One Step at a Time - April 2018

[NoraC]

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@techie - :huggers:great to see you. How are things going?

[bird]

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Nora:hug:....I do not think you have it the easiest. Taking care of your Mom is a huge task. And that clip was funny!

[Lizann]

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Just a quick post to let you guys Know I'm ok. I appreciate the encouraging words about Mark. I am happy for him, very happy and excited! Plus there'll be a trip to England in my near future, busy day at work, plus hubby and I walked Lucy and then did some shopping and had dinner. I'm having trouble keeping my eyes open. I promise to post more tomorrow. I love you all!

[NoraC]

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Thank you for checking in, Liz. :hug:

[Rusty]

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HELLOOOO!!

Nora-I laughed so hard at that clip...thanks!!:welldone: I agree with what [MENTION=2634]bird[/MENTION] said....you do NOT have it the easiest. You have it the hardest in my humble opinion. None of us here endures what you do on a daily basis. Your challenge of working more than full-time, being the caregiver for your disabled husband, AND taking care of your mom 24/7...I know I don't have the energy to be able to do that with your cheerful attitude and stamina day in and day out. I admire you on so many levels, and I think if you lived close to me, we would be very good friends. I can say that about everyone on this thread. I would probably develop a huge crush on [MENTION=11089]techie[/MENTION], though.:love:

Last night was the fundraising dinner for the Safe Drive program. The county tavern league offers free rides home to bar/restaurant patrons who are drunk. I think it's an excellent program, and I was invited by my dear friend who is a hard drinker and loves being around her hard-drinking friends. I made a donation to the program and my friend wanted me to sit with her and her other friends. My friend...I'll call her "Ann".....really wanted me to come but I just don't like being around drunken people anymore. They really get on my nerves. I lied to her and told her I couldn't come to the fundraiser because I had a family commitment. We only see each other about 4 times a year. I am not one of her regular drinking buddies because I don't drink anymore and because I travel so much. I go back and forth with this...she has been such a good friend in so many ways that I don't have the heart to tell her that she and her other friends bore me. They are bar flies. That's what they do. I HATE lying to her, but usually when she asks me to get together, I actually do have family commitments or I am out of town, working. It's easy to say no. I think a few people here like [MENTION=18725]NoSugar[/MENTION] hooks up with her drinking friends and then leaves when they start getting sloppy, and I would do that except "Ann" is usually trashed when I get there. Sometimes I feel like I should cut her off altogether. What do you guys think? Any opinions from my friends here would be welcome.:happy2:

Liz-so glad you are feeling better about Mark. Have you ever been to England? I LOVE LOVE LOVE England! You will, too. :-)

Did [MENTION=11089]techie[/MENTION] pop in???? I can't find his post!

Hi Glassie!

Hey Pauly, come out, come out, wherever you are!

[MENTION=2634]bird[/MENTION]-what are you up to today?

It's exercise...pick up mom...church....brunch...back to paperwork for me today. Mom's assisted living facility is on lockdown due to an outbreak of influenza.:sad:

Big HELLOOOSSS to anyone I missed. Happy AF Sunday!

[bird]

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Hi all,
Going out to the park in a bit. It rained all day yesterday and I spent all day packing. I found some maps of Colorado in a drawer, so those will come in handy on my trip. I love maps and have a lot of them. Sounds weird huh?...... [MENTION=1214]Rusty[/MENTION], I had a friend of many years that I had to drop. We had been good friends for over 30 years, but we just didn't see eye to eye on things anymore, and I realized that everytime I spoke with her she was making me angry. So, I just kinda let it drift off, and finally had to tell her, when she wouldn't let go. It was a tough decision, which I mulled over for a couple years......she wasn't a drinker though...I pretty much dropped all my drinking friends except one or two, when I had kids. One of them was the one who died recently, so I have one left and she lives in Colorado. I will be visiting her, but not drinking. She is having a fit for us to get drunk together, but I am not ruining my vacation by being numbed out and hungover. Anyway....when I was thinking of letting my friend go, I would make lists, what did I like about her, what I didn't like etc........so, off to start my day..b

[Lizann]

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Good morning everyone! Slept like a log. Had a little trouble actually drifting off because of restless legs. Anyone else have this problem? My sister and dad have it really bad, I only suffer from it occasionally. I wore if it had anything to do with how much I walked?
[MENTION=1214]Rusty[/MENTION], can you make arrangements to meet her for coffee or lunch instead of evening activities? I like birds idea about making a pro/con list. Eventually she'll probably get tired of being turned down, the problem may resolve itself. I hope your mom doesn't get the flu. I was wondering what exactly a lockdown entails?
[MENTION=2634]bird[/MENTION] I enjoy maps too. Kids these days don't even know how to read one! My oldest daughter, back in the day, was able to navigate her dad around a huge traffic jam using a map! She's brilliant that one! Your seem quite calm and organized about packing up, I'd be so overwhelmed I wouldn't know where to start! weve accumulated so much stuff. We've been in this house for 32 years this month. I actually think about down sizing, it would be hard to leave this "home". I don't do well with change.
[MENTION=5628]Nora[/MENTION], I am agreement with the others, I don't think you have it easy at all. Taking care of your mom and working full time, it isn't easy, I'm sure. You never complain, though and I aspire to be more like you!

