Join the Army Against Alcohol-February 2018

[RunningCourage]

Re: Join the Army Against Alcohol-February 2018

x-post Mary! Yeah - when i was in my 20s, I start drinking a bottle of wine about this time - between 9 and 10pm... but not before. Now i'm tucked in bed by then. Suits me.

[mollyka]

Re: Join the Army Against Alcohol-February 2018

Evening again -- and AM on route to bed... HONEST!!! ANYWAY -- glad I checked in... now - reluctant to say this Arsey cos I know you are taking this whole sober lark very much a day at a time with no big decisions or big proclamations being made -- so rather than me being all bossy yada yada yada.... ( I've already been bossy with poor Jacks - read back there and sounded insufferable... just I've taken the sprogs worries and angsts on just too much for too long and don't want anyone else to do it!!!!) I would just say to you how I felt early on in this quit - cos this quit was different -- there was NOTHING more important to me than this quit -- consequently - there was nothing more important than ME ME ME on this quit - and no apologies for being like that either... previous quits I dreaded nights like that - and of course I COULDN'T 'not go' --- just COULDN'T - and often it feels like no way out... THIS TIME --- I just didn't go... to ANYTHING if it made me the SLIGHTEST bit worried (not even worried that I'd drink - I knew I wouldn't -- but worried that I would feel like I was white knuckling it.. that would have felt like a big step backwards to me) -- I actually backed out of a family wedding the day before -- told a blatant lie that I couldn't get the day off work (could have pulled a sickie and WOULD have back in the drinking days) -- nope --- JUST.DIDN'T.GO..... to anything for best part of a year -- and even then - I lay down MY rules --- ONE HOUR (or whatever sounded ok-ish) and an escape route...

Didn't WANT to feel 'different' 'left out' - etc etc.... so WHY would I put myself there...


but Arsey --- THAT WAS JUST ME...... okay???!!!!

[Guitarista]

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and even then - I lay down MY rules --- ONE HOUR (or whatever sounded ok-ish) and an escape route...

Hiya Molly RC and gang.

I agree big time with this strategy Molly. I've gotta have my own transport for if/when i start to feel anxious or even bored. Arrive fashionably late, leave early like an international man of mystery..........my rules, my transport. Well done on 26 days Mr RC!

[starty]

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Morning all,

Sorry about the son's job Jc. Redundancy can be such a blessing especially if you are young. I hope it is for him. I was old and it was still a blessing

I agree with the avoidance RC. That is what I would do if it in any way makes you doubt or shakey about it. Just not worth it. I have a party and some meals out and a funeral coming up and am making sure I am designated driver for each so can leave when I please.

Day 32 here and very grateful. Even though I never really got pissed in my last foray's my mental health was absolutely shot. That was the most scary thing. I was depressed EVERY day and couldnt see the point of anything. I would rather be totally antisocial than ever go through that again.

[RunningCourage]

Re: Join the Army Against Alcohol-February 2018

Morning troopers.

Thank you Molls, Mr G, Starty on your thoughts - as ever always appreciated. You are right, Molls, I am taking this one day at a time - or a few days, even. (Jan done, looking forward to Day 30... then to another wee milestone etc..) Just now the strategy is simply - i will have the car, and I am running the next day (nobody needs to know the race is not until 2pm). The fact is, nobody will care. It's not as if I will be the only one not drinking - there is another teacher who doesn't / VERY rarely drinks, (I think due to diabetes? He used to enjoy a swally but in all the time I've known him he's been pretty much a non-drinker. I think he had 1 beer at his 50th last year.) So there is a plan... but it does feel like white knuckling, even if only there for an hour.

On the upside - it's... FRIDAY! CANNOT wait until the bell goes at 3pm

Have a top day troops.
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[mollyka]

Re: Join the Army Against Alcohol-February 2018

I was just remembering something there when you said you never really got pissed last time round starty - neither did I - drinking had become more of a chore than an enjoyment - didn't even really want to drink - it was weird - however I knew that memory would be dangerous for me ( didn't drink that much - didn't get pissed etc) so when relaying my quantities and frequency of drinking i over inflated them both to the doc - he queried me deeply about it ( prolly thought I'd be dead if I had that much) and we had a great laugh together afterwards - he said i was the only person he ever met who exaggerated upwards!!!!

