Join up! Army against the grog!!! March 2018

[littlepinkcat]

Re: Join up! Army against the grog!!! March 2018

i'd like to meditate for most of the day if i didn't work

[satz123]

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Funny you should ask RC - he's just driven home having been drinking ....... first time in 3 weeks. FFS !!
Said he went to Aftercare - then drank ......................
Now he's talking about moving out because we confronted him - so I said "off you go" .................

[IamMary]

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Ah SHITE Satz...

Woke up this morning with a really dry mouth. For a split second I felt that heavy weight on waking. Even that second gave me shudders..

Leaba, Night.

[NoraC]

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Ah Satz - my heart hurts for you. I wish that I had advice. I do have arms to give you a hug and a shoulder for you to cry on though. :hug: :sad: I am sorry that you are having to go thru this with DS.

[mollyka]

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Whats there to say benjy - just you're ALL in the grip of his alcoholism - he may have to go to save yours and MrS's sanity - where is he moving to tho?

[mollyka]

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A wake up call i had maybe a year before I surrendered - was fed up to the back teeth of Joe and his ultimatums - decided I would get a little apt. be able to live as I wanted to live - had it all worked out - kids could visit in my little place and all - until I did the sums - yeah I could afford a small place but there'd be nothing left for 'enjoyment' ( wine!) Pointless

[rustop59]

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Ahh Satz :hug: so sorry, it’s a roller coaster. Put yourself first that’s all you can do. Hi everyone else. Still loads of snow here so going to attempt to take doggies on walk but it will have to be on road, doubt if I could get near woods. Novelty has worn off at this stage

[mollyka]

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Ahh Satz :hug: so sorry, it’s a roller coaster. Put yourself first that’s all you can do. Hi everyone else. Still loads of snow here so going to attempt to take doggies on walk but it will have to be on road, doubt if I could get near woods. Novelty has worn off at this stage

I'm so over the snow - FOREVER - and we got shag all here in north Dublin...
Off to doctor - an infection I haven't been able to shift for nigh on a month -- exhausted.... need HELP!!!! haha - I'll survive! come and talk to us Benjy - it's not easy pet xxx

[satz123]

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Morning gang.
Thanks for the great support as always.
Molls all I can say is if he has a plan and wants to move out - he can go. I will not stop him 'cos this is like a dark cloud over our heads every day. watching ..... watching ..... half afraid to leave the house.
All I can hope is that when he wakes he will have that horrible feeling Mary talks about and decide he prefers the un hungover feeling he's had for past 3 weeks.
For me it's a no-brainer ? I will NEVER forget the last time I 'took a break' and drank ........ it was horrible.

I'm hoping he can brush himself down & carry on and not let this turn into a binge.
Then if it doesn't turn into a binge - it may be worse. He'll think he can 'have a few' and get back to normal ...... :egad:

[Jude58]

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I'm so sorry satz. This must be taking its toll on you and your husband. You've given your son all of the tools that he needs to fix the problem, but he has to be willing to use them. As we all know, the desire to quit has to come from within.....that's the hardest part. As others have suggested, at this point you need to take care of yourself; there are just some things that we can't control, so you deal with them as best you can. :hug:

[satz123]

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He's up & mumbling about going in for a coke last night to see the end of the Liverpool match after Aftercare and having beer instead.
Says he's back on the wagon today.
OK that's all the time I'm giving him for now ......

Back to frivolous - I lost 3lbs during the snow-in. Making & eating my own coconut flour bread. It's SOOOOOOO filling ...... must be the eggs. But I found myself longing for something green & fresh.
Not sure if it's very good for you though. Seems VERY dense.

Thoughts ?
NS are you there ????

[JackieClaire]

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[MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION]........good lass............that's all the time you need to give him.


Back from the dentist about half an hour ago...........have a check up every three months now as I've got vulnerable gums.........20 min appointment come out after an hour. Tiny filling here, another one there and a good old poke around a front tooth's root......so back again in 3 months as it looks like the root split and the tooth may have to come out ..........I could weep.

[JackieClaire]

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[MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION]...........sorry phone rang.......just had a thought do they have any so-called sober houses he could move into?

[mollyka]

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[MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION]........good lass............that's all the time you need to give him.


Back from the dentist about half an hour ago...........have a check up every three months now as I've got vulnerable gums.........20 min appointment come out after an hour. Tiny filling here, another one there and a good old poke around a front tooth's root......so back again in 3 months as it looks like the root split and the tooth may have to come out ..........I could weep.

oh feckity feck as you would say yourself - that's indeed poxy... it's the cigarettes maybe? My dentist told me my gums were gobsmackingly good considering I had been a smoker - but then I only smoked for 4-5 years in my adult life so.... look if it happens it happens - and here's a thought - why don't you get an implant if necessary from the ex-cigarette money? I've never regretted the couple I got - I couldn't bear to have not my own teeth....

[MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION]...........sorry phone rang.......just had a thought do they have any so-called sober houses he could move into?

I know that that treatment centre had sort of halfway house - or secondary care as they called it - but whereas they were free if you had no income obviously you had to be committed to total sobriety - and usually you went directly to one from the treatment centre. A good thought tho..

I think you're right Benjy - let him try and get a plan - he's still addled with the drink even after 3 weeks - he probably thinks you and MrS are just putting obstacles in the way - but that ultimately he can carry on as he is - his 'sobriety' is every bit as bad imo as if he was drinking all the time - because you don't know the day nor the hour.. like yesterday - NO ONE should have to live like that - you have reared your kids - himself is retired and at our age - life should be our own - he has no business making you live like that at your age - and I don't mean that in a smart alec way - I'm the same age - we deserve peace now - the chaos should be long over -

[satz123]

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[MENTION=9094]satz123[/MENTION]........good lass............that's all the time you need to give him.


Back from the dentist about half an hour ago...........have a check up every three months now as I've got vulnerable gums.........20 min appointment come out after an hour. Tiny filling here, another one there and a good old poke around a front tooth's root......so back again in 3 months as it looks like the root split and the tooth may have to come out ..........I could weep.

Edit : Sorry Jacks I didn't read properly. Poor thing - yes get an implant like Molls says and be like yer man up there
A few days in Budapest - you'd be sorted :thumbsup: