One Step at a Time - March 2018

[Crusader]

Re: One Step at a Time - March 2018

Thank you, [MENTION=9757]NoraC[/MENTION]. No hurry, I'll wait to see how it goes for you and your husband. Different things work for different people, but it's always nice to have someone's experience in the knowledge box. We have a store about fifteen miles away where I can purchase some and talk to people who should be familiar with the products.

Have a great Friday, all.

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - March 2018

Nope - no Fridayitis. I'm glad to be home. Just going to do some chores (or not) and chill.

Crusader - I am trying to have an open mind about the CBD. But, so far I haven't noticed any improvement in the pain or the sleep. I do think that it might have helped with the anxiety.
I plan on taking it daily for a few weeks. I will definitely let you know if we start showing any benefits.

What are the exciting plans for this weekend??

[Lizann]

Re: One Step at a Time - March 2018

Hey guys. So glad it's Friday. Tomorrow is my dads birthday. He'll be 89. We are taking him out to lunch on Sunday after church. No other plans, really. Does anyone celebrate St. PAtricks day. We never have, not even corned beef at my house. I did buy Irish soda bread, because it's fresh baked and still warm. Yummy!!!
I look forward to the gab fest this weekend. I'm feeling like the blanket fort tonight. Sweet dreams!

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - March 2018

Blankie fort is up and ready Liz

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - March 2018

No - we've never celebrated St Patrick's Day. I remember my Mom making corned beef & cabbage for my dad every year though.
I hope that your Dad has a happy birthday, Liz.

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - March 2018

Did I tell you that I found Mom on Hulu? Starting at Season 1.

[Rusty]

Re: One Step at a Time - March 2018

Good Morning, Steppers!

A warm welcome to [MENTION=24140]Crusader[/MENTION]!:welcome:

Nora-I think it's so cute that you found your mom on Hulu! I wouldn't even know how to do that!

Liz-I am delighted that you have better work hours...where you don't have to get up so early. Since the time change, I have found that setting the alarm clock for 4:00 AM is NO BUENO! I feel like I need that extra hour of sleep every day. Logan is absolutely adorable and I am so happy that you are enjoying being a grandma.
[MENTION=2634]bird[/MENTION]-when do you think you will move into your friend's house?

Pauly-I hope you can get your sleep issues resolved soon. That's a bummer!

Big hellos to everyone else. I have my usual Saturday appts. and then I am off to my mom's....then to my sister's house for our annual St. Patrick's Day dinner. Tomorrow I will be taking my mom to church. So, these are my plans. :-)

Hope everyone here has a wonderful St. Patrick's Day!

[bird]

Re: One Step at a Time - March 2018

Hi all,
Well looking good outside maybe I will go to the park and walk and have a picnic...so last night I watched this Jason Vale show called Super juice me or something like that. He had 8 people on a 28 day juice diet. They had all sorts of problems which diminished greatly by the time it was over. I might give it a try. Would love to get off my asthma meds, especially the steroids.....so Rusty, I may not move into my friends house, but buy a different house instead. I can't get into it yet cuz of probate, but it is a real mess and will take me some time to get it ready for sale, or rent out...not sure yet. Have been house hunting online though...the cats have brought a dead mole in and are throwing it around. They catch them each night and leave them on the step hehe........so here is what I watch on Wed...Survivor. I love shows like that, or anything where people are getting through a tough time. ......Nora, good you found Mom on hulu. I think I saw it on amazon, not sure. And when the boss is away the employees will play haha..not really, but it is nice huh?.......Rusty, have a great St Pattys day dinner! Sounds like fun........everybody have a wonderful Saturday!....b

[Crusader]

Re: One Step at a Time - March 2018

Thank you, [MENTION=9757]NoraC[/MENTION]. I'll do some additional research on it today.

[actiongirl46]

Re: One Step at a Time - March 2018

Good morning Steppers! Nora, I really liked your quote to start the month. Very much needed here. I am not doing that great. Nothing earth shattering, just knowing I need to stop this madness but I can't seem to find my Day 1 AND stick to it. I usually come on here when I'm ready for a good go at it but today I just decided to come anyway. Any thoughts you have on how to stop my brain, after 4pm, from switching into "I'm not so bad" "I'll just have a few" "I need this to relax" mode would be appreciated.

[NoSugar]

Re: One Step at a Time - March 2018

Hi, [MENTION=21990]actiongirl46[/MENTION]
Those thoughts ARE going to pop up, no matter how much we wish they wouldn't, until you've given yourself enough time to break the cycle.
What worked for me was to finally make my decision about drinking with my "morning mind" and vow to ignore those late afternoon bad ideas. And they certainly came!
For me, eating helped a lot as I'd developed the habit of not eating for hours so that that first gulp was extra rewarding.
Also, I spent hours on here and reading about addiction, which all served to change the way I thought about drinking.
In a fairly short amount of time, the physical feeling of an absolute need to drink fades and over a longer period the psychological dependence lessens until is disappears.
If you stick with it, that will happen for you :hug:. NS

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - March 2018

Hello, hello. I slept in today! :yay: It was amazing. I woke up at 6:30 and went back to sleep until 10:30.

I went thru a box of my stuff I brought from Oregon. This one had the old bowls from my Mom's childhood in it. So, I was glad to find it. I feel like I finally accomplished something. :rotlf: But, one step at a time, I am getting thru these totes.

[NoraC]

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[MENTION=21990]actiongirl46[/MENTION] - good to see you. NoSugar had good points.

Any thoughts you have on how to stop my brain, after 4pm, from switching into "I'm not so bad" "I'll just have a few" "I need this to relax" mode would be appreciated.

This was hard but the reality of my situation was 'I WAS SO BAD' and 'I NEVER HAD A FEW' and 'IT MADE ME ANXIOUS BECAUSE OF ALL THE GUILT AND SELF LOATHING'.
That was truly my reality. And to be honest at the beginning when I was struggling to get thru each day without a drink, I would play over different episodes in my head.
Extremely Painful episodes that hurt to remember........
Hubby finding a bottle
Hubby crying
Son mentioning my drinking to me
Throwing up (on the carpet)
Shaking in the morning
Falling

I would replay one or several of the above episodes in it's entirety (the whole thing & how I felt) when I thought about taking a drink. :sad:

[bird]

Re: One Step at a Time - March 2018

A.G....here are some tools I use that have been helpful for me.
Keep food handy. Food that is easy to make or get to. Also V-8 juice.
Signed up for the 30 day alcohol experiment on This Naked Mind site.
Signed up for Belles 100 day sober challenge.
Listen to Annie Grace podcasts and Belle's podcasts...all the time
Go to the moderated chats on Women for Sobriety
Play mindless computer games and eat pretzels while doing it
Have plenty of substitute drinks handy...ie sparkling water
walk
text a friend who has been thru it
keep a journal
scream my head off when I want to drink hehe
think the drink through
Take vitamins...especially b complex...and also take L-glutamine
read as much sober literature as I can
stay on the boards when I have relapsed
b

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - March 2018

[MENTION=21990]actiongirl46[/MENTION] - how are you doing today?