outside, away from home. She has fallen 4 times that we KNOW OF....at her neighbor's house, the resale shop where she volunteers, etc.

Hi to NS. Loved the story about your phone and your grandson. LOL

Hi Pauly!!!!!

Off to the airport. Happy AF Tuesday.

[NoraC]

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NS - I so get it about your GS. I'm on my phone so quick post from me. I'm not quick like the kids. My son's 6 year old niece got some coloring set and you uploaded the pic to her iPad and manipulated the picture. I couldn't keep up as she pressed all the buttons!

[allswell]

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Nora, what a day. Tomorrow will be better for certain!
I can say I've from time to time had dreams/nightmares where I was smoking again and the reality of the dream woke me in a panic. I haven't had a cigarette in 20 years and had family die from lung cancer so hopefully I can soon have nightmares of drinking knowing it is no longer my daily reality and just an issue in the past.

[Lizann]

Re: One Step at a Time - January 2018

Wow, a lot of great posts today! I don't have much more to add. Nora is right, nothing good has ever happened because of alcohol. For me it always ends badly. I was where you are AG, not able to say never again. I've had a change of heart and know nothing good will ever come from al ever. for me there was always a bad ending. I hope you can take it completely off the table before something terrible happens.

NS, how sweet your story about your grandson. I am so amazed by how the baby watches everything!!! He's like a little sponge soaking it all in. I am very cautious about tv, phone and computer around him, even though he's still so young.

Rusty, hope you get back out to do some shopping. It's a great time to shop with the sales!

Tomorrow is Erin's birthday! I am working late and won't see her and I'm a bit sad. We will celebrate with them on Saturday.
Anyway, wishing you all a great AF night!

[actiongirl46]

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Hi all, great posts to read tonight! Thank you.

I made it through Day3 but it wasn't pretty. At least on the inside. I am still feeling angry and depressed so I'm just hanging on, one day at a time. I don't have a lot to say tonight but I'm here and I made it!

Take care all - AG

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - January 2018

Hello everyone.

Pauly - I like that saying too. There's a FB page that I follow called Keep the Plug in the Jug. There were times that I would sing a little ditty in my head.....just keep the plug in the jug, keep the pug in the jug...tra la, la. :haha: Stupid but it got my past the liquor aisle.

Allswell and AG - how are you both doing today? Like I said - please feel free to come here & vent. It helps, it really does.

Glassie - how are you??? Planning your vacation?

Rusty - hope you get to do some shopping.

Liz - how is the babysitting going? :yay:

C called me on his way home from work. They are going in tomorrow for the genetic testing. I think everyone will breathe a sigh of relief after this.
In addition to those thoughts (not worries but thoughts) J is concerned because she had the stomach flu really bad a few days ago and is scared that it might have hurt the baby. I told him to stop Googling.

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - January 2018

AG - glad you made it. Do you want to talk it out? Are you angry that your husband is making you do this? :hug:

[NoraC]

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Liz - I really hope that my kids will be aware of the electronics. But, I don't think so. We'll see - I can be pretty convincing sometimes :blahblah:


It took me a long time to get to the point of saying I was not going to drink again. A LONG time. I knew it but I couldn't say those words. That was too real for me.

[actiongirl46]

Re: One Step at a Time - January 2018

Thanks Nora. Yes, I am angry at him for a lot of reasons. I just copied your last post into my electronic journal that I forgot about. I think you encouraged me to start it about a year ago. Looking back through that, I was angry a year ago too and then felt better after a few AF weeks. It was helpful to read back.

More tomorrow for Day 4!

[NoraC]

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So sad about the mud slides here. Poor people already have gone thru so much with the fires. Survived that and now had their homes washed away in mud.

[paulywogg]

Re: One Step at a Time - January 2018

Morning friends,Nora,it rained here nonstop yesterday! Kinda put me in a glum mood,hope the testing goes well AG,yay on day 4! Liz,Happy birthday to your daughter,we always celebrate the weekend before or after the actual birthday whichever is closer,Rusty,how's your mom doing? Im so tired,sleep has been a wreck but I'm getting through,,,wishes for a great AF Wednesday

[actiongirl46]

Re: One Step at a Time - January 2018

Evening Steppers! Day 4 is in the books.

Nora, I agree it is so sad to see these natural disasters. Heartbreaking.

Pauly, why aren't you sleeping? Has this been going on for a long time or am I remembering that wrong? That is no fun.

Today was a little tough, although better than yesterday. There was some shock and anger rolling through my head, but I just tried to keep busy and not think too much. TV helps a lot! I'm out of ice cream tonight (darn kids!!) but that's ok. I'm going to bed early and just trying to take it one day at a time. I don't think hubs has any idea how hard this is, but then, he can start or stop whenever he wants. He is not an alcoholic.

I got the book "Death Wish: The path through addiction to glorious life" recommended by someone in Newbie's Nest. Looking forward to reading it tonight.

More later, gators! AG

[NoraC]

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You are rocking it, AG. I haven't heard of that book. Let me know what you think. You're right that hubs doesn't know how hard it is. It's different if you don't have that voice.

I hope that you are doing well, Allswell.

Pauly - it must be any time now isn't it? J&C sent me ultrasound pictures from today. So great - you can see that it looks like a baby. Or at least I can see a baby. LOL

Rusty - how's work going? getting any free time in the evenings?

Liz - how's your beautiful baby? Must be so great to have him to take care of a few days a week. Did I tell you that you sound so good? You really do - it's like you are finding yourself. That didn't come out right......but anyway I'm happy for you.