One Step at a Time. . . . February 2018

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time. . . . February 2018

Just a thought. I had better success when I did the roll call every morning. Don't know if it will help you but it is a thought.

[bird]

Re: One Step at a Time. . . . February 2018

Aww AG, that sucks. It seems like we are just temporarily insane when the urge hits. I was listening to a podcast at work, and the lady was saying we look at our slips in a negative way, when we should be thinking something like...well, in 2017 I was 47% sober. Compared to maybe 2016 with 0% or whatever. It is big. And good for coming right back next day....so very glad to be home from work. Very tired though and just sitting and reading some....Nora, idk what the roll call is...well, guess I will watch a bit of tube....b

[Lizann]

Re: One Step at a Time. . . . February 2018

AG :hug:. I don't know why it's so hard, either. Just keep coming back. Any day without al is a success! I like the idea of looking at the year in percentages, like bird say. I was, for awhile, marking the calendar on the days that I drank and it was actually less than I thought. Those sober days really do add up. Please just don't stop trying. Do whatever you need to do to stay sober. Are there meetings in your area you could attend? I know there's a ton of AA meetings and I don't know if that's your thing, but bird mentions women for sobriety. I found a meeting one town away. They meet once evening a week. It's just women and it's so upbeat and positive. I have met a lot of wonderful women who are in the same boat. Just a thought.

Bird I have not tried the women for sobriety on line meetings. I am glad you are here with us, though.

Nora, i saw the picture of your moms things. That is a lot of stuff. Can I ask what your plan is for all of that? Would you get a storage unit? Has your mom asked about it yet?

Rusty, how are you holding up? I think I will look up that book too. I just never seem to be able to stay awake when I finally sit down to read!
If I'm not mistaken, you have a birthday coming up? Any plans yet!

Wishing you all a great AF night.

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time. . . . February 2018

Bird - how interesting - I totally agree with looking at it in a positive light. I should start listening to some of the podcasts. Thanks for that.
Oh the roll call is in the 'Just Starting Out' section and it's called Newbies Nest Roll Call. Each day, people log in and post what day number it is for them. For some reason that really helped me be focused. It was just part of my sobriety routine. Whether it was me just being stubborn and refusing to have to post Day 1 again or what? I don't know but it worked.

AG - how you feeling? You able to stay AF today? How did it go with your family since you drank?

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time. . . . February 2018

Took me so long to write my last post that I thought I better start a new one. LOL

Liz - That's nice that you found a good meeting. I did like a women's meeting that I attended but I am just too shy. I would enjoy it but the anxiety I would get was just too much.
Oh - that picture you saw of my junk is actually full of sentimental stuff. So, I am picking a box at a time and sorting it - will offer the majority to Mom's grandkids, she has 4 grandkids and 9+ great grandkids. But, I have lots of pictures to go thru that I plan to send out and have converted to digital. Each family will get a disk.
It's a huge job and it wasn't going to get done unless I got the stuff down here. :sad: Mom has not noticed any of it. Of course, she doesn't see out on the patio but the grandfather's clock is in here and the dresser in her room. Hasn't noticed/mentioned. She loves her chair that I brought from up there but she can't get up from it without help.

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time. . . . February 2018

Rusty - how is it going with your mom's move? Are things getting taken care of? How are YOU doing?? :hug:
I still haven't started that book. Hopefully tonight.

Bird - did dd get her med? Is she feeling better?

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time. . . . February 2018

Pauly - how is the baby doing? We thought that the kids were going to find out the sex today but no ultrasound until March 8. This was their first 'official' dr visit so they had their hopes up. LOL I said that is ok - we'll be surprised in another month.

[actiongirl46]

Re: One Step at a Time. . . . February 2018

Greetings! Thank you all for your support, I appreciate it.

Yes, AF today. There is no wine in the house and 3 things of ice cream :egad: Hubs was gone last night taking our oldest son on a college visit so that is good. I do not need his energy in my head right now because it will lead me to the feck its. I want this for me. I went to a neighbor's party, I probably should have stayed home. Anyway, its done now.

I need to work on a better plan, especially for after work and the weekends. LOL, or in other words, any time that I have free time. What works for you when you walk in the house after work? I am so stressed and hyped up from my day.

Nora, you are so good to your mom. I'm glad she is content, even if she doesn't remember her things.

Liz, thanks for the tip on the meetings. I looked for AA but didn't see anything that was open at the right time. I can try that other group, good idea.

Bird, temporarily insane is very accurate. Sigh.

I'm here. Today was an AF day. Now to tackle tomorrow. Onward!!

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time. . . . February 2018

AG - It is hard because of all our triggers are still around. But, try to be a little selfish. Take time for YOU - to check in here on MWO or other supports. To go in your room and be ALONE for 30 minutes, to lay on your yoga mat and meditate for a few minutes. Some days are going to be harder than others so just grab and hold on. It's a bumpy road but oh it is so worth it. :hug:

[actiongirl46]

Re: One Step at a Time. . . . February 2018

Thank you Nora. I can see from all of your and many other AF lives that it is worth it.

Just checking in this morning. I'm also posting in Roll Call. Have a good Tuesday Steppers and I'll see you later!

[bird]

Re: One Step at a Time. . . . February 2018

Hi all,
Well have a tremendous headache this morn. Think it is from the amount of sugar I ate after work yest. It is sort of my go to when I want a beer. I need to stop it though, it makes me almost as sick feeling. Dreading going to work. Getting ready for work is kind of a pain in the ass to me lately. Having to make my lunch and get dressed. Seems easy enough but it is just so blah to me anymore. I sit here until the last minute, and am almost always late no matter how early I get up. Can you tell I don't like going to work yet :egad:....so far I have been up for 2 hours and have only made my tea for tonight.........Lizann, that is nice you have a womens meetup nearby. There is only AA here, and I can't deal with that......Nora, thanks for explaining roll call...maybe I will try it. That is a huge project, dealing with pictures. Good idea about the disks. I am thinking of making some hardback photobooks for my kids, I saw advertised. Looks easy enough and not to expensive........AG, I have a lot of ice cream too. It gets me through the hard times sometimes. Ah, those college visits. I found that very exciting for my kids.....well, I better get started on my day....b

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time. . . . February 2018

Insurance has stopped hospice. Mom is stable. Double edged sword......wonderful she us stable but she is stable because of hospice.
Oh well. If she starts declining, hospice will be available again.

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time. . . . February 2018

Hi Bird - how's the headache? I get you with the sugar. Still can be an issue with me for sure. Know what you mean about dreading going to work. Some mornings I just lay there and wonder how can I do it again today?

AG - How's it going today? Feeling any better?

How's everyone doing today? Things ok here. Mom went to bed early, hubby is in our room reading so I have a couple of minutes of peace & quiet :victorious:

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time. . . . February 2018

Liz - is everything ok in your world? When is hubby & son leaving for their trip? I meant to write it down and I didn't.

Rusty - how is everything with you? I meant to write down what day your Mom's move was and I forgot. But, I'm thinking of you all.

Pauly - how is the baby? Are they keeping him pretty much close to home now? So many people are sick around here that I wouldn't want to take a baby out.

To Glassie, NS, Dill, Cowboy, Mr V and everyone else that I am forgetting to mention - here is a big hug :sendflowers:

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time. . . . February 2018

I hope that the Roll Call helps you Bird & AG, if you decide to use it. I don't know what it was about it but the daily posting in Roll Call was an important tool for me.

This is a post I made November 3, 2015