@Glass Half Empty, thanks for sharing your story about your sons! I am hopeful that the kids will come back, but I don't know. CJ and Joe seem content for now. I wonder if Mark will find a girl there. He said it is his plan to come back after a year, we shall see. I am so sad for Erin, both her siblings are not close by. Erin is particularly close with Mark. Can't wait to see how this all unfolds. Will you let us know what happens with your work? Whatever, I hope your load gets a bit easier and manageable?
[MENTION=17650]paulywogg[/MENTION], hope everything is ok by you.

Off to get ready for church, then we will take the kids out to celebrate hubby's birthday. Logan is now pulling himself up to standing, the little stinker! Erin said he was unimpressed with their little trip to D.C..
Have a great AF Sunday"

[NoraC]

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birth e-mail.jpg I totally want to do this for my grandchild

[NoraC]

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How is everyone doing? I have been thinking of all of you today quite a bit. So much going on with everyone and I just wish that we all lived next door to each other and be best friends like Rusty said. :heartbeat:

This is going to be one of my short and numerous posts day. LOL I keep getting interrupted. Mom is having another off day. Asked me a little bit ago if hubby & I were a couple. Don't think she knows who we are. Asked me how many children I have and if she has ever met my son. :sad:

Liz - I'm sorry that you have restless leg. I have not talked to the Dr yet but I plan on it. That is one of the problems I have with my legs with the fibromyalgia. It can really bug me when I'm having a flare up - already hurting in my legs and then that aspect starts up.
I've been thinking about Mark. I'm happy for him. Sad for you though. :hug: You will be able to have a fabulous trip to England.I'm glad that you can come here and talk to us. I feel like you all are the only ones that really understand me.

Rusty - does the lockdown mean that your Mom can't leave to go to Church? Or is it just their common areas that are closed?
Here are my 2 cents regarding your friend. Try telling her that you would enjoy doing something that doesn't involve alcohol. Be hnest and say that it just doesn't interest you anymore and would prefer to do something else. Just a thought - see if she'll go for that. I'm tired of forcing myself to do things that I don't want to do. We all have so many things that we HAVE to do that when it's something like this, I'm more inclined to say nope.

[NoraC]

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I got up about 6:00 this morning. Hubby and I went to 7-Eleven for ice. Then hubby wanted Del Taco so we got that. About 1:00 pm, I went to the freezer to fill up my cup. Oh yes - the ice is in the car. :rotlf: Thankfully, he had put it in an insulated bag so it wasn't completely melted.
I swear, I don't which one of us is worse!

[NoraC]

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Bird - really cool that you found the maps. I am terrible at direction so a map was always a necessity to me.
I understand what you are saying about giving up a friend. I think we have to decide to be with people that are good for us. And avoid all the negative energy. At least, that is helping me.
I'm really glad that you are being proactive about your friend wanting to get drunk with you. Now that you know, you can be prepared. Because, it is awful to spend a vacation hungover. I never want to do that again.

[NoraC]

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Pauly - you are a special woman, my friend. You are going to find your way. I have no doubt. :hug:

Son & DIL are stopping by this afternoon. He still gets some mail here and he wants to pick it up. We don't see them very much anymore so it will be nice to see them.
Well - looks like Mom fell asleep with food in her mouth. Catch you all later.

[NoraC]

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It is supposed to be 94 degrees here tomorrow! Can you believe it. I was taking to my friend today and they still have snow. I have a feeling that we won't be having green lawns for long anymore. We are still waiting for the kids to show up. I'm so lazy this afternoon. Hubby made cookies and I barely helped. I did manage to eat some though. :harhar:

[bird]

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Hi all,
Had an ok day. Went out to the park and walked a lot. Ate a lot today. Went to Burger King and got hash browns and burritos. ......Nora, I have seen that thing about the email. A good idea, you could even start it now. I always take a lot of pics, and when my kids graduated hs I made them a nice video fron pre k to grad...turned out great. Sorry your Mom is forgetting. It must be tough. I am wondering if I should go visit my biological mom soon. She is forgetting some. We are not close and don't talk on the phone but once in a blue moon. I write her once a month and she sends me newspapers from where she lives. She is 81 I think....Liz, nice your dd1 is good with maps. They are fun to look at...exciting that Logan is pulling up.......wonder if I will be able to deal with work tomorrow. I know all the bigwigs are down at a fly-in so at least there is that. I just need to get up and go. Maybe work a few more weeks.........b

[bird]

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xpost Nora! 94!!!omg