Join the Army Against Alcohol-February 2018

[Jude58]

Re: Join the Army Against Alcohol-February 2018

Come on over....we'd have a blast!!!

[RunningCourage]

Re: Join the Army Against Alcohol-February 2018

Afternoon,

If i don't see another cardboard box, roll of tape or bubble wrap ever again I will not be saddened. Of course, having packed so much, we only have next week to unpack everything again in the new school. :cuss: !!!

Got home to a headache, prolly lack of sleep, so gonna eat, do a bit of work then chill and aim for an early night :thumbsup:
[MENTION=24080]Jude58[/MENTION] - an army adventure to NYC? Not sure NY are ready for them... :haha:

[satz123]

Re: Join the Army Against Alcohol-February 2018

Well folks looks like we have to accept that young Satz is not going to stop drinking.
We went to a meeting at 3 pm
Then went for a walk later at 6pm - I was in work. He went to the pub. Came home after an hour & told Mr S he HAD TO have a drink.

I find myself - calmly resigned to the fact as all the fight is gone from me.
We will end up THAT couple with the 50 year old single son who is 'fond of the drink' living with us. FFS !!

What a sad waste of a life..... so bright & intelligent but I can not stop him .... as we've all agreed he is not ready.....

[JackieClaire]

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Late check in.
The S&H saw HR today...........had his manager from a previous branch with him. Its all very complicated and he wasn't well pleased. He'd found out that the place has been advertised since last October and they're wittering on about how much redundancy to give him............luckily he'd done a lot of research, stood is ground ............meeting lasted longer than an hour .........and they've gone away to think about it.

My granny square battle still goes on so I'm going to have to ask for help.:egad:

So when are we off to New York...........was there in 2008.........:heartbeat: So if I'm driving the bus who's flying the plane?

[satz123]

Re: Join the Army Against Alcohol-February 2018

[MENTION=24080]Jude58[/MENTION] - an army adventure to NYC? Not sure NY are ready for them... :haha:

We're ready RC - just waiting for the plane ..... :haha: ( Ryanair is our low Budget Airline Judy )

[JackieClaire]

Re: Join the Army Against Alcohol-February 2018

Ahh Satz, what can I say apart from fuckity fuck. You mind your own health from now on.

[mollyka]

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So sorry benjy - all I would say now is what I keep saying - don't facilitate him with acceptance in other words don't let him set the rules in YOUR house - and don't dance around him - let him know all the time that this is far from acceptable living on a knife edge in your house not knowing what he'll do next - and of course NO MONEY - No matter what the excuse

[mollyka]

Re: Join the Army Against Alcohol-February 2018

You and Mr s mustn't feel powerless it will damage you - you cannot stop him drinking but you can make it damn unpleasant to do so - it's your home xxx night all xx

[IamMary]

Re: Join the Army Against Alcohol-February 2018

Hope it doesn't last too long Satz.. its progressive, there has to be a rock bottom eventually. Are his buddies still around?

New york... Im in :sohappy:

[Jude58]

Re: Join the Army Against Alcohol-February 2018

I'm so sorry satz.....you've done everything that you can and above. In my drinking days, no one would have been able to stop me as I had yet to reach the bottom of the pit. Hopefully, there will come a time when he will realize that he is going to die at a relatively young age if he doesn't stop. I can only imagine the torture you must be going through seeing your son making the same mistakes that most of us here have done, and knowing what is inevitable if he doesn't quit. Take care of you first and foremost, you need some me time for sure.

So when are y'all coming over? Can't wait to see you driving the bus Jackie! Loved the airline joke....too funny! Hope that you all realize that I don't live in the big city; I dwell happily in a beautiful valley about a 6 hour drive north of the big apple. I've been to NYC many times, but always can't wait to get back to the country.

[RunningCourage]

Re: Join the Army Against Alcohol-February 2018

Morning - - and ... it's ... FRIDAY :yay:

(which also means the occasion of teachers all going to the pub at 3pm for a fond farewell to a school and staff leaving) BUT... i DO have a race tomorrow (not that i'm looking forward to it...) which is my excuse this afternoon for being on the soda and lime. Fingers crossed I don't break.

Funny that idea of the barrel as mentioned last night by Jude - cos I don't believe i've ever reached the bottom of any barrels, but just a dawning realisation the older I get that the amount of drinking i'd done must have had some toll on my body. Especially the way i drank in my 20s (bottle of wine most nights... often after a couple of "respectable" pints in the pub). I remember thinking when I was, maybes 28/29?, that I could have drunk as much as my dad in my life time as he had in his (he being 38 years my senior). So for me, it's partly the fear of not actually ever seeing the bottom of the barrel, but instead the deterioration of quality of life/physical (and mental) health.
[MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION] - See what JC and Molls said about looking after numero uno? Mind you do that, ok Doc? Good.

[JackieClaire]

Re: Join the Army Against Alcohol-February 2018

Morning lovelies,
Still on the search for an indoor planting type thingie for my Ma-in-Law so will be banging on the Garden Centre's and asking advice.

Arsey, its awful dark at the bottom of the barrel..........get out now while you can. Remember that 4 or so hours you're getting is proper sleep.

Well better get off to my class. I'll bet one of them has crocheted the Taj Mahal while she was waiting for the potatoes to boil.

[tonyniceday]

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Morning troops

Another late shift today so off with the dogs in a bit... thinking of swapping fags for vaping... have any of you tried this... what are your experiences?

Satz, what I was going to say has actually been said by others... You cannot stop young S...you can encourage him and be his number 1 supporter when he quits but until he reaches his own "Damascus Road" moment....there aint no one who can make him stop... As to Mr S drinking...it's his house and yours... If young S can't cope with his Dad having a normal drink then young S will have to deal with that and move out if he needs to...harsh but true... although there were other factors, that is one of the reasons Mrs T and I have split...my quit cannot cope with her "normal" drinking.

Bottom line is, until HE is ready to do this, it won't happen.

Sorry to be blunt...it's just my observation with all that's been said.:hug:

[mollyka]

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You're dead right imo Tony- on all counts - oh and my son quit fags with vaping and found it a doddle- now the gobshite went back on them - seemed like a good idea with a few pints - but he said it made it really easy- I quit cold turkey- 3 days real withdrawals then 3 weeks of wanting them- then virtually nothing - as if I'd never smoked - way easier for me than the drink but others say otherwise - I kept my 2 quits a couple of years apart tho

[satz123]

Re: Join the Army Against Alcohol-February 2018

Toe Knee - I remember telling Molls to wait a while to quit the fags after going alcohol free.
OTAAT
One thing at a time !!
You don't want to get overwhelmed by deprivation - which could easily happen if the 'pink cloud' of sobriety blows away.

Just sayin ' - try to shoot just one rabbit at a time ( not that we'd shoot rabbits - but you get my drift) :thumbsup: