Join up! Army against the grog!!! March 2018

[stirly-girly]

Re: Join up! Army against the grog!!! March 2018

Count me in JC, unless I am working that weekend in MY NEW JOB!!
Yep I got it, a far better role in management, better rewards and hopefully a little more respect.

Good morning Army!!

FANTASTIC NEWS Tabbers! You must be over the moon! It just shows what sobriety can do for us - it's like a whole new world of possibilities has opened up because we are free!! Am smiling all over my face here!!

Jackie - I wish I could join you in October. You never know - maybe I'll get over my claustrophobia enough by then to give it a shot. Would love to meet up with you and the Irish contingent! Best of luck with the dental work.

Molls - you were either up very late or very early when you made your post. Hope you got some rest and have a productive day at work.

HELLO!! to all the other troopers - will try to drop by more often. This working for a living cuts into my free time!!!!

Have a great day ARMY!!!

[rustop59]

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Good morning. 🌞☀️😃 what a lovely way to start the day, well done Tabs, knew you would do it. That’s my daughters birthday JC so not 100% sure what will be happening but if I’m around count me in. Hoping to get a walk in today and then hair. Catch you all later.

[Tabbers (a.k.a. KTAB)]

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Ah thanks ladies, you are all too kind. I suppose what it boils down to if something is making you unhappy and it is in your power to make a change you owe it to yourself to take that step, even if it is leap of faith sometimes. We can apply this to so many parts of our lives, not least the grog.

FANTASTIC Tabbers. Thrilled for you! When do you start? Hows the commute?

Ah sure count me in too JC.. :happy2:

Need to hand in my notice this morning, my new employers need me to start asap but as I told them I don't want to leave my current boss in the lurch despite everything, so we will agree a date this morning, unless he kicks me out on the spot that is!

It is only about 20 mins down the motorway off peak so I suppose double that in rush hour.

[satz123]

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Morning troopers.
:hyper: Well done Tabberooney - and you thought you were past it !! HELL NO !!!!!
And you can't be in any doubt that you would not have gotten it had you still been drinking daily ?

My mother has a suspected diagnosis of IPF - a progressive lung disease and kidney dysfunction.
Not sure yet what the implications of all that are. Probably not good at age 87.

A very wise friend has suggested I write an 'old fashioned' letter to young Satz to tell him exactly how his drinking is affecting me, his Dad & his sister.
I'll start with me and let them add to it.

[mollyka]

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Morning Rusters - Stirls - Jackie - have a good day at work - that's really super Tabs - and I bet there's a teenchy weenchy little part of yer brain looking forward to handing in your notice - yer man WELL knows he was taking advantage - and now - serves him right - he's losing a good guy.. hope the new job is super-duper...

Your poor mum Benjy -- dunno anything about that which they speak of.. sometimes age is an advantage to ailments cos our cells aren't multiplying any more - that's the case with cancer anyway - maybe it's a good thing for her - I don't know - but I just hope she's not in pain or uncomfortable... life's a bitch really - one puts in a good 80-90 years - rearing families - working and earning to support our families and then --- just doesn't seem fair.

When I was in the treatment centre there was a 'family day' every Wed (you'd be familiar with that I'm sure) when one or all or some of the family come down and speak openly of the effect the inmates addiction had on them - the family - and yes of course it was very close to the bone sometimes - but Jilly was living in Canada at that time so they asked her to send an email laying out how she felt -- my god it was like a bombshell - and in honesty it wasn't that brutal - I thought she let me off quite lightly tbh - but to see it there in words - in writing - I must have read and re-read hundreds of times - it is still in a drawer beside my bed.. it had a huge impact on me - the words never go away because they are there in hard copy -- dunno if it will help young Satz at all - BUT -- it won't do any harm - and don't pull any punches would be my advice - the bottom line being that you love him but hate his addiction -- he needs to see that there is a separation - or that there can be.. and the loving young man will be still there -- give it a go -- what harm ????

Edit: -- sometimes it's the little things that stick in your mind - the whole BIG picture is just too big maybe - but as I'm sure I've told you dozens of times - the one thing that struck me like a hammer blow was the time near the end of my drinking that Joe told me he cried himself to sleep more times than he could count -- this is/was a big tough Irish man - very little apparent softness about him - always seemed invulnerable to everything -- and I HAD CAUSED THAT TO HAPPEN --- actually - I'm not sure- but I don't think I ever drank again after that - I may have been beginning my sober life when he said it -- and it would be VERY hard to lift that glass to my lips with that thought in my head......