That did work for me tho - otherwise without ANY doubt I would have been heading down the ' I wasn't that bad' route 6 months down the road - also proved to myself that I wasn't looking for an out

[JackieClaire]

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Bugger that jacks - but I'm sure he'll waltz into as good or better with all his experience ? Don't be letting them sprogs worry you so much - they are all growed up and can sort out those worries just like you did when you were their age! I refuse to get sucked in anymore - yes they can have a (temporary) roof over their heads but beyond that?? Nope - and it WILL be sorted xxx

Yes arsey just my kind of day!! Looking forward to it!

That's one thing I don't have ........them camping upstairs. I'm not so much worried about the S&H just it seems so unfair that he just about turned cartwheels to keep that outlet open.........I suppose head office just sees till receipts. He'll get a good reduncancy pay out so he is chucking round ideas of starting up on his own...........we'll see. His GF is now fully qualified and on a blooming good salary so its not the money. Anyhoo it is what it is.
Funnily enough I slept better last night than I have done in months.

Arsey, an hour is more than enough. Its an oldie but a goodie..........arrive late...........leave early.

Must go, crochet class awaits.

[starty]

Re: Join the Army Against Alcohol-February 2018

I was just remembering something there when you said you never really got pissed last time round starty - neither did I - drinking had become more of a chore than an enjoyment - didn't even really want to drink - it was weird - however I knew that memory would be dangerous for me ( didn't drink that much - didn't get pissed etc) so when relaying my quantities and frequency of drinking i over inflated them both to the doc - he queried me deeply about it ( prolly thought I'd be dead if I had that much) and we had a great laugh together afterwards - he said i was the only person he ever met who exaggerated upwards!!!!

That did work for me tho - otherwise without ANY doubt I would have been heading down the ' I wasn't that bad' route 6 months down the road - also proved to myself that I wasn't looking for an out

Ha ha about you and your doc Oh I have no doubts how bad I was. Sneaky glass at 5am, then again at lunchtime. Just cos I dint get pissed didnt mean there was not a lot of mental and physical damage being done.

[mollyka]

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Ha ha about you and your doc Oh I have no doubts how bad I was. Sneaky glass at 5am, then again at lunchtime. Just cos I dint get pissed didnt mean there was not a lot of mental and physical damage being done.

d'ya know - I like to think my recovery is pretty good... I have worked hard on it --- BUT.... I (and again - I'm only talking about ME!!) find sometimes even the smallest incidental remark passed can just implant in my head.. and if I let it roll... I dunno I fear that it literally could be like a snowball.. I'll give you a 'for example' --- YONKS ago Joe and I were talking about folks dying and how we'd react in certain circumstances... can't remember how it came up but Joe said something (jokingly) about how he'd go on the piss if I died and he'd be oblivious or something.... I just said casually 'ah well I won't be doing that anyways' - and he looked at me nearly puzzled and said 'would you not?' - and it was a weird reaction I had to that.. it was like he'd given me 'permission' to drink or something...... now don't be worrying - I'm all over it... but IT WAS A BIT WEIRD --
so yeah I think 'wording' can be very important... dunno if you get my drift...

[JackieClaire]

Re: Join the Army Against Alcohol-February 2018

Evening.
Like a blooming roller coaster in this house..........Jenny's just found out she's got the job :congratulatory:

[RunningCourage]

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Evening folks

Evening.
Like a blooming roller coaster in this house..........Jenny's just found out she's got the job :congratulatory:

:yay: Bloomin' well done there!

Quick shoot in and out again - gotta go read awhile (otherwise I'll feel guilty for having done NADA since getting home!), bacinabit -

[JackieClaire]

Re: Join the Army Against Alcohol-February 2018

Evening folks

:yay: Bloomin' well done there!

Quick shoot in and out again - gotta go read awhile (otherwise I'll feel guilty for having done NADA since getting home!), bacinabit -

Thank you.

You survived the day/afternoon :thumbsup: Is it your half term up there?

[RunningCourage]

Re: Join the Army Against Alcohol-February 2018

Half term is next weekend. Kids at our school get an extra 5 (yes, 5) days off due to the move into the new school. Us teacher-slaves gotta do the moving/unpacking ...:cuss:

[mollyka]

Re: Join the Army Against Alcohol-February 2018

Evening from the ULTIMATE babysitter.. I Iz amazing haha!!! crikey babies are like really the bossers of the world aren't they!! Anyway - Mine's (Éabha) asleep and now poor Owen is walking the floor with Tilly... wouldn't go back there for all the tea in China...

Nice one Jenny.. great news.. so now - going to watch Silent Witness then orf to bed.. goodnight lovelies - working tomorrow so need some beauty sleep xxx

[JackieClaire]

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If its this weeks SW.............its really good. Got as confused as hell at the first two eps.