[Jude58]

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That's great news tabbers!!!

[paulywogg]

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Hello Army,just wanted to say Congrats Tabbers! that's great news! Molly that post was nice,I've made my poor hubs cry too,god that look of disappointment on his face haunts me Satz,sorry about your mum,waves to all and have a great day all

[anon]

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Fabulous news Tabbers hope you are both pleased and proud of yourself.
Great post Molly although my husband never got upset about my drinking but did about my non drinking--I don't think he ever realised the extent of my alcohol consumption.
Satz so sorry to hear about your Mother such a hard time especially when dealing with your son. The letter sounds like a good plan
Hiya Stirly,Pauly, Mary, Jackie,Rusty,Jude,Rustop etc.
Really struggling with tiredness Spent 3 days at the weekend hiking in the Lake District then came home to two long runs. I must learn to respect my body more.
Loved the Dublin meet ups The airport hotel is ace!

[Crusader]

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Morning Army...day 28 for me.

Just a quick peak in. Good for you, Tabbers. Your situation reminds me of a quote, "Action will paralyze fear each and every time." -Trent Steele

Molls and JC, I know a lot about implants and not enough bone if you have any questions. That's my latest nine months of surgery and work in my mouth. It's only my bottom jaw I've undergone surgery and work on. I have another appointment next week as i have some sensitivity in one of the implants. I have to have a more prolonged procedure on the top, but I am not doing that right now. It's been too rough of a year. I'm worn out from it all. In the states you'll get different opinions from different medical places. I was told there is no help for years until about a year and a half ago when I saw a new oral surgeon. He said there are specialists who do this kind of surgery. I found two people who I've worked with. It may have been a bit easier had hell not come to town during that period. So much to that story, but no need to go into it here.

Satz, hugs to you. Your situation pulls on my heart strings. Both your mom and your child...I lost both at once. Think hard about why you think your child is drinking so much. You know him better than anyone. Then process your plan toward helping to solve that issue. He is his own person and personality, so people will have all kinds of advice, but in your heart, you'll be best to know which is the one with the most likely good outcome. There was mental illness or personality disorder involved with mine. I hope you get to a solution. More hugs.

Have a good day, all.

[RunningCourage]

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Quickie. So to speak.

Congrats Tabbers :thumbsups: Awesome news.

Sorry to hear about yer ma, Satz - not easy on top of with what's happening with the Young 'un. And a letter... well I think it could be another wee nudge in getting him to better understand the implications of his actions on those around him, not just him.

Ach - a wee meet up! Mind that one back in 2013, a grand way to spend a birthday

Right, need to head back into work mode... typically on line and time seems to speed up...

Big waves to you all

Laters -

[JackieClaire]

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Crikey, Arsey,was that 5 years ago ???..:egad:.......time flies

I just recall the look of disappointment in Mr JC's eyes when he'd come home after I'd sworn I wouldn't drink and I'd be three sheets to the wind when he walked in the door. Heartbreaking.

Sounds good to me the letter, Satz.

The AA meeting today at work was heaving.......it was one of the lass's 18th sober birthday.......couldn't get moved in the room. Long chat with one of the trustees about fundraising........big hug of the chair of the trustees (always get a hug and tell him he's my future husband).......he's coming up 42 years sober.

[MENTION=5052]anon[/MENTION],which one's the airport hotel?

[MENTION=11158]stirly-girly[/MENTION].......go on, give it a go. An international meet-up.

[MENTION=24140]Crusader[/MENTION]:hug:.......I'm so sorry for your losses.

[mollyka]

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Evening! Just home! May tap your expertise re. the implants at a later date Tom - at the mo. I'm letting the root canal settle and see what Nick comes back with re. the sinus lift.. ooohhh I'm tired.com

[anon]

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JC I stayed at that hotel twice. Remember with Panno? You and Mr JC had a suite . Will look it up now!

[anon]

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Holiday inn express pantry cheapest (free shuttle) from airport. When are you going?

[JackieClaire]

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JC I stayed at that hotel twice. Remember with Panno? You and Mr JC had a suite . Will look it up now!

Oh yes.......can't for the life of me remember the name. I'll have to do one of my big thinks.

Holiday inn express pantry cheapest (free shuttle) from airport. When are you going?

6th to 8th Oct.